Is it normal to not be lovey dovey with your FH after marriage?

I think that you would be right after getting married but I think that just like in the relationship you kind of get comfortable and stop being as lovely dovey little by little I would hope that it doesn't happen right away! If it does I don't want to get married I want to stay lovely dovey FOREVER!

True jennifer, people would ask my parents all of time if they were newly wed even after 20 years. They are divorced now but they have taught me that it is very important to be affectionate and compliment each others every day.

It's not a matter of it being because you're married, but more or less that people are less lovey dovey with time. Not everyone is, but a lot of people do cool it down some and others cool it down a lot. In some cases, people put on a "show" while they're still dating/engaged and then let their real selves out after the wedding once they've gotten what they were after. If you still want to be lovey dovey, you'll do so, but that's fully up to you. Your FH will do as he prefers, too. It's important to keep the lines of communication open, though, so he knows where you're at if things do change.

I mean like most wifes don't smile when they speak of their husbands or have spark in their eyes or when their DHs are around, they wouldn't be happy. That is sad :-(

Its all psychology. yes its perfectly normal. in fact, people that never ever seem to stop being lovey dovey are not normal. is that a bad thing? NO. lol. but most relationships go through stages. when you feel like your so in love and you cant stand to be away from them and all that cute stuff, its the honeymoon stage. doesnt matter whether your married or not. lots of people go through the honeymoon stage, and then go right back into it when they get married, so they think that its supposed to be like that for life and then get divorced when it goes away. no! its supposed to go away! it doesnt mean you dont love them, but u may not feel as strongly. this is why there is so much divorce. either people decide in this stage to get married, and then realise after that their partner isnt all that they thought they were. or they just get a divorce cuz they think that they dont love them anymore. lol. of course, how are you supposed to learn this stuff! cont...

Very true, we all make a choice to love our spouse every day. I do know that marriages take a lot of work to be a good one. I do noticed that a lot of married couples have lack of communication, non active intimate life and not enough alone quality time together.

I learned about it in my premarital counseling classes. im glad i did. in the future, i can totally picture fh and i still wanting each other often, still being lovey dovey, and still madly in love. but only because i will never stop loving him, and physical touch is our love language, so well never stop touching each other. but i can understand that that feeling may dim and im prepared for that. but if you can understand the difference between falling out of love with your man, and the relationship hitting a plateau that its eventually gonna get at... than you should be fine! and no, that doesnt mean that youll be a boring old married couple either... lol i dont know if i explained all of this right...

LOL you did make sense :-) You are lucky to take that class because my FH is in Navy and there is no way we can do premarital counseling that we have LDR until marriage :-( That why I ordered 100 hard questions to ask before say I do. You guys are so adorable!

FH and I used to be really lovey dovey and he was very romantic for the first few month of our relationship but over time we have become much less that way even though we are not married and I don't think it's a bad thing. When either of us feels the urge to be that way the other will gladly oblige but more often I want my space, I always say "You're in my bubble!" lol but I've always been that way. It doesn't mean I love him any less then I did in the begining, it's just me being me. FH and I still do thoughtful things to show the other we care and love eachother, we just express it differently now.

BritNhe:

"You're in my bubble!" --That's hilarious! Lol Thanks for the laugh!

I'm like that with my family, the sis and mom. They always get too close to me in proximity! I gotta use that line.

With DH, it's ok with me. But more often, I expect him to say "You're in my bubble." or "excuse me, I'm trying to do something here, can you get off me?!" LOL

@ JJ - LOL everyone always laughs at us because that's the line I always use haha. We were with a bunch of friends and FH was standing next to me but distant and i was talking with someone accross from me. Someone across from him in the distance had a camera and motioned him to get closer so he could take a picture of us. Without even realizing FH stepped closer to me and I stepped back in response. FH did it again and so did I!! Everyone then started cracking up and I was like "What did I miss?" LOL I said "He was in my bubble!" haha I then moved closer to FH and we took the picture but it was funny because I didn't even realize I did it or that it was him, I just felt someone too close to me. My mom has always made fun of me because I've always been like that so when she does see me and FH being "lovey dovey" she think's something's wrong lol

Normal for marriage has nothing to do you with, Mrs. Nalley. God's plans for marriage are so much bigger than this culture's plans, and His plan is that the two of you will become one, not that you will gradually drift away from each other because you've "lost the romance." Christ loves us breathlessly and unconditionally and eternally and that is how we are called to love our spouses. I don't know about you, but I can't wait to start this new life with all its gifts and pleasures. For me, that will include cuddling under a blanket and holding hands in the parking lot until our walkers get in the way.

And that first line should say "nothing to do with you"

Lovey dovey comes and goes. the good news is, after it goes, it can come back, then it can go, then come etc...

after the marriage and you are settled into living together, its back to the grind, which is a real turnoff to some. you both have to make a point to get away from it all by turning off the tv or going out for a drive, then the lovey dovey will come back.