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Abbey
Beginner June 2020

Is my dress "right" for my situation?

Abbey, on January 5, 2020 at 8:14 AM

Posted in Wedding Attire 236

Hello everyone, A little background... I'm 37 years old, mother of two, and this is my second wedding. It's in 5 months and the ceremony will be in a garden outside a banquet hall. I was married too young the first time around and always felt my dress looked too frumpy/cute. This time around, I...

Hello everyone,

A little background... I'm 37 years old, mother of two, and this is my second wedding. It's in 5 months and the ceremony will be in a garden outside a banquet hall. I was married too young the first time around and always felt my dress looked too frumpy/cute. This time around, I feel like a "woman" and I'm less (but not by much) modest nowadays. I am not into fashion and having 15 years between weddings makes me feel out of touch. I'm literally the only female in my family (my fiance, two sons, my brother, his partner, my father, and three male cats), so I don't get girly often.

Dress shopping was emotionally charged as I lost my mother a year and a half ago to cancer. I was really missing her presence and I felt uneasy the whole experience. She was my best friend. She always said I needed A-line in everything (I'm pear shaped with a short torso). (Photos are pre-alteration).


I had two girlfriends with me who are so positive and way more up to date than I am on trends etc. When I put it on, my friends and the store stylist raved about how amazing it was. I felt confident and beautiful. I know my fiance would love the back especially Smiley winking I left feeling like I got a steal. I'm also on a budget. I bought this dress off the rack, and got 60% off. I have a friend that can do alterations affordably.


In true "me" fashion, I'm now second guessing the whole thing. My brain is fretting: Sale is final. It's too revealing. It's not right for my age. It's not what I had originally planned (modest, sleeves, mature). I have no business wearing something sexy. My mother wouldn't have approved. My back is exposed. Will I be able to dance? I've never worn anything form fitting before.... and on and on.


Now, my sons are more excited about the wedding and their roles in it than me sometimes. They have been so happy about me marrying their "bonus dad." Their dad and I had a strange, platonic, marriage and so they don't understand and aren't old enough to get that I want to be attractive for my new husband. I showed my ten year old and he said, "Mumma! Why do you want to be see through!!" and he looked uncomfortable. I asked my cute little jumping bean of a 7 year old, "do you like mommy's dress?" He smiled and said, "Nope!" and ran off to play some more. That's what has me the most worried.


I would love your honest opinions, because I'm clueless. I won't be hurt! But I'm pressed for time and I really need to be at ease. If that means shopping again, I should do it soon, and find a way to resell before it gets altered. Thanks!

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236 Comments

  • K
    Savvy July 2020
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    It’s gorgeous! You’re glowing. Keep it!
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  • DitchingDiaz
    Dedicated November 2020
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    You are young, beautiful, and have the right to feel sexy!! YOU LOOK AMAZING
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  • M
    Beginner October 2020
    Mandy ·
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    I think you look stunning in that dress!! You have an amazing figure and the dress fits you perfectly! I don't think it's too revealing at all. It looks super classy and the scalloped lace on the train is so beautiful!! Wear it!!

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  • B
    Dedicated October 2020
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    I know you posted this back on the 5th, but I just have to say that you look absolutely GORGEOUS!! That dress is beautiful & looks like it was made just for you! & 37?! Girl, I'm only 24 & I WISH I looked this good! Lol
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  • D
    Dedicated July 2020
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    Your dress is beautiful! Super flattering! I know it’s normal to second guess, but you definitely made the right choice. That dress looks like it was made just for you. I’m sure your mother is looking down on you so happy to see you happy. Enjoy every moment of your big day!
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  • Vanessa
    Beginner May 2021
    Vanessa ·
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    I want to echo the other comments- you look stunning!! The silhouette is beautiful and the perfect combination of classic & sexy! I think you’ll look back at pictures and be glad you went with this choice ☺️
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  • Christine
    Savvy October 2020
    Christine ·
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    You look stunning in the dress. It is an excellent choice. Don’t worry about what your kids think. They haven’t seen you dressed like this and probably aren’t sure what to think of it. Relax and enjoy your day.
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  • Sierra
    Savvy May 2021
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    You look so beautiful!!! Keep that dress!
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  • VIP November 2021
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    STOP. You look gorgeous. Stunning. This dress was MADE FOR YOU
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  • Kelly
    Dedicated September 2020
    Kelly ·
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    You look great!! Embrace it! I get what you mean because I felt the same way when I got my dress, but you look awesome.
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  • B
    Dedicated March 2020
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    Super pretty!
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  • Mrs.hays
    VIP April 2018
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    You’re so stunning! That dress was made for you, it’s absolutely gorgeous! Wear what makes you feel sexy and beautiful, it’s your day 😊
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  • Dominique
    Devoted June 2020
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    Beautiful dress
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  • Danielle
    Expert November 2020
    Danielle ·
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    Yes it’s beautiful
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  • Belle
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    Belle ·
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    Did you buy it? I hope you do! It’s beautiful 😍 I am 40, 3 kids, renewing my wedding because my first was rushed (pregnant at 17). I choose whatever I want, regardless what my family or friends would think. I chose similar dress as yours 😉
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  • Erin
    Dedicated December 2020
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    Your dress is so beautiful! I love it.
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