I'm so over people trying to make me feel guilty for having a wedding!

You either ignore it or you think about it......

I've had a few comments. I just say that FH and I considered our options are comfortable with our decision.

My divorced family members (which is a heavy majority) are very vocal about this. I keep reminding them its not their money to spend and that's that.

I have been going through the exact same thing. Do you ever notice its people who have been divorced or never married themselves. The way I look at it Is if they aren't paying for anything then they should just shut up. Or not even be invited. My fiances father is completely against us getting married all my fiance said to him was you don't have to go and his actions changed completely. It's all about you and your soon to be done listen to them or just tell them they are no longer invited. It's worked for me! Good luck and congratulations

Ignore and change the subject. My parents didn't understand that a wedding would cost so much... honestly, I didn't either until I started the planning process. People will say what they want. At the end of the day, if a lavish wedding is what you and your FH wants - who cares what anyone else thinks?

Stop discussing details with them.

Stop talking about it, at all?

If people were making those comments to me, I'd be a jerk right back. "oh, I'm sorry. I didn't realize I was working my ass off to let YOU spend my money." Then I'd walk away.

I mean they are absolutely right. Weddings are usually a huge waste of money, and yes you could be spending it on something else. However this is what you want, and won't regret spending it and that's that.

Sorry, I didn't mean to sound like I'm on their side, because I am literally in the same boat. It's unfortunate that people think it's ok and doesn't hurt to hear them say that, but at the end of the day you're paying for what YOU want. And if you and your FH want to spend that money on your wedding, then that's no one's business but your own!

I hear it all. The. Time. Drives me nuts. FH's family wants us to do a courthouse wedding and serve popcorn at the local VFW (that is currently for sale). No dinner, no dancing, nada. They think spending more than $1,000 is ridiculous. Now FH and I just don't talk about it with them. Since the wedding is so far away still they don't bring it up either. I can't wait to see how it will go closer to the day :/

I am very tenative to speak about my wedding plans with people for that very reason. People just think that they must express their opinion on every matter!

I haven't had this problem thus far so I cant help too much. however, I will say to ignore them.

I don't talk about details. They just assume bc I got a second job, and I'm not going out for no reason. I've replied with well when your at the wedding eating and drinking good than dancing your ass off you'll be glad I spent the money.

How you spend your money is ultimately up to you.

Yes, they are right. But it's not what you want. If you are comfortable with your decision, then it's none of their business.

If they are not paying for any of it then they have no say so its your wedding and your money if you want to spend it on the wedding go right ahead as long as your bills are paid and food on the table you are good to go a wedding that you most likely will be spending the rest of your life with that person you want it the best you can have it. Good luck with everything and cant wait to see BAM photos from your wedding

Just ignore it. My family is all for having the big wedding but FH parents are completely out of their comfort zone. His Dad could not believe we had an engagement party and thought it was a complete waste of money. I'm sure your day will be beautiful and if it's what you want to spend your money on it's no one else's business.

Weddings are much more costly than some people think. When we first started planning my FH said that he was comfortable with 4000 for everything. I just laughed and showed him that it would be nearly impossible to do that with the ideas we have in mind. He's now onboard. My mother has almost had a heart attack when I told her our budget was 13K not counting the attire. I say ignore it or come up with some smartass comments

Oh yeah my whole family did this. I was told I was going "overboard" by even my own mom...whether it was the abundance of alcohol I was buying, or the multiple extra apps I had paid for, someone always had a comment even if I didn't bring up the subject myself. But guess what, they all had a BOMB ass time at the wedding and not a complaint was to be heard.

Tell them since it's not their money, not to worry about it.

I personally will never be able to comprehend spending a lot of money on a wedding, but that's just me and that's how Hubby and I feel about our finances.

It is your decision and your life, just ignore them and know their comments will go away after your wedding.

I'm going through the same thing my wedding is this Saturday... this ismy soon to be husband husbands 2 marriage so all of his family members and most of mine keep saying we should have went to the court house. So I know what you are going through. I just ignore them and tell them this is my first and only wedding so I want it special.