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Dedicated October 2018

mil made copies of our invites

#MakeHerABaker, on September 17, 2018 at 5:12 PM

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She made professional, real looking copies of our invitations and gave them to everyone she felt should have been invited that wasn't. First of all, my invitation designer is really upset. She actually told me she wants to sue for copyright infringement. Second, what on earth am I going to do about...

She made professional, real looking copies of our invitations and gave them to everyone she felt should have been invited that wasn't. First of all, my invitation designer is really upset. She actually told me she wants to sue for copyright infringement. Second, what on earth am I going to do about this? We're quickly approaching room capacity, she isn't paying for anything so all of her extra people are being paid for by my parents, plus these people weren't invited because we didn't want them there. Obviously. So far, we've gotten RSVPs from 16 people that weren't on the guest list. She refuses to tell us who she invited or even how many.

So...

1. I'm really worried she invited his exes and girls that she likes more than me.

2. My parents should not have to pay for this.

3. She shouldn't have done this to begin with.

Does anyone have any suggestions? We've tried talking to her and she just ignores the questions she doesn't want to answer like how many people or why the heck she did this. I'm really upset.

146 Comments

  • Kenisha
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    She hits your dog?! What in the ---- is wrong with this woman?!

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  • Meesh
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    Woah. STOP. She hit your dog? STOP. NO. I will tell you right now, if ANYONE laid a f^@&#* finger on my dog, they better pray they're still breathing when I'm done with them. I don't even need to read anymore. This is toxic. You and FH need to cut her from not only your wedding, but your LIVES If you want to stay together and keep any semblance of sanity.

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  • ArwenToHisAragorn
    Expert October 2018
    ArwenToHisAragorn ·
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    THIS. You DO NOT hit anyone, DOGS INCLUDED. If she does this now, there's nothing stopping her from doing it to you, FH, future kids (if you want them). She's gotta go.

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  • ISaidHallYes
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    This woman seems like a terror. Who does any of this stuff? Not a sane person that is for sure!

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  • latasha
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    latasha ·
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    Hi MakeHerABaker has everything worked out? I’ve been thinking about this situation nonstop and have been hoping for a good outcome.
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  • #MakeHerABaker
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    Well, I'm going to get lots of crap for this on here, but we didn't (couldn't) do anything about it. Some of her people ended up coming, some other guests ended up not being able to make it, and we ended up with 148 guests (we planned for 150). I'm overall quite happy with how the day went and I'm really looking forward to never seeing her again...or at least not for a while Smiley smile

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  • latasha
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    Glad to hear you were happy. That’s all that matters. People on here can say whatever they want but everyone’s family dynamic is different. This is definetly something you guys have to figure out for yourselves. People can say what they would do but once you are in the situation that may change. Congratulations on your marriage!!
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  • #MakeHerABaker
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    Thank you!!!

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  • Phelicia
    Devoted September 2019
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    Put your foot down snd let her know of they show up they will not be welcomed. I'm going to have someone st the door for this very reason
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  • FutureStephD
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    So glad to hear it ended up being alright in the end! Can wait to see pics of the big day. Hopefully you and hubby can move forward with life and never see her again!

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  • Kenisha
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    Congratulations 🎊🎉🍾🎈

    Hopefully your day was everything you dreamed of.
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  • S
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    I didn’t know this was your fmiL wedding... she should pay for the people she invited if she won’t pay then she should not come because you had your budget and she went out of the way to invite her friends and family
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    Savvy February 2020
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    I didn’t mean to post my other comment lol but I hope you have a great day on your special day and it’s good you won’t have to see her again can’t wait to see pictures of your big day
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  • DC Wife 10.27.18
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    Congrats OP. I'm glad it worked out for you in the end. I really really hope that you put your foot down going forward otherwise, this is only the beginning and thing may not "work out" so well in the future.

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  • Deirdre
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    Do you think your FH would be open to ending his relationship with his mom completely? She sounds so toxic. If I saw the dog hitting, that would have been the end for me. She would have no longer been a part of my life. In know it's always tough with family, but I've always felt that just because someone happens to be related to you by blood, if they are toxic, you should still be able to cut them out of your lives guilt free. This woman isn't just doing this to you, she's doing it to her son as well, so I think showing no regard for him either. You should encourage your FH to go to therapy to deal with some of these issues. I'm sure being toxic isn't new behavior he's had to deal with her. There's no way I could deal with her for life. If you do end up having kids some day, she's certainly not someone you could leave alone with them. I say get out now. Tell her she's not invited to the wedding and she will not be a part of your life in the future. No one should have to deal with this crazy.

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  • J
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    I’m glad your wedding went well! But seriously don’t feel the least bit guilty if you decide to cut your MIL out of your life entirely. She sounds like an extremely toxic and sick person and all she will do is drag you down. You have to do what’s best for yourself! If you end up having kids please keep this crazy woman away from them!!
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    I second this. This is insane. Poor you and poor fh but hes going to have to talk to with her about the expectations going forward...
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  • Audrey
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    I don’t have any suggestions or help. But I just felt the need to say I’m so sorry.
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  • Jesse
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    I’m sorry but if your FH refuses to tell these people that they can’t come and also refuses to tell your FMIL that she can’t come. . . . .I would be calling the wedding off! That’s ridiculous that after she did what she did he won’t tell her she’s not welcome! Smh
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  • DC Wife 10.27.18
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    Her wedding already happened. They allowed the guests to come.

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