Kidless wedding?? except for wedding party children Yes or NO?? VENT

@Sam D. thats what im afraid of is children running around. People dont watch their kids and are constantly on the dance floor and I dont know how many times that I have seen an adult fall down and trip on a child because the child is on the dance floor. Just last month a friend of ours had children at her wedding and the children were out of control and knocked over her cake.

Go for it..Im gonna do same things (probably worse though cause my MOH 2 kids will be allwoed to be there cause she is from out of state). ....people will talk smack but oh well I dont need their kids running a mock and yelling during my ceremony or reception....

Our wedding is going to be 18 and up, with the exception of the 2 kids in the wedding party! We simply have too many kids in our families to invite them all, and I think wedding receptions are a more grown-up event anyways. Because a number of parents will be traveling, we are inviting the kids to the rehearsal dinner only (which the parents are aware of, and okay with). We haven't gotten any complaints, thankfully. I think only having the kids in your wedding party is entirely okay - especially if they are your kids/kids you are the guardians for. I think that's an easy place to draw the line - I can't believe anyone would complain that you only let your own kids attend.

I had this issue too, but I was afraid to cut kids across the board. So I came up with the idea to cut it off at 1st cousins. That eliminates a LOT of the children that were taking up space and people are more likely to take better to cutting off at a certain branch of family than they are if you tell them their kids can't come.

@Sara D, yeah feeding 72 children is alot. So my 4 kids will be just fine for me. 72 children is more then some people will be having at their wedding total.

Yo! Amanda M~ 72 kids is nuts, that's more total people than I want at my wedding. lol.

Ok so I already know this question is going to come up and what would you ladies do??

I have 2 cousins that will be having babies both in December and I know they are gonna ask if they can bring their babies because they are nursing. What would you say??

Thanks!

72 kids is a lot of kids they would be running everywhere. We had no kids at the wedding except the ones in the BP which were ours my niece and nephew and a last min. one that they babysitter cancelled the morning of the wedding. People are going to complain no matter what you do. If you and you FH dont want kids at your wedding then tell the guest that no kids are allowed end of story they dont like it they dont need to come

Are you having alcohol?? For that reason, you could even go and say no one under 21.... my family has a lot of kids in it, but we are only going to involve those closest. For example, FH has a niece and 2 nephews, so we will probably give them a role for the ceremony (handing out programs, etc..) and then we have 2 children which wil definitely be in the ceremony!!! I was thinking I didn't want any of them at the reception, I don't want to have to worry about what they are doing), but I was thinking maybe for the entrance, and maybe FH has a dance with our daughter, and them our son have a dance with me, but then they would leave. Not completely sure yet, but those will be the only kids allowed at any part of the reception.....

@Amanda- your cousisns' babies will be 7 months old then.. they will also be on solid foods by then as well, and they can pump, so there is no reason why they would "have" to bring the babies.... I nursed my daughter, but I still did things and didn't always bring her. Yes, it is MUCH easier to bring the baby with you, but its not mandatory. Who knows, they may want a break and not even want to bring their babies!!! I know I wouldn't want to so that I could enjoy the night!!!! Good luck!

Mine.... No kids! My invitation will make that very clear. Me and FH have one nephew each and they are the ring bearers. No flower girls either.

We are having a kid free wedding. The only under age people is FH's son who is 16 and his sister 14. My FSIL was was trying to bring her 4yr son. My FBIL, her husband, is in the wedding. I explained the situation but didn't get the hint. FH called his brother and explained.

Please stick to your guns. If they show with kiddies escort them out and tell them there is no room.

My cousin had 350 at her wedding and about 80 were kids. Before they got to the reception the kids basically tore up the venue and destroyed part of the cake.

Mrs S. Picture is changed!! sorry it took so long cant put pics on my computer at work so had to wait till I got home!

I'm not having anyone under the age of 18 at my wedding, except for the ring bearer who is my nephew (will be 2 when the wedding comes around.). Both my FH and I aren't kid people, and I don't want a bunch of kids running around the reception. A lot of my cousins have little ones, and all of my FH's cousins have kids as well. If they can't find a babysitter, then they just won't come to the wedding. I'm going to put on the invitations "Adult only reception," and emphasize the no kids rule at the next get-togethers. I might sound harsh, but you have to cut it off somewhere.

Thanks :-) it's a gorgeous ring!

I wouldn't use alcohol as an excuse, just because you will have SOME kids there. I would say space and money limitations. Another thing is that many people who have kids at their weddings have specific activities for them. Like an on-site sitter, games, etc. But all that increases the cost of the wedding.

It's not going to be easy but it'd doable. We only had one person, who was unfortunately my MoH making problems. But at the end of the day most people respect when you say no.

Agree with pp, 7 month old babies can be left with sitter (or grandparents, i'm assuming they have a set that is not invited to the wedding).

We are inviting 120, no kids, no exceptions. Fh has 2 daughters (ages 6 & 7), and they will be leaving after the ceremony. I feel if we aren't inviting our own kids, then everyone else has no excuse. Plus, we would have 56 kids to invite. That would be a full third of my wedding. No. Just, no.

I am with Candra N. I could never have no kids even with age restrictions. We will have a total of over 100 kids and my budget is 5 grand (started out at half that!!) I have kids party favors and grab bags for them and all. We are a very kid oriented family and to not have them out on the dance floor like the world has disappeared, would feel bare and lonely!!! Kids can add up to a lot of extra expense but we picked a meal where kids would get kid portions easily and adults would get adult portions, it didn't raise my budget at all. I had extra cash to spend, so I got the favors and grab bags for them. I personally would struggle with being invited to a wedding and finding a sitter since I live in a small town and everyone would gun to find the same sitter because there are few good ones around here. I understand your plight though and wish you the best of luck!!

I will never go against the wishes of a host in such a situation like a wedding! Where are their manners? Ugh! If I am uncomfortable not having my kids I would sit my behind at home and be absent! But to think of imposing my kids on your occasion especially your wedding? that is just plain RUDE!

@Lisa W. I have mentioned it a few times at the last family gatherings and boy do I get dirty looks and snarky comments. I am a very strong opinionated person, so when they say their little rude comments I fire back. The way I see it now that my decision is at ease is that if they have a problem with it then they dont have to come. If our wedding is that important to them then they will find a sitter.

We too are not having kids at ours. Only the ones that are in the wedding. That also includes my fiance's two boys.