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sally
Dedicated August 2018

in laws butting their noses into our sex life!!

sally, on July 24, 2013 at 10:40 AM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 57

So while I was away on a business trip my in laws decided to have another sex talk with their 33 year old son... I had a conversation with his mom two months ago about bitth control after she kept asking and asking details about us being safe... innapropriate number one. Then she calls his dad and...

So while I was away on a business trip my in laws decided to have another sex talk with their 33 year old son...

I had a conversation with his mom two months ago about bitth control after she kept asking and asking details about us being safe... innapropriate number one. Then she calls his dad and they have some long conversation about our birth control...innapropriate number two. Then instead of fh standing up to his parents and setting boundries, he gets mad at me and takes their 'talk' like a teenager. All while I am out of the state. I have tried so hard to be close with his family and right now I feel so upset abd betrayed by all of them including fh. From what he told me about the conversation it sounds like they don't want any grandchildren and they don't trust two grown adults to make their own reproductive decisions. I really want to say something to his mom once I've calmed down.. any advice on how to fix this with fh and what to say to his mother?

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  • sally
    Dedicated August 2018
    sally ·
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    Noooo sh**!!! I'm absolutely not looking forward to it. Can I wear a vale and pretend like I'm not there??

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  • LaurenVictoria
    Super October 2013
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    I expect updates once this conversation occurs!

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  • Aaron DeMarest
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    I'm guessing your mother in law is the virgin mary?

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  • DlovesD
    Master June 2014
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    I would be more mad at FH, he shouldn't have entertained the conversation, but he might have been too embarrassed. I would mention to FMIL that FH was upset about the conversation, and there are some matters that are between you and FH only, that is part of marriage, and you would greatly appreciate them respecting those boundaries.

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  • DlovesD
    Master June 2014
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    Oh can I add... We went on a family trip to the zoo & our nephew used the urinals with FH. His reaction when he saw FH's you know what was ... Woah!! (He's 4) FH came out cracking up & told us all about it. His mom said to me "is it because of his pee or because his penis is so big!?" I about died.

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  • Danielle
    VIP October 2015
    Danielle ·
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    That's just all sorts of wrong. I think your fiance should talk with them. Say it any way he wants, that you already have your own plans with having or not having children because it is YOUR family. Or to just mind their own business really. I personally would have my fiance emphasize that it made me feel uncomfortable.

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  • WasSoon2BMrsSmith
    Master September 2010
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    You need to tell your FH to cut the cord with mommy, the fact he didn't tell them to mind their own business while they were talking to him about his sex life withyou raises big red flags to me.

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  • Stacey
    Super September 2013
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    Can you say "keep your nose out of my vagina"

    The nerve of some people. Maybe start asking them about their sex life. Or buy his dad some "picker upper"

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  • BalletShoesRachel
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    This is ridiculous.

    My FMIL is the exact opposite--she keeps harassing us to get pregnant, like, yesterday. She also insists upon shoving her granddaughter onto me every single time she physically can, because she knows I don't want kids, and she is under the delusion that doing this will actually make me suddenly, magically, change my mind. (It does the opposite, which we regularly mention, yet she continues.)

    Of course, this IS also the same woman who told me, literally hours after meeting me, that celery is a "natural aphrodisiac"--shoving a plate of it into my hands. O.o

    Anyway, I'm glad to hear that he said he will talk with them.

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  • Soonyee
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    Eh... uhh.. well...

    THAT IS CREEPY!!!!!!

    WHAT!?!?!?! I have no words. Those b*tches are CRAY.

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  • F
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    FutureMrs.Combs ·
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    WOW! Not only is that weird since he is 33 years old, but, it is also none of their business since he is 33.

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  • LadyCrystal
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    @Stacey I think I am officially down for the count.

    "Keep your nose out of my vagina" aaaaaaaaaand I cried LOL

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  • Monique  Wilber
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    I'm glad that your FH is on board to set boundaries.

    In the future - if any out of bounds subject comes up - have a planned line, like, We are not going to discuss that! And just don't engage in a discussion about it. People that overstep boundaries will keep doing it unless you keep pushing back.

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  • Mrs. A
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    Did that really happen? I would be mortified! What is wrong with them?

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  • sally
    Dedicated August 2018
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    Update** his parents thought this would break us up and offered to help both of us financially so money wasn't a factor in staying together.. keep the boundary violations comin! At least fh and I are absolutely great Smiley smile

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  • Aronna
    Master October 2014
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    How many kids do they have? it's been my experience that people I grew up with get all up in their kids faces about doing the same things I KNOW they did! they just don't admit it to their kids, while the kids just ask them "what makes you think I'd do a stupid thing like that?"

    hopefully they've got it out of their system now? one can hope!

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  • Victoria
    Expert September 2013
    Victoria ·
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    Ummm....why do they care about where his P is going? 2. You can do what you want with your V 3. OMG GROOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOSS.

    My MIL and I joke all the time about sex...so does my mom and FH. They would never go as far as to lecture us about BC or sex or reproduction. We learned that in sixth grade and we've practiced many times. I'm pretty sure we figured it out by now.

    Tell her politely to please keep her nose out of your sex life. It's not her business whether you two are TTC or if you're just rolling in the hay for the hell of it. She also probably should be reminded that her son is 33...not 15 still learning how porn works. If you can think of a nice way to do it, please share with me. 'Cause all I've got is a bunch of expletives and barfing going through my head

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