in laws butting their noses into our sex life!!

IMO the conversation needs to be with your FH and not your FMIL. He truly needs to set boundaries with his Mother or two...not tell you when he has these conversations with her. Maybe they are close like this...

The next time they want to have "the talk" with you, start talking about all the positions you love to do, get detailed. I move my leg here, oh he thrusts really hard like this.....

talk about sex toys, if any, that you use, how you use them, how good it feels. Then pull out a mirror & show her your vag, since apparently they think they need to act like a highschool gym teacher....

LMAO ok that's really gross, but it would get the point across!

HAHAHA @ OTW and Tom!!

That is really strange-- most ILs are the opposite-- they WANT the grandbabies ASAP!

I hope for your sake FH gets why this is so inappropriate soon. . .

Possible TMI: We went through this with FMIL for a bit, so I can totally relate to how awkward it can be. It ended for us when I had to have surgery on my wrist and was put under. FH left to get a bite to eat from the vending machines and left his mom with me. I was super groggy from the anesthesia and was talking to his mom and she said FH had been worried about me and how the surgery would go. I responded by going off with what a sweet guy he was, and that even when we have sex he is a very selfless partner, then went into X rated details as to why he was a selfless partner in bed. *sigh* I don't remember any of this but FH said when he came into the room he saw his mother's mouth hanging agape and I was talking about oral sex. To this day he teases me about it, but FMIL has yet to say anything about our sex life again! lol

OH EM GEE DMINTED!! That is hysterical!!!!

Dminted, u r 2 funny.

I agree with the other brides, your FH is one that needs to handle this.

Unfortunately; it can get worst.

Next they will be telling you how to do it and start counting your cycle days.

I TOTALLY understand where you are coming from! When my FH asked for my parents blessing (he's 39) they told him in all seriousness that he needs to stay out of my bed until we get married. Ummm....hell no.

Then, when I was buying my gown, they told me to get white- and announced VERY LOUDLY that we are not having sex until we get married....in the middle of DB! I then announced that I have two children and we are consenting adults...who will have make our own decisions. I told my parents upfront that my sex life is none of their business, but they seem to disagree.

Buy his parents sex toys for Christmas.

You should invite your future in-laws over for dinner. As you're serving coffee, you should say, "Mom, Dad...we're concerned about you, so we've taken the liberty of picking up a few pamphlets from the doctor's office. Here dad, this one called, "You and Your Aging Prostate" is for you. There is hope for a fulfilling sexual life with erectile dysfunction. And mom, vaginal dryness isn't necessarily a sexual death sentence. To prove it, we picked up this pamphlet for you, "Post Menopausal Libido". Cookie, anyone?"

In all seriousness, this is shocking. Don't even bother trying to figure out what their motives are (don't want grandchildren, etc.). Who cares what their reasons are? Your private life is exactly that -- your private life. You're not fourteen, and neither is their son.

In the future, decline to engage them in any way when they begin talking this way.

I would wonder why they were asking. Are they concerned about your financial situation? Do they want him to go back to school or advance in his career?

I know that my mom used to give me the "you have plenty of time..." speech, but it was because she really wanted me to do more in life before settling down.

It wasn't because she had an issue with my FH or anything.

Don't be so quick to be on the defensive when they may have your best interest in mind.

Ok @dminted omgggg halarious! Well fh ams I have been texting throughout the day (were both at work) and from what he's saying is basically he's chosen over the years to completely not tell his parents anything becaise of this.. I don't feel like that's the right approach. I feel like the adult approach is for all of us to sit down and say something like we appreciate that you care about us but we found it completely innapropriate how you both chose to handle this situation. In the future we would appreciate if our sex/reproductive life stayed our own and you support us as adults not as teenagers.

Btw we are 1000% financially independent and are stable as well. I don't care if I'm in a million dollars of debt no one has any right to tell me when or if I have a baby. What do yall think of our way saying thay to his parents?

Honesty you can say it just like that.

Maybe there's some deep, dark family secret -- some bad gene that they don't want him to pass on or a crazy uncle locked in the attic -- just kidding!

Unless they have a valid concern, it is none of their business and you have my permission to tell them so!

Just tell her it isn't possible to get pregnant the way you guys have sex. Then wink and give her the gun fingers. She probably won't ask after that.

SD53 hahahahaha so funny.

Bahahahaa! Perfect... sorry fmil but I only believe in the chocolate starfish!!

Wow. He needs to stand up to them. If he lets them get away with this I can only imagine the other things they are involved in. That situation is so personal, if he lets them have so much clout that they are actually discussing it among themselves and have been given the impression they have some kind of say-so concerning it... nip that shit in the bud, girl. If you don't, its going to get a lot worse from here.

** update** fh and I discussed it last night and he and I decided that we are going to meet with them in a week or two once were moved.. best part of the conversation was him insisting that he be the one to lead the convo and set the boundary. I was very proud!!

After my FH lost a drag race and was very stressed ffil told me " to take care of him" when we got home. Which is totally creepy. Compounded by FH dragging me into the bed ( not knowing about his dads comment) when we got home. Awkward second thinking about ffil. Lol

That's going to be one awkward a** meeting. Lol