KWR: People's comments on your Marriage/Wedding

I have an insane FMIL lol i can keep control of that situation though. But she hates that I'm not girly lol and that i want to keep my name

So true! Like she's dead set against marriage. I know that. But still it sucks when someone does that when you aren't even bringing up your wedding. Like she made the comment just to make it.

When people ask when is my wedding I say NYE. Some ppl snarl and say " Why did you pick that day? " Because we fucking wanted to. Thats why! lol

I had someone assume that I was trying to fit into my wedding dress because I refused the cookies that she offered me. Never mind that they had almonds in them and I'm allergic lol. I also had a coworker who would make weird comments anytime someone brought up my wedding; he would say "oh, that's still happening?" or things like that.

@MrsMack that's awful! Yeah I just didn't want a drink. Also p.s. Thanks for assuming I'm on a wedding diet. I'm already self-conscious about my body in my dress (I'm just a harsh critic on myself). But damn her assumptions got under my skin today.

I have a coworker that keeps asking me if I'm going to be a runaway bride. Like...wtf? It's so rude to assume that I don't actually want to marry my fiancé. I feel like he's trying to joke around in order to start a conversation about my wedding, but I don't talk about my wedding at work and I'd like to keep it that way.

FH and I will be married on the one year anniversary of the day we met. Literally love at first sight; he is my everything.

That being said, I have a relatively close group of friends. I found out soon after my engagement that a few of my friends I'm not so close with were talking trash about FH and I - it's too soon, wasn't I just dating someone, "I bet her ring isn't a real diamond."

Most people are supportive but I've had a few unsolicited comments telling me I don't know what I'm getting myself into, it's too soon, I don't even know my FH, I'm dumb, fifty percent of marriages end in divorce, what happens when it doesn't work out.

ETA: I put my foot down and either tell them they're wrong or ignore them. I turn to the friends and family offering me love and support. They're the only ones who matter.

"He's supposed to do whatever it takes to make you happy, right? After all, you're going to be running the house."

All variations of this theme drive me batty. After the third time I heard it, I stopped being nice about correcting the moron saying that. In one case, I simply hung up the phone on someone trying to sell me something for the wedding - which I didn't particularly want anyway). It still makes my blood boil!

I've gotten some snide remarks about having a beach wedding in October, and the fact I want a long dress instead of short one.

My FMIL is baffled that I want to take "trash the dress" photos in the ocean after the wedding.

I only get to wear the dress once so who cares!?

A lot of my FH's family friends have rudely told me that as soon as I get married I won't be as petite as I am anymore. (I'm 4'10 and weight 90lbs) Like I know that I won't be this size forever but don't laugh in my face and tell me I'm gonna to get fat.

ETA I'm not fat shaming or body shaming, I've had people make inappropriate comments about my size my whole life and it bothers me when strangers who I've just met feel like they can comment on my body.

@Sarah - that sucks. If they were close to you and actually trying to give you advice, that's one thing. But that sounds like they're just being shitty for the sake of being shitty.

I also had a coworker tell me that I was going to get pregnant on the honeymoon. We're not TTC for a few years.

We have a 6 month engagement. Naturally, when I tell people the date, they do this completely unsubtle -eyebrows fly up look at my waist- "Well, that's so quick!"

I hate that.

I've been an attorney for over 20 years. Close to our wedding day, I went to HR to get the necessary forms to change my name and insurance. When I asked for the forms, the assistant looked at me and said, "Really? It's 2017. You don't HAVE to change your name. He should take yours." A young female associate attorney over heard the conversation (because she's a very loud woman) and chimed in saying, "I thought you were a strong role model." I looked at them both and said, "Clearly, this is none of your business. But since you decided to give your unsolicited comment let's make something very clear: I can make or break both of you." And then I walked away.

@mrsmack - eeexactly - the ones who spoke ill of it have also not reached out since to say "congrats" or even to hang out so....I think their invites got lost in the mail

We're also not TTC for a few years and we get the same comments "Oh you think you're not going to want to get pregnant right away but you'll change your mind"

Ughhh the struggle is real. I have so many it's hard to pick one.

I had the exact name change comments.

Ive gotten compared to other weddings like so and so had this, why aren't you going that?

I flat out got told by someone that they hated my venue and think it's the worst (tho they've never been and are just going off someone else's opinion they know who Im pretty sure also has never been).

Oh and I just love the wait until you're married, it'll all change and go down hill from there.

My boss bought me a chocolate cake for my college graduation (super nice gesture) but she made the comment of "I know you're supposed to be on your wedding diet but a few pounds wouldn't kill you" then gave me the chocolate cake, lol.

The thing that kills me is she was telling a story about some guy who said "smile" at her today when she was in the office. By her own admission she has resting bitch face, but went off about how "I don't need a man telling me how to feel or how to act or look", but is gonna tell me I don't need to change my name or get married. Anyone else confused???? It goes both ways honey!

When we first got engaged I had quite a few people ask me when the baby was due. Because obviously the only reason we'd want to get married is because we were expecting a child.

And if one more person comments on the date we picked I might snap. I'm perfectly aware of what the weather could be like in November, thank you for reminding me though.

@KitandKaboodle DAYUM, you tell 'em!

So far people have not been odd about my wedding... but since I quit drinking several people have asked if I'm pregnant, and thus, if that was why I was getting married. Ugh. x.x

@Kit you are my hero!!