Let's talk about sex...

Probably lol but not for that reason, more just because its likely to happen that way. Im sick right now (had strep the beginning of this week, and a cold the end of this week) and on my period and its 2 weeks out. The week of the wedding will be stressful, and i dont do sex when i have lots of anxiety, it just doesnt work lol, and so next week... idk. We aren't planning it one way or the other... just see what happens. I think the first time we will have married sex will be awesome regardless, so I don't think it really matters.

A couple days before the wedding DH and I realized we actually had the house to ourselves. That never ever happens. It was soooo on.

@Cathy For us it was just something we wanted to do. Yeah you can't take back not being a virgin, but you can fast, and you can give up anything to fast (alcohol, Burger King, etc). So yeah, it was just something we wanted to do to build our friendship more, and it's worked quite a bit!

Though after dealing 7months no sex, I don't get how people can say sex is not important in a relationship. It totally is! Everything is cream pie when sex is involved (haha, couldn't help myself).

But little disagreements when you have sexual frustrations are so much bigger, intimacy is harder to establish too. But these 7mos have taught us other ways to achieve it, so we're getting a lot out of it AND experiencing that pre wedding build up. It's great!

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Nope. I stopped reading right there.

#teamCrystalQueen2B

@Wade - that sounds sad.

If anything, I'll be more horny the week leading up the the wedding.

Nope. I don't see a point on waiting a week to have sex....

Yes! We both made this decision to wait until the nite after the wedding, for me is easier because I have never been in a sexual relation, we have talked about this special nite!! I am so excited!

It's been about two months for us right now because he is away with BCT/AIT and by the time we comes home it'll be almost 6 months since anything happened. So we will most likely not be waiting. I just wanted to know if people actually do that willingly

Our pastor has us being abstinent until the wedding . It's been 7 weeks now . The wedding is this August !!

Fuck no. There's honestly no point to it, it's not like in that time we're going to magically revert back to being virgins, and we are quite capable of making the wedding night just as special and amazing without withdrawing from something that facilitates the emotional bond between us.

Plus, to go from 2-3x/day to nothing would cause more problems than anything. I think we'd both get so frustrated, we wouldn't hold out anyway. Why set ourselves up for failure?

Lol there are times that we go almost 2 weeks without. It schedules are different and I an tired earlier. Lol last night fh wine up at 4am wanting sex.

The last time FH and I ever held out on having sex was in the beginning of our relationship when for some dumb reason I was too embarrassed to tell him I was on my period (and was spending the entire week at his house!!) And that didn't go over well... he was so pissy and we fought a lot. All work and no play makes jack a dull boy.

I will be waayyyyyyyyyyyyy too stressed to hold out on sex before the wedding. I'm gonna need all the release I can get! Haha. And I have zero expectation for sex on the wedding night- FH will have too much fun at the open bar, and I think regardless, we will both be too tired.

@cathy We have a great friendship, but can you say how your relationship would hold up without sex? Probably not, but I can. Mine has held up just fine, and actually it's been even better than it was before.

At some point in everyone's relationship, if you intend to be together "forever", your sex life isn't going to stay the same. It's going to change, it will stop being the focal point even if only briefly. Some peoples whole marriage crumbles over no sex, which is ridiculous. I think waiting before marriage or taking a hiatus before marriage just ensures that you both are prepared for any bumps in the road, and that you'll stay strong even when you're having dry spells.

FH and I were like bunnies before we decided to stop and believe me, it was HARD and definitely not a cut dry thing. There's also some other personal things that made us decide it like religion & I had a horrible miscarriage around this time of year last year where I needed surgery. I was on BC but I got pregnant anyway, and had no idea until I was being rushed to the hospital basically.

So yeah, YOU see no reason for it in YOUR relationship, but it's been great for us.

Don't get me wrong I'm ready to go back to being like bunnies, but these 7mos have taught both of us a lot and allowed a lot of healing.

We are going to hold out for a month

We arent planning on it but i will have my "friend" the week before the wedding so it might turn out that way.

Tasha, yes, definitely!! Why wouldn't we??

Okay, Cathy.

I 100% understand where you're coming from. It's called perspective, everyone has it and I wish you would extend the same courtesy to those who choose to take a break.

At the end of the day it's SEX and neither one of us lost our genitals in this process, pretty sure we'll be doing it again and come out just fine. Wow! Amazing!

That's a big fat no from me... FH is climbing walls after a day and acts all hard done by if we only get down 3 times a week... I'm pretty sure we will be getting a romp in the morning of, at the very least...

Not planning on it but with a kid, and overtime for both of us right now it's already been a month. ??