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Just Said Yes June 2017

Is abstinence before the wedding day worth it

Olivia, on March 15, 2017 at 10:24 AM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 103

I told my FH that I do not want us to have sex or any other sexual act prior to our wedding date, however I do feel a little guilty. Before we started dating he admitted that once he grew strong feelings for his partner we would crave intimacy from that person. And ever since we stopped being...

I told my FH that I do not want us to have sex or any other sexual act prior to our wedding date, however I do feel a little guilty. Before we started dating he admitted that once he grew strong feelings for his partner we would crave intimacy from that person. And ever since we stopped being intimate he won't "make-out", flirt, or cuddle with me as often (which used to be very frequent), all of which he says feels like torture/tease. He tries to hide it but its obvious he's more irritable and cranky. I know not being intimate is the appropriate Christian thing to do and I had hoped it would boost the honeymoon experience but now I'm not so sure. What should I do?

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  • L
    Beginner September 2017
    Lydia ·
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    My 91 yr old Orthodox grandmother has told me that it's not worth trying to 'fast' from sex (orthodox Christian's don't have sex during lent or other fasts because you're supposed to abstain from all pleasures)... "because the man can't help himself" haha!! She also told me that they went on their 'honeymoon' before attending their wedding celebration!! LOL! She's the holiest person I know. I'm a firm believer that you can be Christian and still live life. Sex does not make people bad!

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  • JuJuBee
    Super May 2017
    JuJuBee ·
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    If you really feel compelled to do this do it the week leading up to your wedding.. not for months.

    FH and I would be going through Costco bundles of Duracell batteries and tissues in no time if we ever tried that.

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  • OGJessieJV
    Master July 1867
    OGJessieJV ·
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    I don't get abstinence, full stop. If you were having sex, it's incredibly stupid just to stop. You'll have plenty of time for your sex life to wane if you decide to have children. They're little intimacy suckers!

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