Melissa
Just Said Yes May 2018

Jack and Jill

Melissa, on November 3, 2017 at 9:10 PM Posted in Planning 0 84
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Has anyone done this before?? my coworker is doing one. she said that its basically a coed bridal shower and ppl buy tickets to it and you can raffle stuff off. like if my bridesmaids made baskets or something. its suppose to be a way to help pay for your wedding. has anyone done this before and how did it go??

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Latest activity by RustyTheDog, on November 4, 2017 at 4:07 PM
  • MrsMcK
    VIP September 2017
    MrsMcK ·
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    Do not ask your guests to help pay for your wedding.

    Nothing wrong with a coed bridal shower. But do not sell tickets or have raffles.

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  • muriel
    Champion June 2018
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    It is a custom is some geographical areas. In those area, you are less likely to get side-eyed. It is a cheap evening out. People go to Jack and Jills or Stag and Does for people they don't even know because the tickets and drinks are cheap, there is dancing and prizes and often they are in small towns where there is not much else to do.

    Having said that, if it were common where you live, you would know about it and wouldn't need to ask questions of strangers on the 'net.

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  • Ariella
    Super March 2018
    Ariella ·
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    Well according to the rhyme it didn't end well for Jack and I don't think it will end well for anyone throwing one of these events.

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  • Melissa
    Just Said Yes May 2018
    Melissa ·
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    I never heard of one before my coworker told me about hers...i didnt think it sounded tacky it sounds like a way to get help with your wedding

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  • Future Mrs. G
    VIP February 2018
    Future Mrs. G ·
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    Idk what's going on in WW land lately, but I want out.

    Goodnight.

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  • Bulbasaur
    Devoted September 2020
    Bulbasaur ·
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    I could see that being a thing in a small town. That makes sense. I've never heard of it, though.

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  • Melinda
    Super August 2018
    Melinda ·
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    Melissa ask your friend who is serving as your wedding planner whom you don't plan to pay. She seems to have a very realistic outlook and I'm sure she'll advise you that Jack and Jill's are tacky. Host the wedding you can afford and please do not fundraise for your wedding.

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  • Millie
    Expert April 2018
    Millie ·
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    Never heard of this

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  • Jaimee
    Master October 2019
    Jaimee ·
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    Jack and Jill parties are a thing, yes.

    However, inviting people only to have them *buy* their entry into the party and then purchase raffle tickets for it is just a blatant money-grab.

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  • Melissa
    Just Said Yes May 2018
    Melissa ·
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    Are you supposed to invite people to this and have them pay to get in? or is it like a fundraiser where anyone can come

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  • FutureMrsA
    Savvy May 2018
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    Omg. no.

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  • Mrsbdg
    Champion August 2017
    Mrsbdg ·
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    I've been to Jack and Jills but it was basically just a co-ed party. The one I went to was in a private room at a restaurant and we had apps and cocktails. No one made us pay for raffle tickets like it was some weird carnival. No one made baskets. No one asked us to help the bride and groom pay for *their* wedding. We just had a nice party and the bride and groom opened gifts together. It was fun and I liked having my DH with me for it.

    Please don't do raffle anything. Please don't panhandle to your guests to pay for your wedding. If you do this it won't go over well. It's incredibly rude to ask your guests to pay for a wedding.

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  • Jaimee
    Master October 2019
    Jaimee ·
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    No, you don't invite people and have them pay to get in.

    No, it is not a fundraiser where anyone can come.

    Weddings are not fundraisers.

    Wedding-related events are not fundraisers.

    Viewing a wedding and/or a wedding-related event as a fundraiser is not a good thing.

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  • Jennifer
    Just Said Yes September 2018
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    Popping some popcorn for ww reading tonight........

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  • Melissa
    Just Said Yes May 2018
    Melissa ·
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    I dont understand, if there is a way to get help paying for your wedding, why wouldnt you do it?? how is that tacky?? none of my guests would mind paying to go to a jack and jill, i think they would enjoy it

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  • Melissa
    Just Said Yes May 2018
    Melissa ·
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    I get what your saying but i think it depends on your friends and family and i know that mine wouldnt mind

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  • Leila
    Super October 2017
    Leila ·
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    Wow ....

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  • Orchids
    Master March 2018
    Orchids ·
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    It's extraordinarily tacky to have other people pay to fund your wedding or honeymoon. I know for a fact that my family wouldn't say a WORD to my face if I pulled a stunt like this, but there would be major side-eye that I would richly deserve.

    Besides, who wants to be the bride who asked the guests to fund her wedding?

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  • K
    Super March 2018
    K ·
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    Uhh what? My FH and I are having a coed bridal shower (my mom is hosting) and no one is buying tickets for anything. No no no.

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  • Mrsbdg
    Champion August 2017
    Mrsbdg ·
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    @Melissa You think panhandling is adorable? What?!

    I'm so confused. Why don't you just go to every friend and family member's house and just ask them to give you their disposable income. They won't tell you to your face that your are being rude but believe me they will talk about it for years.

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