In lieu of shower wording

Who is stirring up things again? Gueshhh

These kill me... people seriously don't need ANY new sheets, towels, nice cookware??!! FH and I have lived together for 5 years and I absolutely could use a few things from BBB, Target etc. ...

This one just won't end...

Why did you ask about this if you weren't going to take any of the advice offered? We've been trying to show you that the "invitation" (again, since you're not actually hosting a shower, I'm not sure you can call it an invitation when there's no event) you're wanting to send would be highly embarrassing and viewed as incredibly rude and tacky among you and your daughter's loved ones. Why aren't you concerned about that?

@OP, if this many people are upset about it on here, imagine how the wedding guests will feel. It doesn't take a mathematician to see that a large percentage of the population finds this idea off-putting. The best option is to just not have a shower and not register. People will give cash.

It's hilarious that you think WE"RE rude Stacey. As SaraJ said so simply, if there is this much pushback from people who don't even know your family, imagine how THEY'll feel.

My personal mother taught me not to ask for cash. Which is probably a concept you might toy with. If we "didn't say anthing at all" if it was not nice?

Your thread would have four comments.

It's amazing how rude WE are? LOL. You came here asking for suggestions on how to ask for monetary donations for your daughter's wedding shower because you've already figured out that you can't just come out and say it the way you did in your original post. Why not? Because you know that this request really needs to be seriously flowered up to be (even slightly) palatable to guests. Go ahead, word it just the way you did here (your edited post will do nicely). Watch the donations come pouring in.

And, it is a violation of the community guidelines to tell anyone not to post on your thread or to keep their opinions to themselves. Oh, and telling a poster to "suck it" (nice mouth, mom), that'll get you flagged.

My birthday is coming up. I'd really like people to give me money for it. My mother would tear me a new one if she heard of my asking people to give me money, because she taught me not to do that.

Still rude.

And this is the internet. People will say whatever they feel like saying. It's rude to panhandle your guests. Who cares what she owns already.

If she can afford her own honeymoon, that absolutely makes it worse.

This thread just keeps coming back

.....it's still rude even five days later

I'm so tired of reading all the negativity toward this. Just because it isn't the way YOU would do it doesn't mean it is wrong or rude. I've attended several weddings where the couple did this and people were extremely happy with it, thought it was a magnificent idea, and were not offended by it. These are people from all walks of life and from all over the states.

OP: you can Google honeyfund/honeymoon/wishing well poems that you can insert into the invitations (yes another no no from many people on ww).

Goog grief, I've never seen a place where there are so many people who are stuck up and riding around on their high horses.

Ultimately, your daughter and her FH know their families and know if they will think it is rude or tacky, otherwise they wouldn't be doing it. The people who are always so quick to judge, be glad you don't have to go and "deal" with something so appalling to you.

Good Lord, if you can't say something nice....

@K_Koeberlain, my family probably wouldn't care about it either. They're more than likely donate due to the absolute hell i've been through the last few years and being unable to take a trip. Me, personally, I feel like it's begging, andI just couldn't do that. FH mom has a timeshare at a resort in Mexico, she offered us to use for our HM, I'm still on the fence about that!

Some people also view it was tasteless, and rude to practically ask/beg for money, which to most is what a honeymoon fun feels like.

On a side you, you called us stuck up on our high horses for disagreeing with you, then you says " if you don't have anything nice to say..", so what was the purpose of that if it wasn't to insult or judge?? You pretty much just did what you accused all the other of doing...

For all that's good, let this thread die!!!

Why would you post this question? You may not post a lot, but probably have read posts and should know this topic doesn't go well in WW forums. Bridal showers aren't necessary.

It never ends..

Lord have mercy on this post -_-

I'd be so pissed if my mom was trying to get people to give me money. Although I would never set up a honeymoon fund so...

K_K, you DO get that the daughter wants random people to give money instead of a "shower" though too. In addition to a wedding gift.

Anyway, still rude.

I gave my love a wedding

that had no manners.

I gave my love a vacation

and made others pay...

I gave my love a forum thread

that had no end...

(To the tune of that guitar-playing hipster's song from "National Lampoon's Animal House", sadly without the John Belushi guitar bashing.)

@Jay, lmao

Lol this thread just won't rest