Is it rude/off-putting to not have a limo??

I suggested before for me to get a van which is a lot cheaper, but I asked if that would look lame and my bro said yes; he said "I don't want you to have a hillbilly wedding". That sounds really stuck up, but he isn't that kind of person..it's just with some respects he's into appearances and wants me to have a fancy wedding and use some of the money my mom left me and not feel like I have to sacrifice. But helloo I'm in grad school and he has a real job lol.

@meghan; the drink thing was just a comment made by my sister as an after thought, not like the sole motivation for the limo, I don't thiiink they would be drunk before the wedding; then again we didn't talk about it, which we clearly need to..I wouldn't be against 1 drink; like just as a bonding between the groomsmen as sometimes happens. I will NOT have my bridal party rolling down the aisle lmao. but if i tell him i decided not to do the limo, i doubt there will be a big stink about it.

However, it is your decision ultimately so don't let anyone make you do something you don't want to do just to make them happy. On one hand your FH only input to the whole wedding was to say no to the limo (am I correct on this?) so I can see why you would feel the need to give in to that but if it's something you really want...keep in mind your budget, but ultimately, do what you feel is something that you should do. If it's going to cause a fight between you and FH, try compromising on something else.

"I will NOT have my bridal party rolling down the aisle." @Ab Z, I just got an image of a procession of Violet Beauregardes being rolled down a white aisle runner by little orange oompa-loompas (the original movie.) HAHAHA!

PSH I think you should definitely do what YOU want. It is your wedding, and your day. Don't let your brother push you around to get a limo if you don't want one. My FH wanted a limo but I think they are just SO cliche for a wedding, so I asked my parents if they could drive me to our venue in their restored lipstick red 67 T'Bird, and then have my dad chauffer us outta the reception! And FH loves the idea! That way all I have to do is pay for their gas. Anyways, my point is that if you feel the need for transportation for your WP then find a cheaper rout that won't upset your FH or yourself if you don't want a limo. Ask a family member if they have a nicer bigger car or have your MOH or BM drive the carpool.

I know what it is like to have a bit of a tight budget. The idea behind a wedding is that it is your day and it is what you want. If your bridal party wants to drink, leave it until AFTER the two of you are married. You need them to be "at their best behavior" for your big day. After you say your I DO's, then they can party it up. And being a part of your wedding party is something that they could have very well turned down, its not an obligation.....but it is an honor and they should treat it that way. Limo's are really expensive when you think about it. For the short time you have them, you could put the money towards a nice thank you gift for your bridal party, consider that instead! Its your day girl!!!! Do what you want

I don't think its necessary to provide a limo for them. And they shouldn't expect it. Also, I don't think drinking before the ceremony is a good idea, that can only lead to problems and regrets. Thy should be honored that they are in the wedding.

I would not worry about it! We are not having a limo, but that is because our reception site in literally a 20 second walk from the ceremony site. Which was part of the reason for choosing this site (a little bit more expensive,but save $$ on transportation). A ride is a ride, and if you really don't want a limo, don't have one! He will get over it. Have your FH talk to him, and tell him that he doesn't want one, and views it as an unnecessary expense. Transportation will be arrange.

The two previous wedding I have been in, I did not ride in the limo between ceremony and reception.

I think you should do what is within your budget. Its in no way RUDE. If they want a limo, I agree with the other girl, they can rent one themselves.

We're not going to have a limo for our wedding. The hotel we are having people book at will shuttle guests/people to the location but the ceremony and reception are all at one place.