Invite the EX WIFE?????

If my fh's ex would want to be part of our wedding i would get a restraining order against her! she's been causing so much trouble lately and i think she's a physco.

just tell him to tell her as nice as that is that you want to be there i'm sorry but we already have our max on guests. i'm sorry, but your not actually part of our life you are part of the kids life but not ours.

I know this isn't funny but I couldn't help but laugh at this comment: If EX-Wife wants to attend a wedding, she better get herself another "would be step dad" and plan one. End Of Subject.

I'm with you. HELLS to the NAW.

Oopsie you went thru what i'm going thru right now. and i'm not dealing too well with it. i want to rip her face off.

I don't care who she is.I wouldn't care if she was mother of my mother.The wedding has nothing to do with her.if you continue to let this woman get close to you like that /where you think she's a friend just because of the kids --then you may as well invite her with you all on your honeymoon too; she's already in the door.keep being nice and keep us posted on the outcome of you alls friendship.

I also agree that she has no place at your wedding. How awkward, and I'm surprised quite frankly that she would even want to come. Makes me thankful that I don't have to deal with this. Good luck, be patient, and perhaps realize that your wedding may be stirring up some emotions for her. If you want a working relationship after the wedding, just ensure you are firm but polite in your discussions of her attendance (or lack thereof) at your wedding.

One of my co-workers was in the same situaiton as the ex. she wanted to go to the wedidng because her kids roles in the wedding- flower girl and best man. These are big responsibilities for kids and she wanted to see them have their big moments. She is cordial with her ex, but it stops at that. If your FH kids have roles like this in the wedding I would invite her. I might even ask the kids if they think mom should be there. My co-worker did go to the wedding and the reception... glad she could share in her kids big day. Her kids where 5 and 8 at the time and she ended up getting them ready and taking them from the reception.. acting more as a "nanny" that day and helping out.

Brooklynne - even if the kids have a part in the wedding, it's not "their" big day, they will have "their big day" when they get married themselves. Just because the kids are a part of the wedding does not mean the ex should be there too. The wedding is the bride and grooms "big day", the ex already had hers and blew it and truly doesnt belong there.

We all have our own opinion and reasons for doing things. It may be the bride and grooms big day, but as a child it is sometimes hard to know this. Gaining a new mom or dad is a major event in a childs life. When children are in the picture things are different.

My sons father is not a part of his life, not by my choice, we were not married- but his parents are and they are coming to my wedding to see their grandson stand up as my FH best man. i do not get along with his grandparents (they blame me for their son not being around), but he is close to them and wants them to see him on this special day. It is my day and my wedding, but in his mind it is his wedding also. My FH will make a promise to him during the ceremony and it is a big deal to him and he wants them to see him.

I wouldn't invite her. We decided not to invite any of our ex's to our wedding. It was OUR day to celebrate us and our future together, not our separate pasts. Since she's having a fit about it, keep your position on it. Don't back off or she'll just keep stepping all over you later too.

Clearly the Ex had an ulterior motive! UGH. It was so important to both FH and myself that we made his boys (7 and 9) feel that our wedding day was for all 4 of us. I love his kids as if they were my own. They break m They will be FH's best "men." This is an important day in his kids' lives, but not one that she needs to be involved in. His ex thinks we're crazy for taking the kids with us on our wedding/honeymoon (we're having a destination wedding) but our family and friends will be there. We're so used to not having alone time, that we both decided we couldn't go to Punta Cana withOUT the boys! Whenever they go on vacation with their mom we sit at the table pouting and carrying on about how much we miss them! They're our world. However, if it would make things better for them (which it doesn't in our case) for their mom to be there, I would be okay with it if that was what's best for them. Obviously your FH's kids are fine without their mom being there, so....there ya go.

She is crazy. i mean really, really crazy ya'll. the kids are fine without her being there. as a matter of fact, just this weekend my (soon to be) daughter (9) asked when we were going to get her flower girl dress. X-wife is still throwing temper tantrum at her not being invited, even threatened to not let them be in it.. which caused them to throw tantrums, lol. but we cooled that off and assured them they would be and reminded her that the kids are really looking forward to it and if she wanted to act that way, then SHE could explain to them why they missed out. X recanted of course and went about pouting. but HERE'S THE BEST PART: i asked her, flat out "why are you so determined to be at our wedding???, its not about the kids, we both know that, so be real and tell me what the hell you're thinking" her response, although not relevant was "well i just want to know how come he's marrying you at that mansion and we had to go to the court house when i wanted that?"

So what i got from that is she is jealous that when they got married they had a JOP wedding and my dad is springing for a luxury event at a historical mansion.. and if that's got her so jealous that she'd want to be there, then that says to be she's jealous enough to be there and try to ruin things. she might try to push our cake off the display or ruin our decor for all i know, but the answer is still HELL NO. this is not about her, its not about her life.. like i said, if she wants to attend a wedding, she can go plan her own!

LOL...that's a good one!! And she is going to find out that answer on your wedding day!...LOL. I have to deal with a crazy ex-wife too, and it just makes me wonder how they can act like 3 year olds and think that it's okay to act like that!