Jack and Jill

Idk if i will register for gifts the party. we are asking for money for the wedding gift so we might set up a honeyfund if anything

Okay. Now I think this person HAS TO BE a troll!

Because i want money for my wedding?

I mean you might not care but:

Honeyfunds sell your information and your guests information to advertisers so be prepared for sales calls and emails out to wazoo.

Honeyfunds charge you to withdraw the money and don't actually book anything or offer discounts.

Some Honeyfunds charge your guests to put money towards something AND charge you to withdraw the money.

Some honeymoon "experience" websites won't let you withdraw the money unless you pay off the remainder of the entire experience. If you need to reschedule an experience they charge you a penalty and to reschedule.

I made a Honeyfunds and never use it and am still relentlessly hounded by their marketing.

In general Honeyfunds are giant scams set up to charge you and your guests for the privilege to appear as though they are helping you organize your honeymoon when in fact it's just clipart, text, and a scammy version of PayPal.

No!!! This is not real!! I can't believe the responses from OP!!!! I am laughing so hard.

Don't do this! Save some money and have a small wedding that you can afford.

This reminds me of my old co-workers friend who legit created a GoFundMe page to find his wedding. It said something along the lines of.. "help us pay for the wedding we have always dreamed of". I can't!!!! And to still ask for a honeymoon fund after? This has got to be fake!!!

Jack and hell no.......

I try really hard to not be judgmental, but this was my face throughout this whole thread:

What the hell???? A fundraiser for a wedding?

I mean... how much are these tickets? A dollar? $5? I mean even $10 pp won't get you too far. Honestly I don't see the point. Am I missing something?

Ok, so I posted before reading (shame on me!) $60! $40! $20? Oh no no no! I've been to baby showers where we would play Bingo for a dollar each maybe $5 each, if a small crowd. The winner would get a giftcard, maybe to a coffee place fo $10 or so and the cash would go to the mother to be. Really for the fun of playing and they may buy an additional box of diapers or whatever. But this does not sound like fun... this is literally an entrance fee? Can you attend without buying the raffle? Ugh, so many questions! But def a hard no from me!

I think at this point we should all just wait for her future post about how she will include an invoice for her cost per person with her rsvps. Lol

I've been a bridesmaid in a wedding that did this type of Jack and Jill and I hated it. It was a regional thing, but not something I was familiar with. We had to do this in addition to a regular bridal shower and bachelorette party. Don't make your bridal party do this. It sucks.

@Jamie, I think you make a good point. Honestly, who wants to go to a 250 person party that is hosted poorly, requires new clothes and travel, and wonder what gimmee-gimmee's they'll be subjected to along the way?

Eventually, every discussion of some variety of poor hosting comes down to two arguments; "it's my day' and 'if they love me enough."

Neither one of those arguments is true unless you're eloping with your parents in tow, possibly the only people who love you enough to be subjected to party abuse in the name of matrimony....

You can't just decide on a bad plan and then defend it to the grave. It's still a bad plan, your guests WILL remember and talk about you, and honestly, why does anyone want to be *that* host? (Or rather, non-host...)

These parties are common in my area. I refuse to go to them. My own cousin had one. I didnt go because its rude as all hell to ask for money for your wedding. If you cant afford the big princess party wedding dont host one. Have a smaller affair and host your guests according to your budget. Needless to say my cousins wedding wasnt that great. Food was ok, ceremony was weird (they used a friendor), dj was terrible. (Again, they used a friendor who olayed rap music most of the night, didnt listen to requests, made the night about marketing himself, and then when he finally played some requests he made a joke of it). So their jack and jill fundraiser didnt even really help their case.

For the baby shower thing, Ive been to a few where it has been asked to bring a pack of diaoers or a childrens book in leiu of a card. I am fine with that. Often times I will include both those items with whatever I get off their registry because babies need diapers, and I love sharing my favorite childrens books with new mommies to start a little library for them.

Of COURSE there will be honeyfund. Was there ever any doubt?

Pay. For. Your. Own. Wedding.

Your wedding is not worthy of a fundraiser. Fundraisers should be for things like, ALS research, or, help end child hunger, NOT, give me money so I can wear a pretty dress and have a big party. To answer your question, my ex co-worker did this. I threw my invite away seeing as I wasn't even invited to the wedding and I live in an area where going to someone's tacky ass raffle night is not a common thing. I heard it wasn't well attended. People still talk about it. They had a wedding with a cash bar.

Nope, never heard of that before.

If I am making a basket to raffle off, I expect the profits to come to ME

ETA wait if I am making you a basket do I still have to pay for my ticket in, or does that cover my entrance fee?!?

It's 2PM in the afternoon, next day. I'm lurking on WW in the office on mobile and this thread is STILL going.

Amazing.