Jack and Jill

Do not ask your guests to help pay for your wedding.

Nothing wrong with a coed bridal shower. But do not sell tickets or have raffles.

It is a custom is some geographical areas. In those area, you are less likely to get side-eyed. It is a cheap evening out. People go to Jack and Jills or Stag and Does for people they don't even know because the tickets and drinks are cheap, there is dancing and prizes and often they are in small towns where there is not much else to do.

Having said that, if it were common where you live, you would know about it and wouldn't need to ask questions of strangers on the 'net.

Well according to the rhyme it didn't end well for Jack and I don't think it will end well for anyone throwing one of these events.

I never heard of one before my coworker told me about hers...i didnt think it sounded tacky it sounds like a way to get help with your wedding

Idk what's going on in WW land lately, but I want out.

Goodnight.

I could see that being a thing in a small town. That makes sense. I've never heard of it, though.

Melissa ask your friend who is serving as your wedding planner whom you don't plan to pay. She seems to have a very realistic outlook and I'm sure she'll advise you that Jack and Jill's are tacky. Host the wedding you can afford and please do not fundraise for your wedding.

Never heard of this

Jack and Jill parties are a thing, yes.

However, inviting people only to have them *buy* their entry into the party and then purchase raffle tickets for it is just a blatant money-grab.

Are you supposed to invite people to this and have them pay to get in? or is it like a fundraiser where anyone can come

Omg. no.

I've been to Jack and Jills but it was basically just a co-ed party. The one I went to was in a private room at a restaurant and we had apps and cocktails. No one made us pay for raffle tickets like it was some weird carnival. No one made baskets. No one asked us to help the bride and groom pay for *their* wedding. We just had a nice party and the bride and groom opened gifts together. It was fun and I liked having my DH with me for it.

Please don't do raffle anything. Please don't panhandle to your guests to pay for your wedding. If you do this it won't go over well. It's incredibly rude to ask your guests to pay for a wedding.

No, you don't invite people and have them pay to get in.

No, it is not a fundraiser where anyone can come.

Weddings are not fundraisers.

Wedding-related events are not fundraisers.

Viewing a wedding and/or a wedding-related event as a fundraiser is not a good thing.

Popping some popcorn for ww reading tonight........

I dont understand, if there is a way to get help paying for your wedding, why wouldnt you do it?? how is that tacky?? none of my guests would mind paying to go to a jack and jill, i think they would enjoy it

I get what your saying but i think it depends on your friends and family and i know that mine wouldnt mind

Wow ....

It's extraordinarily tacky to have other people pay to fund your wedding or honeymoon. I know for a fact that my family wouldn't say a WORD to my face if I pulled a stunt like this, but there would be major side-eye that I would richly deserve.

Besides, who wants to be the bride who asked the guests to fund her wedding?

Uhh what? My FH and I are having a coed bridal shower (my mom is hosting) and no one is buying tickets for anything. No no no.

@Melissa You think panhandling is adorable? What?!

I'm so confused. Why don't you just go to every friend and family member's house and just ask them to give you their disposable income. They won't tell you to your face that your are being rude but believe me they will talk about it for years.