KWR: People's comments on your Marriage/Wedding

I have a 68 y/o coworker who keeps telling me not to get married its a waste of time

Also alot of of ppl have something to say about it bc im moving out of state as well....so always get how do you know you want to be with him, how do you know if you will be happy there ect...ive been knowing him for 13yrs lol im pretty sure its him i want

"I would have just gone to the courthouse, it's stupid that you're spending money on a wedding!"... all the time. It's my money, why do you care what I do with it?!?

I think for me it's my aunt, who has never been married or has any children, giving me advice on how we should plan for kids, when we should have them, etc. It's really annoying.

My mom (who I don't have a good relationship with btw) is apparently telling family members that I'm spending too much money on my wedding and just need to go to the courthouse. Problems with that: my family isn't contributing a dime so why does she care and two, no one knows how much I'm spending on anything. #rollseyes

This isn't bad, but it's the one I still laugh about: after we got engaged last summer, I was chatting with my best friend about wedding dress shopping. I was saying "I want to hold off on it for a bit because..." and before I could finish with "because my taste might change" (2 year engagement), she suddenly burst out with "Yeah you could put on a TON of weight." Lol... Uh, gee thanks?

About a month before our wedding we were talking to my MIL on the phone and I was eating ice cream while she was chatting with DH. When he mentioned I was eating ice cream she said "Oh, it must be nice to be able to eat ice cream so close to your wedding and not worry about your dress fitting." On a similar note, when I was dress shopping the consultant said "Plus, you'll probably lose weight before your wedding anyway."

I'm not overweight at all, the samples were big on me. Apparently people thought I should have been more concerned about my weight. I didn't really give a shit.

I'm in a very male-dominated field for work, so I get a lot of questions about whether I'm "just going to quit and have babies" after I'm married.

"How 'bout go fuck yourself?" is usually my response.

I went to a club a few days after I did my name change on my drivers license so I handed my old ID and my paper ID to the bouncer and told him that I have a paper ID because I recently got married and his response was "I'm sorry." Like what do you even say to that?!

Oh... yeah... the infamous baby question!, when we were announcing the engagement to a particular group of friends, someone asked when did he asked (november) and if we already had a date set (also november, so it's a nearly 12 month engagement) after hearing the answers, a third person said "oh... so you're NOT pregnant then" *side eyed emoji*

I'm part of a networking group for work and mentioned that my wedding is going to be in Sonoma, CA, and one lady gasped and asked, "Sonoma?! Isn't that expensive?" Well.....sure it can be. Whether it is or isn't certainly is none of her business! I was too stunned, all I could think to say was that I got a good deal because it is off-peak season in December. But still. . ..

My aunt told me that FH and I "need to go down to the courthouse now". This is because FH and I have a baby and my family considers this so taboo *eyeroll* I also got told by my own mom that Im "not allowed to wear white." People suck.

For me it's when people make a comment about our wedding being halloween themed.

( why would you want to do that? Why not just do a nice fall wedding? Or we get the high eye brow arch. ...

I just feel people always have something to say. I feel tho most of thd time it's out of jealousy. People just can't be happy for one another...

At my bachlorette party this past weekend my MOH and cousin were with me in a tiny bar getting a few drinks before going dancing. These two dudes starting hitting on them, so I was just sitting there listening to them talk when one of the guys looks over at me and says, "Why do you wanna leave the game so soon?" I tried to just laugh it off, but he wanted an answer. I finally looked at him with a straight face and said, "I have complex health issues and I want to travel the world. I only trust my fiancee with my health, so I need to marry him so he can have power of attorney if I get hospitalized in a foreign country."

He stopped talking to me after that, but he bought all of our drinks, sooooooo.

Housekeeping at the hotel where we got married saw my wedding dress hanging up in the room I was sharing with two of my BMs and two days before the wedding, she tried to talk me out if it. "That's a gorgeous dress! Where are you getting married? Here? That's nice. When? Saturday? It's not too late, are you sure you want to go through with it? What's his name? Men with that name are no good. My niece was married to a ____. They're divorced."

We also received a lot of comments on our decision to get married in my home state where most of my family lives instead of locally. One woman had the audacity to ask my MIL, "Why would they do that?" Sorry?

Future father-in-law said something about "just so you know, divorce is much more expensive and complicated than breaking up"

I had a friend tell me to cancel everything...get refunds...stop spending money and let her plan everything because she knows more than I ever would. She said weddings are about saving and planning and she does that better than anyone.

"You know couples who live together for a long time before they get married get divorced right away."

You're right. The last five years were just for shits and giggles. I'll have the divorce papers drawn up during the reception.

My mom and dad ask if I'm sure and if is going to last I would expect it from my parents though lol oh and how come I don't marry a rich guy cuss I'm poor I've learned to bite my tongue didn't even tell FH

My mother keeps questioning my venue choice (is it what I really want or what he wants etc.) I think I finally shut down that one last time we were on the phone.

People keep asking why the long engagement (it'll be 16 months by the time we marry) and why so young (I'm in my mid-20s and have been with my FH for over 6 years. Hell I also get the fina-fuck-ally too because we've been together so long so there's no winning).

I hate when people say to FH "oh you have to check in with boss lady first" like no. We are two independent people who are capable of having our own opinion but respect each other enough to speak to each other before making plans.

Our wedding also gets compared a lot. Which is hella annoying.

Don't know what else to do but nod at people and say that's nice.

My FBIL is getting married in a few weeks. The cow he is going to marry keeps on trying to throw nasty comments my way. I made the comment about dress shopping the other day. Her response was don't copy mine. My response was I won't I don't need plus size. She was a pissed off heffer after that.