INVITED 150 ONLY 100 CAME TO WEDDING!!!!!!

To control the uninvited plus ones I put on the rsvp card the number of seats that were reserved for that invitation. Below is my rsvp card. As for people not showing up, things happen. I dunno why she had so many but there is nothing you can really do about that.

I've never heard of things like that happening in my family. it kind of varies from social circle to social circle. I am personally asking the parent on either side to confirm things with people before the date, though, just in case.

For a wedding you will loose out on money if everyone do not show up. I had invited 165 and 130 RSVP and about 115-120 showed up. They said except 10-30% of your guests not coming. This is why you do your RSVP a head of time and have a cut off date. After our cute off date no more people was allowed to RSVP. If someone could not come and let me know inadvance after I had paid for them than anyone extra I will let them know. I gave my guests a long time to RSVP before I had to turn in the final head count which is normally about 2 weeks prior to the event.

Like Chuwana, I also made my invitations very clear. I am waiting on 9 RSVP's and noone has added a guest. So, I guess it worked.

No shows happen all the time. There really is nothing you can do to prevent them.

Good luck!

If people RSVP yes and then don't show....ugh, without a good reason, I'd consider sending them a bill, but in reality there's not much you can do but let the steam come out of your ears.

I have 270 people invited only 10 people said they couldnt come my fh will blow a gasket if people said they are coming and dont he hates going in his pocket for anything. i also sent out rsvp a month earlier my cut off was june 30th and still have 20 missing ..

Yea we had that issue too but like some of the ladies said, nothing you can do about it. We had about 150 RSVP and only about 125-130 showed. Yes, I would have loved to not be out that cash but hey, can't stress on it after the fact. We just enjoyed those who did show.

Omg...that totally sucks! i would be so upset that's if they didn't have a good reason. but like others said nothing you can do about it. just don't ever invite those people at any other event.

I read on here a while ago that most catering companies will make 3-5% more food than the amount of people you give for your final head count. So if you have a really sneaking suspicion that cousin bob wont actually come even though he said he would, you could leave him off the count you give to the caterer. Definitely don't do this for 50 people, but 2-3 may work to save you a bit of $.

I'm not sure that this would work for a sit down dinner, but for a buffet you would probably be okay.

I know with my catering company you give them 3 numbers, your original estimate, your final count, and the people who actually show. And you have to pay the highest of the 3 numbers. So if you are thinking you will end up having 100 people, five the original estimate at 80, the final count at 97, and then if all 100 actually come then great- if only 98 come you only have to pay for 98.

We invited 100, got 70 RSVPs, only 60 actually showed up. Yeah, it's frustrating!

We invited around 155, 140 rsvp'd and 110 showed. It sucks, but it happens.

We're just not inviting a lot of plus 1s. They're all by name except for one! (My mother demanded that my brother got a plus 1... I don't think he even cares!)

Anyway, you can always try calling people a week or two before your count is needed to just ask for (or double-check) on the spelling of their plus one for the escort cards. It would hopefully be a great opportunity for someone to tell you if they're no longer bringing a guest.

LIke the other brides stated it's noting you can really do about it,but I would be pissed at them. This is another reason why I'm re-thinking my venue and just find a nice BYOF and get my favorite restrauant to cater.

I like what @J&R said, send them a bill!!! i know shit happens but thats horrible to say you are comming (and invite people that were not invited) and then NOT SHOW UP!? horrible.

This is a part of the plan that you have no control over. For some reason people say they are coming and don't. We lost about 700.00 in rsvp no shows. The catering service loves that because either way they have your money. I am upset because as brides we plan to the last detail and this happens....

I will probably be calling people who don't RSVP by the deadline I give them just to make sure I know how many are actually coming! And Shellie is right; I have been told that you should leave a few guests off of the final count that you give to your caterer, because no shows will happen.

It unfortunately isn’t something you can control. It happens a lot, it happened at my own wedding and I just had a wedding this month that out of 100 guests only 50 showed. By the end of the night she may have lost some money however I’m not sure they noticed those people didn’t come. It is upsetting but something that is out of your control.