Mom skipping the wedding

Ew. Just ew. I have had similar situations with my bio dad where I have been blocked on FB so I can sympathize.

1) She is your mother and should never have expected to be invited to your bachelorette party. That is creepy. A bachelorette party is for getting raunchy with your friends, not playing nice for your mother. Had it been your shower, it would be a different story.

2) She wants to be that petty as to block you on Facebook for not being invited to a party that she SHOULDN'T be invited to? Congratulations! Sounds like you just dodged a bullet.

If she is going to act like this now, what is she going to do when your FILs invite you and FS to dinner and she isn't invited?

Hard pass on the apology for me.

Yeah......no invite, no apology, no nothing. She tried to run over your stepmother in a parking lot. Why would you want such a loose cannon at your wedding? Please don't say "She is my mom after all....._ as that is NOT a pass to, oh I don't know....try to kill someone?

My FMIL and FH's grandmothers came to my bach party, but it was also my bridal shower too. I had fun with everyone present, and I think the only awkward part was when we got free jello shots from the bar we were at for paint nite and my FMIL told me I needed to use my tongue more to get the jello out. But she recognized it was weird and we all laughed about it. ( Both of my FSIL's were there as well)

Now your mom, well, I don't know. I wouldn't want that stress of worrying about what she would do on the most important day of my life. If she chooses to not come to your wedding, that's her deal.

That right there would be a definite hard no on trying to convince her to come to your wedding. She is clearly not a level headed person. You don't need drama on your big day

Based on your original post, I was going to say that it doesn't really matter if a mother should be invited to a bachelorette party or not, the point is the way she reacted. It's one thing to say, "I would have really liked to have been included but it looks like you all had a lot of fun." It's a whole other ball of wax to scream and curse you out, curse your in-laws out and not talk to you or come to your wedding. Even with all that, I would have advised that you make every effort to talk to her to see if you both could come to an understanding.

THEN, I read all your other posts. All I can say is "wowsa." I know she's your mother, but it sounds like she's addicted to anger, vindictive and manipulative. Not to mention, physically dangerous. I know I wouldn't want that at my wedding, let alone in my life. Mom would need to go to counseling and make some serious progress before I'd have her back in my life.

I have a very strong feeling that this ain't over and that she's just stewing and will cause more drama and possibly show up to your wedding anyway. I think you should be prepared for that.

I'm just so sorry that you have to experience this during what should be one of the happiest times in your life.

So I'm editing after having read some of your further comments:

I would have uninvited her long ago. I made the very difficult decision to cut my father out of my life for crap like this. ALL of the things you are saying she does to you (calling and cussing, calling you names, manipulating you-it may not seem like she is, but from the outside in it looks like she is, attempting to harm other people out of jealousy/anger, etc) are all things that my father used to do to me. Maybe sit down with your FH and discuss what you should do with him (he knows you best), but it seems like you may need to start minimizing your interactions with her just so that she doesn't ruin your life. This may be completely wrong, but this is from my own experience. I haven't spoken to my father in years and couldn't be happier now. It was heartbreaking and difficult at first, but then I realized how much happier I was without the berating, negativity, and drama in my life.

I am SO sorry you are dealing with this. Parents are supposed to be loving and supportive. Not trying to tear you down.

Second Edit: Talk to her about counseling (I did this with my father and he refused, which helped me make my decision). Also, I agree with PP, PLEASE make sure you have a plan in place in case she does show up and shows out. If she does this a lot then I'm sure your family probably already expects it and will be more than willing to help you if she does.

Yikes, first off, it sounds like she wants to see you come crawling to her apologizing. Second it was "too far of a drive"....really? Seems like she wants it to be all about her, not you.

This.....SO MUCH this.

Eeek! Sorry about the ER! That's rough.

After reading all these posts so you have an update on your mom situation? Also I hope you are feeling better!

Ugh...I feel like you have a sucky conversation to look forward to....or maybe you could go old fashioned and write her a heartfelt letter honoring her anger. Even if there are reasons you didn’t invite her you may not want to detail them to spare her feelings. And even if you would make the same choice again if given the opportunity...I would still say something like “I never meant to hurt you, I’m so sorry, and in the chaos of all the wedding plans I made a mistake. Please honor me with your forgiveness and attendance”. Then it’s on her...

Also she sounds like she kinda sucks.

Geez Louise, your mom is being AWFULLY petty in this situation.

I feel your pain though... my mom practically invited her and her best friend to mine - no ifs, ands or buts.

This one's on her. I would attempt to reach out and let her know her invitation still stands, but it's up to her if she wants to act like the adult and attend.