Kids VS No Kids at Wedding

we are going with an adult only reception..some ppl just don't control their children

The only children allowed at my wedding are the ones that's in the wedding and my nephew!

I'm having a no kid wedding! I went to a wedding a few weeks ago and all throughout the ceremony you couldn't hear what was going on because of babies screaming. I didn't even hear them say their vows. Then, in the reception, kids were runining around and knocking stuff down and it was horrible, IMHO. I think that kids are too young to even know what is going on at a wedding or the significance when they are young. Again, that is my opinion.

I don't even have any kids in my wedding party :-)

My philosophy is that kids have no place at a wedding. We are going to have our RB and FG there as well as each of theirs toddler sister. If it were up to me we would not have the toddlers there either. I think once you get to the age of 16 and can drive home someone who might have too much to drink then you are fine but anything before that just doesn't seem appropriate to me.

I also think that if you choose to do no kids then that should include family members also. It's not fair for some kids to be invited and then some are not. It's all or none

I'm only allowing our 3 nephews (ages 10, 9 and 3) who are participating in the ceremony. They are generally well behaved boys but to avoid any issues from the excess of sugar I will be feeding them, I plan on seating them with their parents during dinner and arming them with a ton of fun kid friendly stuff. I'm also having the chef prepare their favorites for their meal so they should be pretty happy all around.

My daughter is going to be my flower girl. She'll be 5 in December of this year. My son is going to be my ringbearer, he will be 9 this October.

I think my if I went with the no kids (aside from my own), I would have to atleast let my sister and brother bring their kids which are all very pretty good and would know when to HUSH HUSH and I don't see them running around like chickens with their heads cut off.

I just don't want to be rude to my friends by saying that their kids aren't allowed. How would you or did you word it when you let your guests know that no kids would be allowed??

I just had a quest RSVP for himself and his wife (those two were invited) and their 3 year old grandchild. Why do people awesome it is ok to just invite someone else and a 3 year old on top of that?! I didn't say though that it is adult only because I have two boys and my MOH has three.

My wedding is adults only. The only child coming is my flower girl/ soon to be step daughter.

I am having approximately 20 kids at our wedding and if it wasn't for the kids being there my wedding guest list would be really small. Since it is an outdoor wedding/reception we will have games outside that they can play with plus I am making coloring/activity books for each of the kids there. We have three kids of our own so if we didn't have other kids there too it would (to me) be weird.

I am having approximately 20 kids at our wedding and if it wasn't for the kids being there my wedding guest list would be really small. Since it is an outdoor wedding/reception we will have games outside that they can play with plus I am making coloring/activity books for each of the kids there. We have three kids of our own so if we didn't have other kids there too it would (to me) be weird.

This is a good question that I had not even thought about until now. My ceremony starts at 7:30pm and reception to follow and the more I think about it an 8pm reception there is going to be a lot of drinking, but I have 5 kids in the wedding 2 that are mine, so what would i do send them away after the ceremony and if so then I have to ask someone to leave to watch them! Now I'm not sure what to do?!

We will be allowing children to attend. For me, I just feel it would be inappropriate for me to ask my friends and family to not bring their children.

One thing that was suggested to me is to have a baby sitting service (maybe a neighbor teen you can throw $100 to or something) and have them setup at your house or a local hotel or whatever.

I am just saying no kids period except those included in the wedding and if someone does what they did to you Candice I will simply call them and let them know the kids aren't invited.

We had children at our wedding, but is was no where near 20 and two of them where the RB and FG. The rest were newborns so they don't really count as a "head" . If you want your sister to bring her kids you have to let your bro/FSI/FBIL kids too. Then cut it off. If it were me I would do the age of 16 like Glenn said or 18 and your two kids and call it a day!

@LaKiesha B. --- You could always say that kids are welcome, but warn the parents that the adults will be drinking a lot so it may be best to leave them at home.

For us, it seemed like a no brainer have children at our wedding, especially the ones we know. We feel like a wedding is all about love, relationships, and bonding. Why would I tell my guest they can't bring their loved ones? I really value the family and relationship bond, so I am excited that there will be full families with children at our wedding.

Yes I would let my sister and my brother bring his because they are my family and I want to share my day with my family. I think if I decided "no kids" then I would hope my friends would know and understand why I allowed my neices and nephews there (cuz they are FAMILY lol). My fiance's sister and brother do not have any kids so no worries there.

But if I allowed just my sister and my brother's kids then it would only be 7 kids instead of 20 which means I could invite 13 other guests that I had wanted to come.

My kids will be there no matter what, that is for sure so I am not even including them in the figures.

I don't want to be rude and I don't know how to word the no kids allowed thing without insulting or making someone mad... Maybe I could just say "It is STRONGLY urged to leave your underaged children at home as drinks will be served and weddings are rather boring for children anyways"???? lol

We're having an adult only wedding with no exceptions. The number of kids in our families way out number the adults.

@Holly... I am not against having children at weddings. It's just when you are on a tight budget and you have to cut your guest list down so that you can make that budget, you want your invites to count. If I went with no children then I would invite more of our friends and such. I know it seems wrong and my friends know I love their kids because I do... but if I only let family kiddos come (7 total) instead of everyones (20 total) then that is 13 more guests we could invite that we want to share our day with as well. Or 13 plates of food we would save money on!

Also, it is true that weddings tend to be boring for kids. There really is nothing for them to do and they are expected to sit and be quiet (which younger kids usually hate) for the ceremony, toasts, etc.

I think most people understand that weddings are largely for Adults only. Allowing kids outside of the immediate family to come has been in the minority of the weddings I have worked at.