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Ab
Master October 2011

Is it rude/off-putting to not have a limo??

Ab, on January 3, 2011 at 3:53 PM Posted in Planning 0 31

My brother (and best man) told me that if people are paying to come be in your wedding party "the least you can do is give them a limo ride". If I didn't get the limo I would have my brother and sister drive us all (we have 8 in the party plus FG) and they both would like to drink a LIL before the wedding..but my FH is quite against a limo and views it as unnecessary and honestly thats the only wedding thing he has even had a strong opinion about lol and wouldn't want to cause tension about that!. We also do have a modest budget of **** (with the limo it would be like 400 more); but we COULD swing it; and i'm a people pleaser somewhat and do feel kinda guilty about spending 2000$ on photography and not even getting a limo..what do you all think, is it rude not to have one?? I'm the one paying for it all basically, if that factors in..

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Latest activity by Heather, on January 16, 2011 at 12:07 PM
  • Ryan
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    Ryan ·
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    We had a limo for my dad and I to get from the hotel to the chapel, and then for my new hubby and I to get from the chapel to the reception...no one else rode in it at all. The limo is transportation for the bride/groom. If the bridal party wants a limo, they can rent one.

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  • Analy aka T-waffle
    Master October 2009
    Analy aka T-waffle ·
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    Absolutely not! And why would they drink BEFORE the wedding? The last thing you need is a bunch of sloshed BM and GM! IMO it's rude to DEMAD a limo! Sheesh, what a sense of entitlement! Do what YOU can afford!

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  • R
    Super March 2011
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    No way. It is not rude to not have a limo. It is rude to demand that you get a limo ride because you are in the wedding party.

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  • MrsD2011
    Master October 2011
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    I think it's an individual opinion because I actually do find it rude and inconsiderate when a limo isn't offered, especially when transportation between church and reception is required. I didn't see it as a problem however, when one of my bf got married and we all met at the venue (everything was there) and got ready there, and there was no limo. But if you are asking your bridal party to drive their own cars and you have seperate locations for the church and the reception then yes in my opinion its rude. But you got to do what you got to do and if you can't swing a limo, then so be it ...

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  • Ab
    Master October 2011
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    Lol Thanks for the input everyone! Dont' worry my bro wasn't being a d-bag about it lol and is being really sweet about it overall, "I want you to have a great wedding, you deserve that, and mom would have wanted that for you too" (our mom passed away 16 years ago); but ya i kinda raised my eyebrows, about drinking before; we can prob talk about that at some point, but she wouldn't drink a lot and can handle it..but i certainly won't..the last thing I want is alcohol on my breath when in front of the pastor LOL. ya our ceremony and reception are like 5 minutes from each other, reception is at a hotel they can stay over at if needed..i tihnk i'll talk about it more with my FH, my bro did suggest chipping in as their gift; but bottom line it's OUR wedding and each person has different priorities, a limo doesn't make a great wedding!! i just have to keep that in mind when I get those guilty thoughts. thanks again all for your input :-)

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  • K
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    Kimi k. ·
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    Girl, I haven't been in ONE wedding where transportation was provided to us.....They can get in their own cars and drive! If YOU want a limo for YOU that's a diff story!

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  • MrsD2011
    Master October 2011
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    Definitly Ab Z, it is what you want and don't let someone guilt you into not offering a limo!

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  • FMS, the barefoot wife!
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    I have never been to a wedding, or in a wedding that had transportation provided. I don't think it's rude, but it would be nice if you were able to have someone pick them all up, take them to the designated location and what not.

    Example: Me and my MOH drove to my parents house in my vehicle (we left hers at the reception hall, she was staying down the street fromt the hall) The guys all came in the Best Man's truck, driven by BM's Girlfriend. After the ceremony. My parents drove my car to the reception hall, we took theirs because we all fit in it. and then the two vehilces that were left, my bridesmaid (who came in hers)had her dad drive hers to her house, her mom picked him up on the way to the hall and the Best man's truck were driven to the hall by his aunt.

    Sounds like alot of confusing arranging, but it wasn't.

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  • Patricia
    Master December 2011
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    I'm with Soontobe here. I'm still debating on the limo myself, mainly because both ceremony & reception are at the same location but if they were separate, I'd definitely get one( my budget for limo is $200-300 for 2 limos if I need them). I'd be too afraid of anyone in the bp getting lost, having car troubles or anything else, I'd rather be sure that they are all together. I've never been to a wedding where there was no transportation for the BP, then again it is all up to you and what you can afford. FH and I were looking at limo rentals, they start around $40/hour depending on sizes & types, not sure if that varies by location or not

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  • Konichiwa
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    I think having a limo is one of those "extras" that are fun to have and a cool addition, but it's most definitely not a necessity! Those little "it's only this much" and "it's just a little extra's" can really add up!

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  • Greyash
    Master March 2011
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    WTH? I've never heard of that. I always thought that the limo was for the bride and groom and that was it! If they want one maybe you could get that for them as a gift but it's certainly not an obligation.

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  • Cabell
    Master May 2010
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    Well, if it's "rude" not to get a limo, then DS & I are the rudest married couple ever because we had our ceremony about 45 minutes drive outside of Las Vegas, and the reception back at a hotel on the Strip, and we did not provide a limo. *eyeroll*

    It's not like you're providing YOURSELVES with a limo and kicking the WP to the curb--you just didn't want a limo. And don't even compare it to photography--photos are something that you get to KEEP. Like FMS, I have never been to a wedding that had transportation provided by the couple; we just worked things out ahead of time so that not every single person was driving. I wouldn't worry about it, and I really wouldn't get a limo that I didn't even want because my brother had some weird preconception about it.

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  • Mrs. Lord
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    Well we dont have it in the budget to get a limo and unfortunately the wedding and reception venues are 45 minutes apart. We found a local car rental company that rents out 15 passanger vans so we have hired my 18 year old cousin to drive us all and the rental fee is only $75 for 2 days. We will decorate it up and make a couple of stops along the way to the reception!

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  • Officially His Mrs P.
    Master October 2010
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    Wtf? I never heard of that!! people are looking for an excuse to get drunk...i didn't have & didn't want to have a limo.

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  • Ab
    Master October 2011
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    Good points! ya my bro has been in several weddings in which they got a limo so maybe he's just assuming that's how it's always done; I'll tell him he can drown his sorrows in our open bar lol..I agree tho it would be easier to have a limo for us I'm doing pics before the ceremony with the party and FH since we are doing the first look.. and also I do think for me personally it would be fun, but it's more important to me to compromise with FH, he was already thinking I was crazy for spending dough on photos (boys! haha!); I don't want to steam roll him on this too lol :-)

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  • Heather
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    My ceremony and reception are in the same place, with a bridal suite for all of us to get ready in, so there is no need for a limo. I will say though, that when my MOH got married there was a limo that took us to the venue after we got ready. The ride over there together was a very special moment for her and all of us. We were cheering the whole way, had a glass of champagne, she talked about how nervous she was, etc. Definitely one of the highlights of the day as the wedding party. One thing that is a non-negotiable for us is to book a block of rooms in a hotel that would provide a shuttle to and from the ceremony. THAT was also a very fun ride at the end of the night! LOL

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  • Ryan
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    I think it's nice to arrange for out of town guests to have transportation of some sort (a ride, not necessarily a limo or any other rental), but in town guests who know where everything is can drive or ride with someone.

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  • Fun bride
    Master November 2010
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    We the bride and groom did not have a limo, we saved some money and hired a car service, nice sedan. We also put the bridal party on a bus, no complaints, we hired a bus, and I do not mean a party bus. If they can't figure out transportation, would a taxi work?

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  • Meghan
    Master August 2011
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    So, they would like to drink a LIL... They shouldn't be drinking enough that they can't safely drive before the wedding anyway... Heck, they shouldn't drink to where they can't safely drive AFTER the wedding either...

    I think it's even ruder of them to ask you to get a limo so they can be drunk before anything even starts...

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  • NowMissyL
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    My FH and I are so for the limo. Frankly, I think they are fun regardless of whether they are expected or not. I'd planned on having beverages for the bridal party in the limo and then just tooling around before the reception for a bit. To us, it's a bit of a relaxing bonding time with the people who are close enough to us that we were honored they agreed to stand up with us at our wedding.

    @Meghan, I don't think that it was implied that the party wanted to get drunk before the wedding. But legal blood alcohol level is .08 which someone small and lightweight (*cough* me) wouldn't be able to pass if they've had one drink and then had to take a breathalyser. I don't think its rude for someone to ask how everyone in the party is getting around - that includes asking if there is going to be a limo - but I do agree that it is rude for someone to ask FOR a limo.

    If you want it, do it, especially if you are paying for it. If you don't, same applies. (cont.)

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