Letting go of the control for the wedding day..

First of all, from what I understand ur FH is planning now? Yes it is very hard, but don't worry. He will make sure the wedding is everything u dreamed! I know my mom is now planning the wedding will all the stress I have had to go through and I can't afford a planner. So thats whats going on... It is hard to let go..... but it will work out and be beautiful! Smile

He and the gm are going to help set it up...I'm not sure who all is going to be doing it, to be honest.

I'm having the same issue already, I hired a day of planner... but I know everything isn't going to have MY touch on it lol I'm a total perfectionist about how things get set up.. I mean, if my shoes are tight, or my hair doesn't work.. that's not on me anymore BUT if that hall and ceremony site aren't what I want, I'm going to be a nervous wreck lol

From what I've heard other ladies post after their weddings, the most important bit is marrying your husband. All of the other details will fade and not seem so important on your day. Remember that one post (I forgot who posted it) after a wedding this summer? The bride listed a whole slew of things that went wrong... and some of the things were pretty big... but she said that none of that mattered and that her day was perfect. Don't drown yourself in the details of your day... focus on the reason for your day. You'll be just fine

I thnk if you give him ad teaile list of what goes where then he shoudl be ok. he hs watched you dream of this and come up wth it all ov er the last 8 months! dont worry! t will be everythign you dreamed of

Gersh.....make sure your FH has a drawn up detailed plan of how things should be set up. And even if things aren't done exactly how you want them - it won't matter. I was short almost 10 chairs so we were scrambling at the last minute (literally just before I walked down the aisle) to get additional chairs set up. I think come your wedding day - you just don't worry about it....you're marrying the man you love. Nothing else matters. So breathe and enjoy your day!

As a recent bride (6/27/09), I know what you're going through. I had some of the same control issues. I felt those same feelings about handing it over to someone else pretty much up until the day before the wedding. Some kind of magic fairy dust must've been sprinkled on me the night before my wedding...seriously! I woke up that morning, and I wasn't thinking about how things would look & how they would go. I was so excited (and a little nervous) that mostly all I could think about was getting ready, trying to steady my nerves, and hoping I didn't trip in the sand when walking toward my fh! The day of, your thoughts will definitely be on you, not "is everything looking perfect". To be honest, I don't remember too much about the food (I hardly ate), how things looked, etc. I do remember the the ceremony, how I felt, the awesome toasts we received, being ridiculously happy, and dancing until my feet hurt! I truly wish the same kind of crazy happy for you & all the brides on WW!

Taking a step back can be hard for anyone who has planned from the start. Just know No matter what Happens.. It is YOUR day and all eyes will be on you.... Just smile and know what is done is done. nothing more when you take that first step towards you FH. He is the reason for the day.. not the guests or the food or the flowers.. just HIM.

Thank you ladies so much. It is hard for me to give control of the wedding over...fh asked me "do u not trust me?" I told him, "yeah, I do trust you, but it's hard to let go." Your advise has helped me a lot. I know you are all right about the important part is marrying my fh and it is. I will try very hard to concentrate on that the day of...

I totally agree with you gershelda... i think im gonna have the same problem. not because ill be worried. just because im having so much fun doing it and i wanna do it all myself!

Honestly I had a bunch of things go wrong biggest being my zipper. For me I was so in the moment and so excited that really the only thing I could think and say is "I'm getting married today" I swear my mom and best friend wanted to kill me by the time we got to the venue and still I kept saying it lol. And then after the ceremony all I could say is "I'm Married" And "My Husband" lol I was such a little kid! My mom said there were things wrong but I didn't notice. I had my eyes on my husband the whole time (well except for that time that I couldn't find him lol)

My wedding is still aways and I am already worried about that... Just relax and have fun.

Being a HUGE controlf freak, I understand what you are saying. One thing I did was enlist a friend who knows me very well and gave her a couple tasks. She knows me very well, but we became close after I chose my wedding party, so this was still a way to make her feel included. Plus, after all I went through with the surgery, I had no choice but to let people help me do stuff. And from what I think I read, you are having a lot going on personally as well. About 2 weeks out I just focused on the main goal, getting married! I knew the small details were not going to make or break my day and in the end, they add character to the day if something goes wrong. No one will notice something is out of place. And you will be on such an adrenaline rush that I bet you don't even notice. Trust me, as soon as you wake up and think "It's my wedding day!" you will focus only on that and once those vows are said you will feel such relief that nothing will bother you!