May 2020 Weddings

Our wedding is the same date and we're feeling the exact same way! It's so stressful. We haven't decided to cancel or postpone yet, but I talked to our photographer tonight and he gave us new date options to consider. Tonight was the first night I cried about this whole thing. It's so overwhelming. I was so ready to be married and done planning, but if we rebook to fall that changes so many things. If we just elope on May 16th, my bridesmaids probably won't be there and therefore won't be able to wear their dresses and even if we do a reception at a later date we're missing out on so many things we were so excited for. There's so many other things going through my head right now that I can't even begin to explain how this all feels. I've been trying to stay positive and had been doing pretty good with it, but tonight I just couldn't. I'm just feeling lost.. we've been planning this day for the past 2 years, and its come to this.. its heartbreaking.

View Quoted Comment Yes! All those thoughts have went through my head too. I want to be able to celebrate with all our family who want to be involved, so making the decision to do it with limited people (immediate family really) and then have a reception later then like you said you miss out on everything you was excited for. My shower was supposed to be today and we had to cancel. Our bachelor/bachelorette partiees were scheduled for April 25th. His party was going to a ball game and casino..those are closed so he can't do that. It's all just a mess, and a very hard decision to come too.

As someone who postponed 11 days out, I promise, it's not that difficult, and it sounds like you have your ducks in a row if you have to.


We were 15 days out when we realized we might need to make changes, 13 days out when we made a plan, 11 days when we pulled the plug.
Give it 2-4 weeks and see if things are getting worse or better...
That's the best suggestion I've got.

View Quoted Comment This is precisely why we chose to elope and have a big ceremony and reception later.

I’m sure it’s super stressful! I hope everything works out for you

Supposed to be getting married the same day, I just want to wait it out but my fiancé wants to postpone and notify family right away, don’t know what to do,

Same exact date... I already reached out to the venue to find new dates in 2020 or for another year (05/15/21). My fiance is adamant that we wait another two weeks and see how things turn out. He's got greater faith than me that this thing will happen. I have family stating they will be there no matter what, but I'm so concerned that my wedding would be a place where people would get exposed. So, we decided to reassess on April 1, and if it's not clear at that time again on April 15th. The biggest thing right now would be airlines extending their waivers through the end of May. I have SO MANY OOT guests that require flying. I don't want them to be out a ton of cash because we pulled the plug too early.

Hi Kristy! You're definitely not the only one stressed about this!!

We've started gathering helpful resources in our COVID-19 Wedding Support Central, and you can connect with other May brides in these discussions:

May 16 brides---what Next Due to Coronavirus?

May brides and your plan of action?

We're thinking of you!

Madison - having out of town guests definitely makes this harder!! When I cancelled my bachelorette party, there were 9 of us flying from 6 different states. I looked into airline policies and as long as you make a decision by the end of April, people should be able to change without issue. The only issue I was seeing is they have to use the voucher by 12/31/2020, therefore, postponing until May 2021 isn't really helpful.

Kristy - knowing when to pull the plug is definitely the hardest part of this entire process. I pretty much stopped any planning. I found a few people on Instagram who had this same discussion, and the overall response was they were waiting until the end of April / April 25th to make the decision. Knowing Mandi postponed 11 days out makes me feel much better, and much more comfortable with the end of April date. However, this doesn't help my lack of motivation as far as planning. I don't want to continue to pour my heart into something that may not happen. So I figured I would just take this time off of planning, and then if at the end of April we are able to move forward, I will just kick it into high gear and hope for the best. I'd rather be stressed that last 3 weeks than even more crushed and disappointed when I have to postpone.

Good Luck everyone!