Money Dance

@Soon to be Mrs R..i know you are having yours here in grand rapids..and it is very popular here.

I agree with Celia. If you question this, don't do it.

In my part of the country, a Dollar Dance is not done (not that some do not do it, but, 99.9% do not.)

In my world, it would be tacky. In other worlds, it would be the norm. Do what makes YOU feel best!

Im doing the dollar dance where im from it the norm and not a big deal at all its not thats your asking for money its that it is apart of the wedding and to have a nice one on one dance with your friends and family and yes you do get money BUT that should not be why you do it .. i think its fine and im using a beautiful money bag that i had bought from DB !!!!

I would like to know why it is tacky? People give money at the wedding to the bride and groom and buy gifts. But dance with friends and family where people give you money out fight is tacky. Come on.

Doesn't make any sense.

I am in NY and the weddings I have been to have had them. My FH has never heard of them and he also grew up in NY. Do what feels right to you. We are undecided on if we are going to or not.

I have only seen it done once and it was kinda awkard...hardly anyone participated and to me...it felt weird dancing with someones else husband right after they got married LOL. We are not planning on doing one. As far as someone just coming up and pinning money on a bride during a first or father/daughter dance...idk I feel thats very disrespectful. I have never seen it happen or heard of that happening so I dont think you have anything to worry about!

My friend did it at her wedding in AZ because all her Florida family wanted it. I don't think anyone thought it was weird. However, in my area, most of my guests would be put off I think. Plus in Canada we don't have $1 bills, so I'd basically be asking everyone fro $5 and up or be stuck with a huge bag of Loonies (our $1 coin lol).

It was common in my hometown to do them but I'm not sure how common they are here where we live now. Thanks ladies!

My family is hugely Polish (my moms maiden name is Wojciechowski) and we do it at every wedding, it would be weird not to do it for us. Can't think of a wedding i went to where we haven't done it.

It really depends what's customary in your family and in your area. Personally, after the drive to get there... I wouldn't want to ask my guests to also pay to dance with me.

It's actually customary in my family, but I think I want to be the first to break that tradition. I don't want to do it myself.

Yup, agree that it depends on your area and traditions. If you can't remember several weddings having one, or for those who have not been to many weddings if you ask your friends and family if they've ever seen it done and they overwhelmingly say "no" don't do it. I'm from an area it would be extremely tacky, and only one person in the history of my home town ever did it, and she is someone everyone considers kind of trashy. The dollar dance only added to it.

Soon to be Mrs. R, it is considered tacky where it is not the norm mostly because people already give money and gifts and a dollar dance comes off as asking for even more. Around here it would be like telling people their gift wasn't good enough.

I wasn't going to do it but my family insisted and my FI thinks it would be a good way to get some extra cash for the honeymoon and other stuff. We put it on our wedding website that we would be doing it so our guest would know. I agree with soon to be mrs. R. If it is done right then it would be fun...we are still trying to figure out what the right way is lol

I come from a big Italian family and I have never been to a wedding with a money dance. I'd say do it if your family does them traditionally, if not then don't. We won't be doing it because other than it not being a tradition for us I think its pretty tacky.

My fiancé is Persian and it’s a tradition in his culture. Since much of his family aren’t able to attend the wedding, honoring some of his cultural traditions has become even more important in the wedding. I noted on the wedding website that we’re asking for no gifts, and that our guests’ presence is gift enough. I then described the shabash dance and that guests are welcome to participate, should they choose to do so. I think we’re warping a cultural tradition by viewing this as a solely money-making venture. Money represents wealth and fecundity— sending the couple good vibes and “greasing the wheels,” so to speak, for a productive life together.