Im afraid to tell my mom about my engagement and my wedding

"Practically live together" isn't a thing. Sleepovers doesn't constitute living together. One household is living together. That's a very quick engagement and with that age gap I don't blame her for being judgmental. Just be honest with her. Always the best route.

ETA: nothing against age gaps! But marrying someone less than a year into knowing them is...

Is there a reason she wouldn't be happy for you? If you're ready to be married you should be ready to tell your family.

ETA: I missed that you just met in May. What's the rush?

If you aren't mature enough to talk about your wedding, you shouldn't get married.

Then you should not be getting married. Marriage is for grown ups. Trix are for kids- I believe they're in aisle 4.

Ok guys no need to be rude, I'm sure your lives and marriages aren't 100%perfect ..and as for your age gap.. it's no problem ..and neither is the time frame ..the issue is ..you can't marry someone you aren't really with in the first place hun..I'm not saying don't ..I am saying talk with him and establish a stable life for your kids and you ..you got this (:

What Swin said. 1000%

What is the reasoning behind your moms possible disapproval?

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Omg only the 5th comment in and we're getting called rude already... It must be the full moon.

Lol @ Niki. We give real advice and then you tell her she's not even in a relationship and suddenly we are the bad guys? K.

Right like what do you mean she's not with him? That's more rude than anything we've said.

That's really fast. Where's the fire? Just be an adult and tell your mom.

First of all, punctuation is your friend, please use it. (That was incredibly hard to read.)

Second, how long have you been together? Has your mother had the opportunity to get to know him? Is her judgement based on anything or just because of his age? I'm guessing he's not the father of your kids, is there more to the story there (ie. with an ex of yours?)

My initial take on the situation is that if you are afraid to tell your mom you are getting married, there's bigger issues to be addressed.

ETA- After re-reading a couple of times, I see you just met in May. I'm with your mom on this one. It's way too soon. (IMO) ESPECIALLY since there are children involved. Honestly, you've known him for 2 months and you are already bringing him around your kids, let a lone thinking of marriage. Yeah, way too soon.

Why wouldn't she approve? Plus you are 26, last time I checked that's an adult.

First of all, punctuation is your friend, please use it! Secondly, what does "practically living together" mean?

Living together means that you are each responsible for a portion of the bills, you live at the same address, and you have some sort of future plan.

Why won't you tell your mother? This seems rather childish. If she's going to judge you, take your lumps like an adult and prove her wrong.

Oh and no one was rude, blunt yes, rude no.

May to July is two months, and that's not counting when he's working out of town. I get why your mom would judge.

Why not wait a year until you know each other better and are out of the honeymoon stage of the relationship.

Edit: grammar

Uhhhh, what?

You're "practically living together"? Wtf does that even mean?

Why would you introduce your kids to a man you haven't even known for 2 months?

There's so much wtf all over this. PLUS you want to get married in November, 6 months after you met a man 18 years your senior.

Wait. Just wait. There is something very wrong with this picture, and while rushing into a relationship is just fine and dandy when it's just you, doing so when there are children involved is just irresponsible and asking for trouble. You should be putting THEM first, and should have at least gotten to know this guy substantially better before your kids came into play.

Spare me the whole "it's because he's older isn't it?!" line, too. DF was 44 when we met, I was 27. We have a 17 year difference. The difference between our relationship and yours is that we both had the sense to take things slowly, and introduce our kids slowly. Responsibly. We've been together 5.5 years. There's zero reason to rush.

If you're so afraid to tell your mother, then there's another red flag your brain is flying, that you're choosing to ignore. My guess is that it isn't the only one.

If I were your mother, I'd be worried and judgmental as well. Everyone's relationship moves at a different speed, even my parents were engaged after being together less than a year, but still...you have kids involved and what does "practically living together" entail? Spending a few nights at his/your place isn't living together. It's not sharing responsibility.

I think you know this is a bad idea but also don't want to say no to marriage, and that's why you don't want to tell you mother.

Marry in haste, repent in leisure. And I speak from experience.

If I met someone in May they wouldn't even know my hypothetical children by July yet.

Just gonna go pop some popcorn...