Okay, let me preface by saying I realize the answer to this is quite individual and subjective...however, I'm curious what people think.
Although I love planning, I keep wrestling with the unreasonable costs associated with having a wedding. I am very good about researching options, but certain things in my area just come at a high cost. Many people in my life keep reiterating that it's a "waste of money", including both sets of parents (who are giving money towards the day/whatever we want to use the money for). While I agree that it's a frivolous use of money, having a wedding is something I do selfishly want. (My FH would be happy to elope, but is going along with the wedding to make me happy, which makes me feel guilty about insisting on such an expensive party. I am keenly aware that we could use the money to pay off student loans or put a downpayment on a house.)
Given the size of FH's family, having something small is very difficult. I keep toying with ways to cut costs, but I'm met with opinions that it's tacky, rude, etc. to implement cost saving measures. (e.g. disposable plates, eliminating certain family members from the list, hosting a cocktail-style party, etc.)
What do people think? Is it all worth it?