Late 2020 Bride Feelings Dump

I’m December too, I totally understand how you’re feeling. Have you already ordered save the dates?
I sent mine already because my family is in another country and my FH’s family is on the opposite side of the country so we wanted to give them plenty of time.
I have stopped wedding planning for now, but I already have all my vendors booked so really only need transportation for guests and decorations. I don’t want to spend any more money now until the end of the summer because I feel like the next few weeks will be crucial in seeing if there are other waves and if people are going to get sick again since everything is reopening. I have already thought of our Plan B and we have decided we will get married no matter what. I am also ok with having to reduce my guest list to some extent so we can have the wedding still. The only thing I’m really worried about is my family that is out of the country. If the borders stay closed they won’t be able to make it here and I can’t imagine having my wedding without my grandparents.

View Quoted Comment I made all of my save the dates and was hoping to save money by just handing them out, but now I’m going to have to go through the process of sending them. I already have everything booked too so that is a relief, but I was originally hoping to make a lot more decorations, up until this point I was absolutely loving making everything for the wedding. I don’t have anyone from out of the country, but I hope you’re able to have everyone there. I’m sorry you’re having to grow this too. I have a couple back-up plans, a different site if needed, or an A-list if we can still use the venue, but honestly I just really want to be able to celebrate and enjoy the day with the whole list of people.

We had to postpone our April wedding to September. Right now I’m just waiting to see what the final guidelines are if we’ll be able to have our full guest count of 100, or will I have to go to 50.


My biggest piece of advice, is to go ahead and have a back up plan now, probably just have a smaller guest list to include all of your original vendors, and just wait and see what happens. That way your original vision with all of your vendors comes to life, just on a smaller scale.

Lol I literally just made a post similar to this...I'm a September bride and they just shut Baltimore city down until August 31st...we're September 19th 😬😬😬 This is already our 3rd new reopen date! What's a girl to do? 🤷🏾‍♀️ NO IDEA!!! I feel your pain, we sent save the dates back in March and now we haven't even released the website because we're unsure! Hang in there!

Hi Nicole,

I'm so sorry that you're feeling nervous, sad, frustrated, angry, and/or disappointed. You can take a break and get back to planning when you're feeling up to it. This is a good read: Wedding Planning Guilt Is Real Right Now—Here's How to Avoid It .

You are not alone during this difficult time. Here's a couple of discussions that may offer some degree of hope or emotional support:

The 5 stages of grief...

Where's the support when you need it?

If you feel like connecting with some other December couples, here's another discussion:

December Brides, covid

As you mentioned, some couples are adjusting their plans to get married (one way or another) on their original dates if that appeals to you. Options include ceremony now/reception later, elopement now/full wedding later, micro weddings and more. Also, WeddingWire has created a ton of resources here: Our COVID-19 Weddings Advice Guide.

I'm hoping for the best in December!

View Quoted Comment These resources are so helpful, thank you so much!

View Quoted Comment We have our “priority list” and as time goes on I’m accepting that more and more I was just hoping to have a big party!

View Quoted Comment I hope this one sticks! I wish everything wasn’t so up in the air, but I’m curious as to how you’re communicating with your guests without a website? For those that do know my website I made sure to let them know I’ll be putting updates on there

View Quoted Comment The telephone...all of our guests are family and very very close friends so a lot of them have already called us over these last two months checking in on us and about it! I don't think there is much of an update to give them. We have no clue on what's going to happen so we'll check in as needed.