Mini rant: thank you cards

OMG I hate that! So impersonal! We had 300 guests and I hand wrote something to every person/household that came. It felt good to do it that way too to be honest. Make them personal and they will always remember that consideration.

I'm kind of offended that they even wasted a stamp on it hahaha

I also strongly dislike pre-printed thank yous

My understanding is that etiquette requires you say thank you. The personalized notes are a matter of preference.

Meh..... I wouldn't let it bother me. Sure, hand-written is more personal, but I don't think I'd even give that a second thought. Not worth being offended over.

I had a friend who did this but it was different. The front was a picture of them with thank you written and the back had a long, well written note from my friend. We loved it! It's the only thank you note that's ever made it to my fridge. I would be slightly bothered about a generic thank you with no actual hand written note, but at least they thought to send you something and acknowledged you were there/brought a gift.

My thing would be, what about the people who didn't come, but sent a gift, would they get a "thank you for coming" card? Awkward.

At least you got one. I haven't received a thank you card for the last three weddings and one vow renewal that I attended with nice gifts.

Yeah, the preprinted "thanks for coming" notes are not acceptable thank you notes without a personal note on them. A thank you note should be personal and include a reference of the gift, both to show gratitude and so that the giver knows the gift was received. It's not a matter of preference. It's a matter of laziness and lack of gratitude.

My mom got one like that shortly after we got engaged. She sent me a picture and said "DO NOT DO THIS!!!" My mom rarely ever uses exclamation points so it was serious lol. I don't like them, but I guess it's better than nothing.

I am in agreement with Kimi - I haven't received thank yous for the two showers and two weddings I attended back in Feb/March/April.

I thought I was the only one who did Thank You notes anymore! I attended 5 weddings in the past 18 months and only received a thank you note from one of them, not even from the one that I was in AND helped pay for the shower along with giving gifts.

The level of thank you doesn't need to match your level of inconvenience for attending the wedding. If you felt like it was such a burden to come then you should have declined. No its not nice. And yes it's the 'cheater' way out. But at least they sent something. Let it go and move on. Annoying but not worth the aggravation.

I hate that too! Honestly, I sent a gift for a wedding I didn't actually get to attend, and I was really kind of put off that I didn't get a thank you card myself. I don't know. I don't necessarily care for the prescribed "If this, then that". But have some gratitude and get over yourself, send a thank you.

I rather not get a thank you if I was just going to get a cookie cutter kind of card. Although I never heard of sending thank you cards until a few years ago.

I bought a "thank you" sign so we could do that sort of thing, I would've personalized it. Time got away and we never took it. I now have hand written every single thank you. Also, pic wouldn't have come in time for me to get my thank yous out like I want, which is right away. Yes, personalize!!!

Um.....

my cousin got married last april (2015) and my FH and I and my parents both gave her and her H separate VERY generous gifts..... no thank you note.

#bitchplease

I think if you get at least some sort of thank you, you're good lol

My FH received a preprinted thank you, no personal note, and no acknowledgment of me at all (i.e., it was addressed to him and only him). I think it's a punch in the face to receive a preprinted thank you card. It shows absolutely no appreciation for gifts, and is just another method of showing off pictures.

I wouldn't be offended but personally I always hand write thank yous. I guess be happy they even acknowledged you at all lol some people totally lack etiquette I think this is okay. But I will be handwriting everything.

Clarification: maybe I should have added #sarcasm or something. I'm not actually offended, I just think it's sort of silly to send something and not even add a little tiny note, that's all!

And, re @soontobedames, there was a photo of them on the front, and a sort of faded photo of them on the back behind the text. In addition to the save the date magnet with their faces on it and also an invitation booklet with their photos all over it hahaha maybe they just wanted another excuse to send pictures of themselves

Guests show up to a wedding and get a nice gift for the couple. The least a couple can do is send a thoughtful, handwritten thank you note.