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Keep or Cancel: Traditional Wedding Vows?

Lynnie, on July 16, 2019 at 11:05 AM

Posted in Wedding Ceremony 200

Do you still get emotional when you hear the traditional promises of "in sickness and in health"? Or are you all-in on modernizing the old wedding vows and making them more personal to your relationship? Do you want to keep or cancel the traditional wedding vows? Photo by The Pros Weddings -...

Do you still get emotional when you hear the traditional promises of "in sickness and in health"? Or are you all-in on modernizing the old wedding vows and making them more personal to your relationship?

Do you want to keep or cancel the traditional wedding vows?


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200 Comments

  • Jessica
    Savvy September 2020
    Jessica ·
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    Keep! My fiancé and our families are Catholic so we’re having a traditional Catholic ceremony.
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  • A
    Savvy April 2021
    Ashley ·
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    Cancel, writing on own vows
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  • Cora
    Savvy June 2021
    Cora ·
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    Keep, but without the religious framing. The vows aren't super important to us, so it's easier to just do a "cookie cutter" ceremony
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  • Kim
    Savvy September 2019
    Kim ·
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    Cancel. I think that it's more personal when you make your own. There's something about that "obey" part that I just can't get behind.
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  • Robin
    Savvy October 2020
    Robin ·
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    Keep. I originally wanted to do my own vows, but I've recently found a deep meaning in the traditional vows. I might add my own small personal vow to the end, but the traditional are keepers.

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  • J
    Savvy November 2020
    Jennifer ·
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    Keep with creativity. Mesh traditional with new age. Share personal vows, but still enter into the contract of marriage with the traditional vows.
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  • Samantha
    Super August 2019
    Samantha ·
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    Cancel! We are having a Jewish ceremony and I’ve written our own vows, as well as our Ketubah, 7 blessings and wine blessing. Everything is personalized for us.
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  • Elizabeth
    Dedicated November 2019
    Elizabeth ·
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    Cancel. I don’t obey anyone 😂
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  • Meghan
    Savvy January 2020
    Meghan ·
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    I do think the language needs to be updated. But really this one is a little of both. For us it is a cancel because neither one of us are religious so our whole ceremony will kind of be our creation. Also, we've written things for each other a lot so personalized vows just feel right.
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  • Heather
    Devoted December 2019
    Heather ·
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    Cancel, we decided right away we wanted to write our own vows Smiley smile can’t wait to hear what he says Smiley smile
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  • Kelly
    Dedicated October 2020
    Kelly ·
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    Keep. Although I'm not a "traditional" bride (first wedding at 54), I love the traditional vows. They choke me up every time.

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  • Erin
    Beginner October 2020
    Erin ·
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    Keep in a way. The wording for phrases might be similar but it will have relationship specific stuff too.
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  • Just Us Two
    Dedicated February 2021
    Just Us Two ·
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    Keep the traditional wedding vows because reciting your own vows can turn into a bunch of unnecessary rambling. This waste time and frustrates the guest.
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  • Elisa
    Dedicated May 2021
    Elisa ·
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    I'm not sure just yet. There's something about the idea of hearing those words directed to me that gives me a surreal "omg it's happening to me" feeling. But I am a writer and know no one can express how I feel towards my FH better than me. TBD.

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  • A
    Devoted July 2020
    Ali ·
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    Were not sure yet. Itll probably be some combination of old and new. Maybe with both our heritages involved hes Cherokee and I'm Irish.
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  • Shilo
    Dedicated October 2020
    Shilo ·
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    Keep for sure.
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  • Angel
    Savvy May 2021
    Angel ·
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    Cancel. We are doing a Native American ceremony with vows and I think they are way more meaningful and heartfelt. I think the traditional vows are overdone and overly simple.
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  • Alli
    Devoted October 2020
    Alli ·
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    Cancel, but I want to keep the idea behind them, but update it to be special for us.

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  • Dedicated September 2024
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    We're doing both! After the traditional vows, before the "I Do's" we are going to say our own vows to each other. It's traditional and it's personal to the two of us.
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  • Rachel
    Devoted October 2019
    Rachel ·
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    We're keeping these, it's one of the only traditional aspects we're maintaining.

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