Marrying at 19

FH and I have been together since we were 15 also- we are now both 25 and are getting married in October. We have always been very much in love and our families were always supportive also (which is great). My advice is just to expect things to change (a LOT) in the next few years...and that your amazing relationship (no matter how amazing) will be tested.

I'm not going to judge you for getting married young- but you really should be prepared and understand that 1) People WILL judge you/make comments 2) Your relationship will change when it comes to buying a house/getting real jobs (if you don't have them already).

I think that an intimate backyard DIY wedding is a wonderful idea- I think if I had to do it all over again that's exactly what I would do.

I'm 22 as is my FH. Both our families are supportive and are happy for us. We've known each other since high school, been together 3 years and living together for almost 1 year. We have no children are happy to start our life together.

First, CONGRATS on the engagement. Regardless of the age it occurs, it is a truly happy occasion, so make sure you enjoy it! My advice is (1) at your age, since you are young and still growing, as well as learning how to live on your own, try living together with your FH for a bit (even if it's as small as some of his things or your things are at the other's place...) so you can get a feel of living in close proximity. Believe me, that does show you a lot! (2) Like Nicole said, expect a lot of changes. Changes in your maturity (people are always maturing no matter their age!), changes in planning, changes in trying to juggle so much...etc. (3) Have a strong support network! It sounds like you really have one, and that's great, so don't be afraid, or too stubborn, to except their input..even if you don't use it. I think your idea of an intimate DIY backyard wedding is wonderful, and I wish you and FH the best of happiness, luck, and love on your journey to come! :-)

FH and I have also been together since we were 15, and we are now 23. Nicole is right, expect things to change A LOT. Well I don't think 19 is necessarily too young, you must be prepared for the growing up you're going to be doing in the next few years. If you're going to college, you'll both be taking different classes and learning what you want to do with your life. Talk about your plans, wants, and needs. Communication is key.

I've known many couples who have gotten married young. Some are still together. Some are not. Some of them have only been married a few years. Others for 15-20 years.

Congrats and good luck! You'll be great!

FH and I started dating a week before I turned 16, now 23 (he will be 24) and getting married in August, have been living together for over a year, have 2 cats and an apartment together. just in general, I think its really important to communicate and make sure both your needs are being met, especially since you are young. I feel like for me and FH there are more career-related demands on our time than there might be if we were older. And recognize that for you both to be happy in other areas of your life, you may have to make sacrifices together, whether that's financial or not getting as much time together due to school or work demands. It's important to support each other! And yeah, change. It happens, just keep checking in with each other and making sure you are both on the same page.

The best advice I would give is that since most people experience quite a bit of personal growth at this point in their lives, it is important to make sure that you are both growing together, because if you don't, that seems to be when friction occurs. I wish you all the luck in the world though hun, and think a backyard wedding sounds super sweet! Congrats on your engagement and I look forward to seeing you on the boards!

My FH is 29 and I met him when I was 19...when I marry him in March I will be 21.. according to my mom, and other friends, I'm too young and should be enjoying my life...

However, I have always pictured myself married at 21 and settled down early...

There are so many different factors which will play into how your marriage pans out if you go through marrying at a young age.

Are either of you in college or plan to attend? Do you two have your own place together? Work full time? Completely support yourselves?

My biggest piece of advice would be to wait just a few more years.

My grandparents we're married at 17. Now, they have been together over 50 years. I don't your too young.

Welcome to WW!

I would say that Nicole summarized things quite well. DH and I have been together since we were 17 and 18, and we dated for over 7 years before getting married. For us, waiting to get married was very important, because we knew we wanted to have good jobs and be established before taking that major step. If we had gotten married 5 years ago, I may not have finished graduate school (hard to tell really) and gotten the job I have now and he definitely would not have the job he has and we are grateful for those jobs because we are still young and with our combined incomes are very comfortable.

I'm not advising you against marrying young, since I don't know your circumstances and it sounds like your families are supportive (which is huge!) I would just stress what most everyone else is saying, to EXPECT your relationship to change, because it will.. hopefully for the better, like it did for DH and I! Good luck!

My parents got married when my mom was 18 and my dad was 20. They met when they were 12/14 and have been together ever since.

Their families were super SUPER UNsupportive (in fact, my mom's family disowned her for a long time) - but they have been married for 34 years

Everyone is different. Good luck to you both though Congrats on the engagement!

Also, I'd like to add that IMO, getting married young in today's world is much different than our parents and grandparents who got married right out of high school 30-50 years ago. Of course, these marriages can still be great examples to look up to and strive toward being like them, but it is a very different world today. Today, typically both partners need to work full time and in a lot of cases, need degrees to be competitive in the job market. Just something else to think about!

Congratulations! Yay for getting married!!! I wish I was nineteen and getting engaged...but the guy I was dating at that point in my life was (and still is) a jerk. Just remember that even when you're single, going to college or working full time is stressful. Having your FH there for support is awesome! But, you will fight over something stupid (probably money) and you're probably going to have a few nights with an empty bed and a full couch. You'll get trough it wonderfully.

I also think you should try premarital counseling. It's really good at getting on the table what you expect and what he's expecting out of this marriage. They also let you know if they feel you're ready...even though their opinion really doesn't matter at this point.

Good luck!!

I agree with The New Mrs. B. it is completely different now. My mother was 19 and my father was 21 when they got married, both still in college. They have been happily married for 39 years BUT my mom says that even though it worked out for them, it was really hard, and it doesn't work out most of the time. She tells us she wishes she waited.

If he is really the one, it won't matter if you wait a few years

Good luck with whatever you do!!

I got married at 19. Divorced at 23. I will be 29 when I get married again next year. From 19 to my age now, I have changed so much I wouldnt recognize my 19yr old self. Everyone has a different maturity-growth rate, everyone's journey is different. But you will change over the years. The person you are now, will not be the person you are in about 5 years. Good or bad, you changing as an individual will also affect how you change in your relationship. That might make your relationship stronger as you both grow together, it might cause you to butt heads. Who knows, good luck tho.

First off, I would like to say congrats on your engagement! How exciting! However, I would like to give my perspective on things like most of the other ladies have said. I was 15 and FH was 16 when we started dating. We got engaged after 8 years of dating and I will 25 while FH will be 26 when we get married. Our families have been very supportive of our relationship throughout but they would not have been supportive had we gotten engaged at 19 and 20. I'm glad we waited to get engaged bacause it allowed us both to grow as individuals even though we were together. We supported each other through college and we able to graduate without the added stress of trying to plan a wedding. At this point in my life I feel ready to get married and settle down. More so than I would have felt at 19. I see that your wedding isn't for another year so take that time to really think if this is the right step for you. Whatever you decide I wish you the best of luck!

Congrats! All I can say is even if I had known FH in high school, there is no way I would have been ready to marry that young. Hell, I want a drink at my own wedding, legally! I met FH. When we were 19, and we are marrying at age 24. I feel like we both are at such better places in our lives, and together, than we ever were in college. That's not to say anything about your relationship, that is just my experience

I was married the first time at age 18. That marriage lasted 17 years. We always had our struggles and our good times, but in my mid-thirties I changed a LOT and we both changed in different directions.

My FH married at age 18 to his high school sweetheart. They were together 20 years. They had good times and bad. She ended up being a cheater.

The most important things are good communication and realistic expectations.

The younger you are when you marry (and start having kids) the more struggles you will have financially, IMO.

If you were my daughter I would encourage you to wait until you graduate from college, but I would be there for you no matter what you decide.

Congratulations on your engagement .

FW and I have been together for 5 years and living together are entire relationship I was 14 when started going out she was 17. When we get married I'll be 21 And FW will be 23. Both our family and friends are very supportive. Happy planning and best of luck to you.

Depends not on your age, but where you are in life and if you have a solid plan together for your future. If you guys only plan on "we'll get married, have a house, and babies and live happily ever after" without a plan for how you're going to make that happen together, neither of you has ever worked full time(part of what is so different about high school relationships and adult ones is that you don't have the luxury of spending a ton of time together just doing fun stuff) or have always lived only with your parents(you've never handled bills or household budgets) than you should probably wait imo.