MOH doesnt want to give speech!!

I gave all mine a choice. You can just throw it out there in a speech. "I'd reallly like someone from my team to give a speech, do any of you want to do it? If there are a few of you who do please let me know and maybe you can go up togethe and do a joined speech"

My MOH doesn't want to give one either (she's shy and her elocution isn't great). It's not a problem. I have also never been to a wedding where the MOH gives a speech. I see the Bride's father and the BM a lot.

At mine it'll be the BM and then FH and I will say a few words.

Public speaking is terrifying for me. I am even nervous just to be saying my vows in front of everyone, so I feel your sister's pain lol. You could ask your bridesmaids if any of them would like to speak, and if no one is interested you could just skip it all together. I don't think anyone is going to notice or point out that you didn't have a MOH speech.

Seriously? MOH's don't give speeches? I was told a few days before the last wedding I was at that I was going to give one and got right on whipping it together at the last minute. I'll probably make my MOH give a speech too though, just to repay the favor. I wouldn't think that she'd need to say much but if she's truly terrified of public speaking, I'd let it go!

See, I didn't think the MOH doing a speech was that common. My MOH gets really nervous and will just start to cry when she gives a speech so I told her she didn't have to if she didn't want to; she hasn't decided whether she will or not.

I know she loves me either way

All the weddings I've been to have had A MOH and BM speech...strange so many people say otherwise. In fact at my fsil's wedding, two of her girls gave speeches, and I think maybe the father on each side.

Maybe ask a BM. I know you said you have 7, but like someone else mentioned, maybe you are closer to one or two of them and/or one or two are naturally more outgoing/better speakers?

Or maybe your sister can write hers and pre-record it in a video. Then you guys can do a video montage of pictures of you guys and maybe cut to a video of her speech? Or use her voice as a voice over with the pictures. Like, do pics of your life with her voice over, then pics of his life with the bm's voice over, then pics of you two together with...just music? or your parents can give short clip voiceovers?

It would take some pre-set up, but would be super cute and in the end no one would have to get up and speak unless they had something to add right then.

There's no way any of my BM (I didn't title someone MOH) wanted to get up in front of people and give a toast (I've never seen speeches given, just short 1-2min toasts). I asked them and they all had "deer in the headlights" looks on their faces. But my parents wanted to speak, so I let them. My H's parents were the ones with "deer in the headlights" looks when we asked them, so two of his GMs spoke. In total, I think our toasts took maybe 15 min - and both of us spoke too. I don't think there should be rules about it - just whoever is comfortable.

It's common for both MOH and BM to give speeches here. It is also customary for the bride and groom. I'm nervous enough about saying my vows in front of people so my FH has told me to just tell him who I want mentioned and he will work it into his. As for a MOH that doesn't want to speak-I can feel her. Some people have severe anxiety about public speaking. At a friend on mine's wedding, it was the BM who didnt want to give a speech, and they just handed the mic to the next GM down the line. Or ask your bridesmaids if anyone would be comfortable giving a speech. You might find that only one of them would want to.

Don't force anybody to do a speech. Honestly the less the better. Nobody wants to sit through 30 mins-1 hr of drawn out speeches. If you just have the best man make a speech that's awesome. I'm sure parents or siblings would kindly take up the spot you wanted your MOH to have.

Interesting.. My sister who was my MOH gave a speech.. She was also nervous but did very well.. I would say ask a bridesmaid in her place or maybe your parents instead.. The only ppl who gave speeches at the wedding were the MOH and BM..

Support her decision to not want to talk to a crowd when she has a fear of public speaking. Have another BM give a speech, don't choose who, let them choose. Or let MOH choose since she can't give the speech herself.

Another option would be to have her write it, and have another girl read it.

Also, in my area, MOH and BM usually give a speech, and I've been to a few weddings where several groomsmen and several bridesmaids give speeches, that gets SUPER annoying.

My MOH isnt saying a speech but our best man is. MOH wasnt comfortable standing up and talking infront of people and I wasnt going to force her even though it does make me a little sad nobody will be speaking from my side of the WP..but then again my parents (divorced) are each making their own individual speech.

I have always seen both the MOH and BM give one.. but my MOH and/or Bridemaids don't. BM wants to though. Thanks for posting this! I was thinking it may be a bit weird, but now I feel better

Wow it is very weird to me that people say its not common for BM and MOH to give speeches. I am a photographer on the side and I do anywhere from 10-25 weddings per year. Every reception I have ever been to either both give speeches/toast or neither do.

However, I was on youtube today and found some cute group ideas that bridesmaids did together, I sent it to my bridesmaids and said, "Hey ladies, want to do something for my side of the toast or speech? Yes or no? If yes, just surprise me and come up with somehting whoever wants to participate can, whoever doesnt, doesnt have to.

So maybe they can come up with something together

We are having the best man do a speech and the MOH do one also... I could only imagine how you feel - If I were you I would ask a bridesmaid or to ask her to write it down and have maybe your mom or someone do it.. thats a tough situation though ...

I wonder if this tradition is one of those traditions based on location - I have ALWAYS seen MOH give a speech at the wedding. And I disagree that they are always embarrassing or boring. I have heard some entertaining ones and some sweet ones that i'm sure the couple appreciated. If you MOH doesn't want to do it, just ask someone else if they would like to.

Lol at my friends wedding the Best man gave a speech, I (the MOH) wasnt even asked if i wanted to. Lol...point being, it's very okay to have just one speech. Usually the speech isnt always centered around just one of you but both as a couple.

My MOH is super shy and there is no way that she would give a speech. I'm shy too, so I totally understand and wasn't expecting her to give one. My sister in law to be has offered to give one. I'm very touched that she would be willing to do this.