Invitations: A list & B list ??

Oh, there's @chivy. My situation is much different than what you are planning to do. No one was deceived and there was a very clear reason that we were not on the original list (we hadn't met the couple). The situation was not that they put us on a list of "less important" friends or needed to fill a seat. It is absolutely an intent thing. @chivy, have you ever been b listed? What was your reaction?

Also, the fact that OP hasn't replied I'm going with a troll post to stir up drama to get everyone offended. People really need to lighten up.

Who CARES what people do for THEIR wedding. Are you going? No. So why stir the pot and tell people to "grow up" just proves my point that people get offended way too easily.

@theHam uhhh.. @OP has indeed commented and responded.

Im not the one that seems "offended" here.

Not even a little bit should you do this.

I'm not offended at all

Strangers won't offend me. I'm still going to do things the way I want too and the way my FH and I are comfortable with.

When you list off a very important group and then a less important group of people, feelings are going to be hurt. It's human nature. No-one wants to attend your wedding sooooo badly that they will be thrilled to be on a b-list.

You may not be personally offended by this but I think this thread goes to that a large group of people would be. So if you relate it to your guest list your pretty much guaranteed that at least some of your friends would be hurt....so why do it? I know it may come off like people are being harsh but I think they're just trying to save you from hurting the feelings of people close to you.

And even if you try to keep it on the down low- people will probably find out. I think 3 people put their invite on their Snapchat story the day they got it. It's super easy for people to find out.

No b list. Terrible idea. If they don't mean enough to invite in the first place, don't invite them. B listing is rude & very upsetting to the people who find out they didn't make the A list. They will find out

Ruth idk if you're reading selectively, or if your comprehension just isn't at its peak at this time. I've stated our guest list is small. I was allowed to invite half of small. There are people I want to celebrate with, but due to our guest size I am inviting people I am closer to. If any of of our OOT guests decline, I will invite the people I wanted to invite in the first place. Do you get it now? And it doesn't make sense to say "b listing is rude. Except when it happened to me it was quite alright and we had a good time" you sound tired.

Jacks have you ever been in a daily chat? People are literally begging to be b-listed

Ffs do people team up to post the same topic?!

@sarah, today they must be. It's wild.

@Chivy... LOL at the comment of has @jacks ever been in a daily chat... that's absurd. If your guests knew what you were planning they would certainly not be begging to be b-listed... LOL

Yea I don't get offended easily I would show up with a cheap ass gift but not be offended. Most people get offended and feel hurt though.

If I had known my question was going to make everyone so upset and lash out at eachother I never would have even asked. I never even thought about an a or b list until I started wedding planning and some other people brought it to my attention. They made it seem like this is something people do and that it was OK to do in certain circumstances. Its not about being "gift grabby" and i cant believe i even feel the need to defend myself here. This is supposed to be a place where stressed out brides and grooms can come for support...not to get bashed. I appreciate the few people who were able to respond respectfully even if they disagree with the whole b list thing. Jeez.

Ooo my favorite! When people who have no avatar and three stars tell us what this forum is "supposed to be for".

Chivy, I've given up caring about what you're planning to do. I'm speaking to the group generally, so that I can help prevent people hurting the feelings of those close to them.

I've been around a long time, and yes I've been in a daily chat. AGAIN, a wedding is not so crucial to someone else that being rude and b-listing is a legit good idea. That's how relationships get damaged.

Shay, no-one has violated the community guidelines, as far as I can see. However, this is the internet and this isn't a support group.

The one thing I've noticed in here is that depending upon where you're from..certain things are normal for some and a horrible idea for other. Like dollar dances, where I'm from, they are normal (no I'm not doing one) but other brides in here HATE them.

Vicki, YOU don't even know what I'm planning. So I'm curious how you think you can speak on behalf of, well, anyone?

LOL ol' Chivs I'm gonna let you go