JEANS AT A FORMAL RECEPTION????

Does not mean that i don't have a dress code for my family. Am i over reacting. I did ask all my friends and my co-workers and they all agreed with me. Please let me know what you think about this, thanks!!!!

I agree w/ you 100%!I think he is being very disrespectful of your wishes.

Oh my goodness. Some people. You know what Antoinette, I would put the ball back in his court. And I would certainly send him packing on a guilt trip. I would just tell him "If it's too much of a bother for you to put on a pair of slacks and if you want to embarrass your sister by wearing jeans to your wedding then by all means please do so." I mean good grief. Is her allergic to slacks? Geesh!

I know my baby brother doesn't dress up much so I just point blank asked him if he had something to wear to my wedding. He is walking my mother down the aisle to be seated so yeah I want him to have something nice. he didn't hesitate to tell me that he was concerned about it and wondered if he needed to get a tux b/c he's not working right now so he wanted to figure out what he needed to do. So I told him that I would take him shopping to get him something to wear. Not going to rent him a tux. If I'm going to spend the money I'd rather get something he can use again - like possibly to a job interview lol.

This reminds me of an awful wedding I was in a few years ago--the MOH tried to bring her UNTRAINED CHIHUAHUA to the rain site indoor ceremony (I stopped her, although I wasn't able to stop her from letting it run around the cabin we were all in peeing on other people's stuff). After the ceremony, she IMMEDIATELY changed into jeans and a t-shirt--it wasn't a very formal wedding overall, but she was changed before they even did wedding party photos; it was crazy. I don't know why some people can't figure out that being at someone else's wedding means respecting their wishes. I would personally not risk him actually showing up in jeans since he's obviously unable to comprehend that he's being a butt--I would just tell him flat-out that the venue may not have a dress code, but you do, and you are sorry if he is unable to adhere to it, but it's a requirement for attendance.

Hopefully he's just being obnoxious to watch you react. I coulnt imagine your own brother actually wearing jeans...

Well, I would tear my bro a new one if he showed up in jeans.

Just be clear about the importance of the day. If that doesn't work tell him that youre spending a buttload of money on your attire the LEAST he could do is tie a tie and wear dress pants!

Ladylee you are so funny. My brother does not work either maybe i sound get him a suit too (lol). I was so angry of his response to me and i wanted to say WTF??? didn't you hear me the first time. Actually the last thing he said to me was i probably won't be at your reception then. My response to him was OK. I will be 42 in a couple of days and i am SOOOO tired to bumping heads with that idiot!!!!

Thank you ladies!!!!

Antoinette,

I think he should make a sacrifice for just one day...it's only one freakin' day! I would do that for my sister if she asked me to. Well if he doesn't go one less plate you have to pay for, lol!!

Antoinette, maybe I'm just mean but I've already tasked my MOH to be the enforcer on my wedding day. NO ONE will be in jeans! FH already instructed his friends and coworkers to wear slacks n shirts or suits and my lil bro is wearing a tux (GM) I've made it very clear that t-shirts or jeans are not happening. I think your bro is being very selfish and inconsiderate and should just get over himself. It's your wedding. Just out of respect he should care enough to dress up and not embarass you.

@ladylee, you are too funny. I def agree tho.

@cabell, I would've had a frickin fit!!! Ugh! ppl these days...

Is he married? If not, you can tell him, "If you wear jeans to the reception, rest assured I will wear a bikini to your wedding when the time comes around. Your bride will not be happy. Oh and by the way, thanks a lot for the undue stress you are putting on me for this stupid little issue. I really appreciate your consideration for what I am going through right now."

@msshay: You would not have BELIEVED this woman. She was a nightmare. Not only did she put on the jeans and tee for the photos, she suddenly decided she needed to drive back to Arkansas literally five minutes before she was supposed to be making a toast. She was there while the Best Man was making one, and then bam--we looked around and she was gone. Fortunately, another BM had known the bride since elementary school, so she went ahead and gave it.

@Hillary: No kidding!

Hillary that is soooo funny!!! @Melissa my thoughts were the same as yours (i get to save $100 dollars) lol. @Cabell that is so messed up what that woman did. I really don't understand some people. All i can say is WOW!

Oh my gosh, what is his problem?? Does he have any nice clothes? Maybe he doesn't own anything appropriate and is embarrassed to tell you, so he is being rude about the jeans thing to save face. I know it's hard when someone is being immature, but be the bigger person. Say "Brother, I love you and I really want you to be at my wedding reception, but the event WILL have a dress code even though the venue does not. I do not want anyone wearing jeans and think it would be disrespectful of anyone to do so against my and my husband's wishes, so I hope you will let me rent you a tux/buy you a suit so that you can attend, because obviously, as my brother, you're very important to me and I hope you feel the same way."

Msshay i even asked the photographer what he was wearing!!

Sheesh what a dink. Kahaki's aren't that much!! You can even go to most second hand stores and get a pair for $5! I don't see what his issue is but he needs to stop thinking about what he wants, it's not HIS wedding! Some people think that this is inappropriate but I'm putting something on the invites about wearing semi formal attire and I've put the word out through both families that if anyone (guests) asks them what to wear they're primary answer is "no jeans! Semi formal attire"

@Hillary: lol, that is awesome.

The reality is if he shows up in jeans, it will make him look foolish, not you. Clearly, if he took the time to call the venue and ask for a dress code (who DOES that???) then this is the hill he wants to die on--for whatever reason (you'll probably never know for certain).

It speaks volumes about his lack of manners (not to mention taste). Your best bet is to simply ignore it. It will only show how classy you are!

No you are not overacting...your brother needs to suck it up and wear what you've asked him to wear or else...

@Antoinette, I did too! lol. Same for the DJ. Beach wedding doesn't mean you can show up in your trunks lmao. It'll work out. People try putting up a fight just to be buttholes. He will get over it. Pay for the tux/suit if you have to. Even if it does make him look foolish, it'll make you uncomfortable. Your happiness should be priority

@Maureen thanks!!!!

@msshay i offered to get his tux

Leave it up to a family member to ask if he sould wear jeans!!! lol Does anybody want a brother???