JEANS AT A FORMAL RECEPTION????

Antoinette: I don't think you're overreacting at all! Do you think he doesn't want to because it's a money issue? Is he either a larger guy or too skinny? Sometimes guys get weird about what they wear (such girls! I know lol) because it'll make them look too big/too skinny. As your relatives or friends that spend more time with him and see if he's brought up the issue and what his reasons are.

I hope you can get your hard-headed brother to his senses!

If it was my brother I would have kicked his ass. Lol.

Oh, and I will kick mine's butt if he tries to show up in jeans!

Danya: That's a good point--my sister was complaining about having to wear SANDALS as a BM (in an outdoor wedding in Nevada! In late May!), and my mom says it's because she thinks she has "wide toes" and sandals will highlight this "flaw." I have just given up on talking to her about this kind of thing, so I never said anything to her, but seriously, if you're a BM, nobody is looking at your feet--put on your big girl panties and deal. Anyway, I can see how it might be a similar issue for the brother, too, even though he ought to also be putting on his big boy pants.

Kuddos to you for staying calm - if my bother asked me that I think I would be anything by calm. Your bother is so out of place. He must know that this isn't right because he felt the need to ask you, if he didn't see it as a problem he would have just shown up in jeans. You are even going as far as offering to rent him a tux so he has no excuse for acting that way. You are not over reacting at all - stand your ground and don't give in to him no matter how many times he asks!

@Cabell- totally! Like, I was trying on wedding dresses 2 days ago and I was picking out all my flaws in each dress lol and I can see how he could be self-concious about something he thinks the suit will make more "visible"

A good suit tailored right should make most guys look better than jeans, Even a rented suit can be tailored to your needs and size.