Kidless wedding?? except for wedding party children Yes or NO?? VENT

I say go for it. However, if you have people with so many kids travel sling from out of town you might want to look into finding trustworthy babysitter references for those who can't leave the kids at home.

72 kids is alot, and i beleive you have the right to request a kid free wedding! as a parent I wouldnt take my kids to a reception, or I would arrange for them to leave early just because i wouldnt be able to enjoy myself, and they are cryers when they are sleepy.

We elected to make the wedding kid free as well (no one under 10). We are only making one exception, my cousin has a two year old and they live in AZ and I wanted them to come so we decided to make her our flower girl. They've been practicing with her, she can't toss petals but she looks super cute and we are just going to give her a flower pom to hold.

Feel people out. Most were excited to have a kid free evening (and told me they only bring their kids if they know other people are bringing their kids). Just keep in mind that some people may decline the invitation if they can't make arrangements for their kids, especially out of town guests.

I agree with Kayla, I'm having a completely adult only wedding, and I'm giving all those with kids notice that it's an adult only wedding. Some were already planning on leaving the kids, some were happy to be able to leave the kids, and I'm looking for a babysitter for those that may not have other options.

You dictate the guest list not the guests. I would politely but firmly tell those guests the wedding is adult only and you will be unable to accommodate their children. You hope they can make it but if they can't you will see them another time.

My wedding is adults only as well. The only kids present will be FGs and RB; besides that there will be another little girl who is FH niece (OOT) and 2 cousins that are more like siblings to us. I am very sorry for everyone else who wanted to bring their children but I just cannot afford to have them all come. I am glad that people have been ok with the idea so far since nobody has complained yet.

Thank you all for your opinions, all of our out of town guest are older like 50-60 with no small children. All of our families live in close range of each other.

We are having a small wedding our venue maxs out at 75. So we decided since 25people in my immediate family are children we would be advising people that it is an adults only reception. This has eliminated a few people who can never find babysitters.... However I feel as though it will be a much classier and upscale feel for all since there will be no kids crying or screaming or throwing fits because they dont like the food and only want to eat cookies This also allowed us to invite more guests that we'd like to share our special day with. Some feelings may have been hurt however it's our day and we are doing it how we want whether others approve or not!

Hi Amanda, welcome to WW.

Adult only weddings are fine. As Carrie said, you're dictating your guest list, not your guests. Also, you have over a year to go. People will throw fits over this and that. Learn how to put your foot down early and your life will be easier.

Also, could you please change your avatar under your proflie to anything other than salt and pepper shaker?

I may have a different opinion but I understand why they are mad. If some one said to me, this kid and this kid is allowed but yours are not, I would feel like my kid/kids aren't good enough to attend the wedding. That being said, I dont have kids and would want a kidless wedding. You are in a tight spot by saying some kids can come and some can't

Have you thought of saying, the kids that are coming are in the wedding party, and will be leaving after supper? that way your guests may understand more as to why they are allowed to come and their kids are not? Than your kids and the wedding party kids could go to a baby sitter. The 7 dollars an hour may be worth not having a lot of people mad at you.

We have 4 children, ranging from 2.5-13yrs old, they are part of the wedding. My invites state that it is an "adult only reception"...but our wedding ceremony and reception are at the same place.

My sis is traveling 1500km for the wedding & has 3 girls, she is finding a sitter from them for the night of the wedding. FH sister's, they are going to be a whole other story...one sister has one child & the other sister has 2 children...they are going to give us a hard time... FH mentioned that he didn't know if they would listen to the fact that it is for adults only.... argh!!

I have told a lot of my friends that are being invited, that it is adult only, they are more than happy to be having a night out without kids.

We've decided to allow the kids to come to the pictures that we are doing in the afternoon before the wedding, that way they can share in our day.

I also don't want the reception to be a zoo, our 2 little kids will leave early & the older 2 mid evening

Zero kids at our wedding. The youngest person will be FH sister whos a bridesmaid and she'll be 18

Id say as long as the kids that are coming are in the wedding its fine to say no kids especially if there your own

Our wedding is adults only other than the kids in the wedding party. We did this for two reasons...one we didn't want kids running around during the reception or even younger kids getting restless during the ceremony and crying interrupting the ceremony and the other reason is...kids aren't free at our venue. They are only 1/2 price which still adds to our budget (we are paying for everything). Some people will take offense but its your wedding and you can't please everybody. Explain to them why you have requested this and see if that helps.

Thank you all very much for your opinions!!! My mind and decision is a little more at ease!!!

I dont blame you for not wanting a zoo at your wedding! The only kids at our wedding will be our two boys, since they are in the WP. I would say NO KIDS under 12! Its your day, I wouldnt want to be babysitting everyones kids or wondering whos getting into what.

Maybe its just me, but whenever we get a wedding invite in the mail, the first thought I have is, WHOS WATCHING THE KIDS?? Because I want a night out alone!! I dont know why anyone would want to bring their kids... just mho

It's horribly rude that people are telling you they will "bring the kids anyway". Shame on them. Do what Carrie said and stand your ground. As long as you draw a hard line and don't make any exceptions, you're totally in the right.

We only invited the children in our immediate families (our siblings' kids and our goddaughter) and the 3 littlest ones were in our WP. We didn't invite any of our friends' children. It would have almost doubled our guest list. If people couldn't make it without their kids, they didn't come. Otherwise nobody complained. And most of them flew from out of state, leaving kids behind with grandparents or babysitters for the weekend.

I will never understand the mentality of people who think their small children should be included in all social functions. Don't people want a grownup evening once in a while?

My issue is that FH sisters will bring their kids and let them run all over (the kids are 3, 5 & 9). One of his sister's came to a family wedidng last summer and the daughter stayed at the reception until after 11pm....

I agree with you Amy, when I get an invite, my first thought is, who will be our sitter...

I am sending my 2 older children home mid evening and they will be upset if their cousin who is 3+ years younger gets to stay and is still running around. I wouldn't take my children to a bar or pub with me, so I don't want to have them standing around all night at a reception. I love that they will be a part of the day & evening, but I will not be as relaxed and be as able to enjoy myself with them there...

@Amy C. we are the same way when we get a wedding invite. We call a sitter the day we RSVP to see if they can watch my children, then we RSVP yes or no. I will not take my children to a wedding other than mine until they are older much older.

I'm having the same problem. MY kids will be at MY wedding, duh. But all my dozens and dozens of cousins? Get outta here! Truthfully, I wish my guest list was even smaller than it currently is- it's an OOT wedding and if ppl would rather not come than have to leave their kids behind- then it'll honestly make my life so much easier! We can barely afford it as is and out of the 105 ppl we're inviting, I continue to wish, hope and pray that only aboout 60 show up. Kids only may offend some, but making a scene and trying to ruin someone's wedding day over it is totally bonkers. I say, "Please- don't come!" I'm not gonna waste my wedding day worrying about your kids~ they can't come, I can't afford it. Ppl can't get mad at you b/c you don't have the $ to pay for almost 100 kids at your wedding! Family can be so crazy about this stuff.

I would never say 'no kids at my wedding' but I totally understand why you're doing it for budget reasons. That would be the only reason that I would even think about going that route. I love the kids in my family and his and wanted them there also on our big day. I just couldn't imagine telling my little cousins and nephews, 'sorry, you can't come to my wedding', I would feel like the mean aunt.