KWR: People's comments on your Marriage/Wedding

My FH's BFF's wife asked why we were rushing to get married. Umm...1. I don't think a 10 month engagement is rushing. 2. That's what we want. and 3. Her engagement was 4 weeks!!! SO WTF!

Private_User832, I had several people ask me the exact same thing. I just told them I do what I do and not what others do.

@Kit - *internet high five* That's epic, and I love it!

The baby questions are coming more frequently now that we're married. When people ask if/when we're having our first baby, I give them a very bland look and ask "why are you so interested in my sex life?" Maintain eye contact for a few seconds (and watch them squirm) then move the conversation along. #sorrynotsorry No one has the right to ask such a personal question, so no, I don't feel bad for responding like that.

Me and my FH was engaged before, but we decided to postpone the wedding because at the time we found out we were having our little girl (She is One and sassy now lol) so a ex friend was like, "Are you sure you guys are going to do the wedding thing now?" I thought that was so shady, and I am glad we waited because we were able to save for the wedding we wanted, but the most part all i get is people setting high expectations for my dress lol

Some people have no class. I can't really think of anything off the top of my head, but that probably means they're talking trash behind my back.

You go, KitandKaboodle! I love it.

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My sister and her husband told me that my FH taking my last name is inappropriate and was taking away from his manhood. I kindly let them know that he made the decision all on his own and I never once asked him to take my last name. Then I told them that their opinion was inappropriate. I have yet to hear anything else from them

I can't with these posts hahaha you go ladies and gents !!! All I keep hearing in my head is this ....

Omg @KitandKaboodle best response ever. I wish I could have seen their faces!

I had a coworker assume that he was invited to the wedding. He said he always wanted to go to PR and it was the perfect excuse. I politely told him it was an intimate small wedding, and he said "I thought I was your friend" (which he isn't. We've never talked outside of work.) I awkwardly laughed and walked away. Now he brings up my wedding when I don't talk about it at work. "Puerto Rico is so hot." "Are you on a diet for your wedding?" "Why aren't you getting married here?" Blah blah blah.

@Ashley H I know how you feel. I've always been thin and now people assume that I'm going to change drastically when I get married. It's rude to comment on anybody's size, regardless if they're thin or not.

After I got married, I basically lost my first name at work. There was one guy in particular that any time he needed something from me he'd come over and say "Excuse me, MRS X" - which was ok for the first day or two but he did it for weeks.

He also is very unhappy in his marriage and complains about his wife all the times and kept telling me "you'll see how marriage REALLY is, give it time" or "oh you still let your husband do that?" - seriously shut up lol

@brieliz Ew, wtf.... who does that?

I showed my grandmother my dress she goes "oh good day girls shouldnt wear strapless" because mine has sleeves

My cousin and I are getting married in the same month and she told me family is complaining about that. They are also assuming we are in competition with each other even though our weddings are 100% different from one another! Our date is when the big town festival take place back home and so when people ask the date before save the dates went out they would make a comment "oh that's cornfest weekend I can't go. Or I won't be able to get off work for that". Great then don't come! Lol

Every time someone finds out I'm getting married they HAVE to comment on how young I am, and shouldn't I wait to make sure it's going to work out? And I have so much life left to live, I should be young while I can.

We'll shoot what if I'd like to be young with my husband the only person I could imagine spending the rest of my life with. And on top of that, we've been dating for 7 years. We've been through high school, college, long distance as well as the all too difficult first job search and second job search fiascos together. We've been long distance and short distance.

And also, it's none of your business.

Shortly after getting engaged, i was at a mini family reunion (I live OOT from my entire family) and I was talking with my cousins FW about their upcoming wedding. My mom brought a friend I'd never met before to the party, a recent bitter divorcee who had a few beers in the heat already that day, who turned to another cousin of mine and said loud enough for everyone to hear "Marriage is such a joke, don't do it".. and then proceeded to invite herself to my wedding.

I had a friend ask me, "is that diamond even real?"

To which I replied, "As real as my love for him!".

Well she came back, "still doesn't answer my question."

At that point, I was done with it. Just looked her in the eye and said "I don't need to, but now I'm saving more money on my wedding with one less guest! Thanks!"

Can't help fighting snotty with snotty sometimes.

@Kitandkaboodle, I am the opposite. FMIL really would like me to take FH's name although I am not going to for both professional reasons and because it would effectively erase my cultural identity.

She hasn't said anything, but keeps buying me stuff with their last name monogrammed to it. And I'm just like -.-

My engagement ring is a band with no center stone. I have had so many people tell me that I can just upgrade later when we have more money, and to not feel bad about how small my ring is. My mom asked me if the diamonds at least went all the way around the band...

Believe it or not it is the ring of my dreams!

@Ellen - I feel ya. FH's aunts have made remarks about our age and moving too fast through our whole relationship. Everyone else in our lives have been ridiculously supportive. We've been together for almost 9 years, time to accept it Aunties.

- I mentioned to the aforementioned Aunts that we were having a laid back wedding and the response I got in all seriousness was "So like jeans and tee shirts"? I just blankly looked at them and said you can try, but I'm pretty sure the country club security will bar you for breaking the dress code.

I also think it's extremely rude when people just ask how you're going to pay for the wedding. Like back up, you're not my damn accountant bro

ETA: words

Our parents have not met, but have talked on the phone about 3 times. They'll meet two days before the wedding when they both fly in to town.

My mother: "so if I don't like his mother, you'll call off the wedding?"