Money Dance

I think they are awkward and I would NEVER consider doing one; however, it is a custom in some cultures, and I would not knock it if it was a custom. I think it is a Polish tradition. Also, different regions of the US do them and others think they are tacky.

It seems to be a regional thing. My cousin in PR did it at her wedding, and people came prepared. I wouldn't do it, however, just because you're already giving us a gift... if you don't feel comfortable with it, though, skip it.

Get ready to be scorned for even asking. My dad brought a money tree to my attention (it was just a thought of his) I asked thoughts on here, and Oh my goodness. But, I've also decided to go with an advice tree. It is really up to you though. If that is something you and FH want to do or it is custom to you two, then do it. Least that will happen is no one will pitch in to your dance. I've been to and see plenty of weddings where people walk up to the bride and pin money on her dress while she has her daughter/father dance or while the first dance is going. Some people just might do it.

FH & I are uncomfortable dancing, much less dancing & requesting money to do so haha. Each to their own though really :]

I know it's a cultural tradition, but I find it gross.

We are doing one,but i can see how peeps may think its tacky..but i have never been to a wedding here that didnt do one....maybe i can come up with a twist on it like calling it a picture dance instead and have the photographer take our pics with he guests we dance with instead of money..i hate asking guests for money..but FH wants one.

But whatever we decide a big hell to the NO on having anyone pin anything on me..lol

I honestly do not know how much it is done here where I live. Thanks for your input ladies!

I dont know..now you got me really considering NOT doing it at all..all i can think about is someones booze breath in my face and sweaty palms all over my dress..its bad enough fh cant slow dance worth a whoot..all he knows is to go fast and keep going around in circles..at his sisters wedding we circled everyone about 5 times..haha...all i know is that if i do do it i will definitely need a few cocktails in me first!

My FH is Polish and his brother did it at his wedding. I planned on it because I thought it was fun! However, our wedding is byob and I have a feeling that if people know there is no bar, they will not be bringing cash.... and I think it would be more awkward if we do it and no one gets up because they have no money on them......

I'm leaning more towards the no as well. I definitely wouldn't let anyone pin anything to my dress! I paid too much for it to be ruined by pins! Heather I can just picture you two circling around everyone dancing! Haha

LOL Sara..i may have to kick him in the knee a few times to slow him up a bit..LOL..J/K

I reaaaallllly dont want to do one, but I'm half Nigerian, and apparently its a custom during their weddings. My mom is forcing me. She told me one of my cousins made $4000 during hers... its like a competition to see who can throw the most money. To me, it sounds like a strip club. And I'm afraid some of my non-African guests will all be sitting there like "WTF O.o"

For Italians it is expected as the tradition has deep cultural roots. Everyone contributed so the happy couple would not be wanting for anything during their first year. My grandfather was Italian so that is how I first heard of the tradition.

I have been to several weddings where there was a money dance and it was fine because people were ready for it. At other weddings though, of different cultures, it would have been considered tacky.

So the question really is this - are the people who are going to be at your reception expecting there to be a money dance? If so, then I say go for it!

Wow I had never heard of this until this discussion. oh the things I have learned on ww. gotta love it.. I understand culture but wow that is asking alot, just my opinion though..

Please, every wedding I've been to did it. I am from NY , my dad is from Jamaica and mom is from Alabama. They all did it. If done correctly it is a smash. Actually my pastor asked me if we were doing it. I asked if it done in MI he said yeah. I was going to do it anyway. I am afraid that my FFILS won't approve but I only see them once maybe twice a year so I don't care.

I don't think it is tacky at all. It is YOUR day. Have fun with it.

We didn't. In our family, nobody does it and I didn't want it.

We're going to have one because it's nice to have a little individual time during all the running around with people. Plus, my FSIL did one and used the cash towards some of the tips, which I never really thought of. I think they were able to tip their bartender (which they did not plan on doing since it was a cash bar, but he was pretty awesome), and they were able to give tips to the employees who kept up on the food during the buffett. So that was money they utilized toward the day.

We were going to do it, then I scrapped it last minute. I didn't want to force people to dance with me. Later, after having numerous people request it, we did it. I'm glad we did: we made over $200. It is very common where I'm from. I think it depends on whether or not your guests are used to it and/or expecting it.

I'm Italian too; we didn't do it. You don't have to do anything you don't want to do, and to do a dance that makes you uncomfortable just because you'll make money makes it even worse.