Mom skipping the wedding

Yikes...usually mothers aren't invited to bachelorette parties anyway????

It's really up to you and how you want to proceed. Has she always been this way? Will she regret it? Do YOU want her there?

I find it a little odd when moms go to the bachelorette. It's supposed to be a party for the bride and her friends. Moms, aunts (unless age appropriate) and grandmas can really put a damper on what should be great fun for the bride. I think she's being extremely immature (maybe that explains why she wanted to go the bach) by blocking you and saying she isn't going to the wedding. I wouldn't reach out. This is her problem and she needs to get over it on her own and grow up.

Wow that's pretty harsh! I can't believe your own mom blocked you. I can't imagine my mom going to a bachelorette party(if I was having one that is lol). Were you two close before this happened?

I... wow... your mom is way out of line here. I think it's up to you to decide how you want to move forward with this, and maybe you'll decide it's better to give her the apology (that she doesn't deserve but is clearly demanding) just so that you can keep the peace. But I'm telling you right now that you don't OWE her any kind of apology whatsoever. She's being ridiculous and petty.

I feel like your mother is being pretty immature in this situation. It's pretty normal for mothers not to attend a bachelorette weekend for the girls. If she was that upset, she could have reached out to you instead of blocking her daughter's calls/FB.

With 11 days left, I'd try and reach out to discuss. If she chose not to attend after that, it would be on her and you could at least know you tried to fix the situation.

She's way out of line. There's nothing you can apologize for. Let her throw her temper-tantrum and let her decide if she's going to be childish and be the one that has to live with this regret the rest of her life. That's 100% on her not on you.

I agree with Amanda. You don't owe her an apology but maybe a "I'm sorry I hurt your feelings and made you feel like you were being left out, that was not my intention." Hopefully she will get from that what she feels she needs and move on. And if she doesn't come (whether you choose to apologize or not) that is on her and will make her look bad, not you!

Personally, I think it's awkward to have a mom or MIL at a bachelorette party.

Because you did reach out and apologize she is WAY out of line in her hurtful response to you and your SILs--that behavior is not acceptable. I understand you're sad but I'm a little worried about how your mom might react at your wedding and ruin your very special day.

If you really want her there, what about sending her a card? Maybe write how much you love her and how much it would mean to you if she comes to your wedding. Then it's up to her. You're not allowed to bend over backwards or make-up for anything (she may be fishing for drama, or for you to "owe" her which you do not). She should apologize too for her outburst and put the bachelorette party behind her to celebrate your wedding with you & your guests. If she insists on not coming, let her know you're hurt but acknowledge her decision, then let it go.

Big hugs to you because this is a painful situation, for sure.

Honestly it's so odd that she was hurt about not going to your bach party- that's not a mom event. Its not like you kept her away from the shower. Honestly, I wouldn't apologize. She was very verbally abusive to you and her calling you a B*** because she wasn't invited AND she expected you to pay for it AND she cursed out your SIL for being there when she wasn't. She sounds like a whole lot of drama and crazy, and I'd be worried what she'd do for your wedding day.

At most, I'd send her a message via your sister telling her you love her and hope you'll see her at the wedding since it's a once in a lifetime event. I wouldn't apologize- that would encourage her behavior that she can throw a giant tantrum and get her way.

I had my mom at everything for my wedding and wouldn't have had it any other way. IN saying that remember you only get 1 mom in your life. If she truly means to you what my mom means to me I would be devastated for her not to be there. I think you do everything you can to patch things up and tell her you didn't mean to hurt her in any way. I think you can work this out with some effort.

Wow. I wouldn't tolerate that. If she's acting like that now I can't imagine how she'd act at the wedding and what she'd say to the people who went to the party that she didn't go to.