I’m about to snap!

View Quoted Comment It sure does, and thanks for reading.

View Quoted Comment Thank you for understanding and listening. I’m hoping the closer we get it doesn’t come down to this. I just don’t know when I should start telling my guests this because I feel like once they hear this they will probably just RSVP no because it will be too much of a hassle for them.

View Quoted Comment I know it's hard not to, but don't think that way. All of your family and friends know what you've had to deal with with postponing, etc, and know this is not your decision. They will be there to support you.

View Quoted Comment My response would have made more sense if you would have seen the one it was directed to. It looks as though a lot of comments on this thread were deleted. That being said, however, everyone that has a wedding during the pandemic IS choosing to. It doesn’t mean it was their first choice, but it’s still a choice. Do people want to forego deposits? Of course not. But do they have a choice to? Yes. Do people want to postpone their marriages, weddings, starting a family, etc.? No! But again, everybody has the choice to. Just because it is not an ideal choice, doesn’t mean it isn’t a choice. I am a Covid bride as well. I was supposed to get married last year. Did I want to postpone my wedding another 2 years? Heck no! But I chose to because I knew that having a wedding during the pandemic would be stressful and full of restrictions that I did not want to abide by. That was my choice. Every single person has the choice to move their weddings. And not doing so means that you understand we are in unprecedented times, and will likely have to make very unsavory concessions when it comes to your celebration. It’s unfortunate, but it’s our current reality.

View Quoted Comment Not sure what you mean by “comments deleted?? I don’t even have the ability to delete comments on here. Maybe I’m misunderstanding what you’re trying to say with that.


And that’s awesome that you were able to postpone multiple times. We can’t afford it. And we chose to have our wedding during a non-pandemic. When a pandemic decides to happen after you’re locked into multiple contracts, that’s not saying that you choose to have a wedding during a pandemic.

View Quoted Comment Reading back through my post, it seems like someone was sensitive and triggered by me Astriking out the ‘f’ Word, so that’s probably why wedding wired removed it. But I’m not sure what post you’re referring to? I signed my contract two weeks before the pandemic even happened. What post are you referring to that says otherwise??

View Quoted Comment It's awesome that your venue allowed you to postpone to two years later. I'm really glad that you were able to avoid some of the stress of planning right now. However, a lot of places weren't/aren't allowing people to postpone that far out, and because weddings are allowed to take place they aren't allowed to postpone again with losing a lot of money. So yes, that is technically a choice. But really? That's what you think is okay to tell upset brides? Too bad, so sad? That's really harsh. Sympathy and empathy go a long way here, especially when realizing that we truly do not know the circumstances of the majority of the people we are interacting with on these boards.

View Quoted Comment I was referring to the posts where you said you were a victim and the state and your venue were personally attacking you and your wedding. I was simply pointing out that this is not a personal attack against you and that you had to realize that choosing to move forward with a wedding during this pandemic could result in making compromises you don’t prefer (just like thousands of other couples have had to). Again, I didn’t say it was an ideal choice. It’s obviously not! But in the end, it IS a choice. My FH and I also did not initially choose to have our wedding during the pandemic. We signed contracts in the middle of 2019, before covid was a thing . Once the pandemic hit, we all had to make difficult choices. You had the choice to postpone. You had the choice to forfeit deposits. You had the choice to wait and save up more money. You had the choice to forfeit deposits, and have a less expensive wedding to make up for your monetary losses. You had the choice to have a small backyard wedding. You had the choice to elope. You had the choice to simply go to the courthouse and sign a piece of paper. You had the same choices we all had. You knew these restrictions were a possibility, but you chose to move forward with your wedding this year anyway.

View Quoted Comment Very well said and also very accurate. Trust me, if it was that easy to just simply postpone to next year, of course I would do it. This bomb was dropped on us yesterday evening. My FH‘s Family and his mother already has their plane tickets. Saying that I have a “choice” in this is a pretty out of touch statement in my opinion

View Quoted Comment First off, from the post that was deleted by winning wired because I Asterisk’d out the F word apparently, I said that I felt like it was a personal attack because my venue has rapid testing on site, however they won’t offer it to my guests. And yes it is a personal attack. It’s a personal attack on every bride that is having a wedding within the next two months.


And some of those choices that you mentioned above I don’t even have available to me. I’m sorry you were OK with family members buying plane tickets and I think it’s great that you have no problems telling your family members “oh well sorry you got time out of work and sorry bought plane tickets “but now all of a sudden when we didn’t even have these restrictions at the height of the pandemic now you expect me to postpone when that’s not even an option on the table for us?I’m sorry but you just sound so out of touch with this whole thing.
I guess my main question is, how did your family react when you had to postpone after they had already gotten their plane tickets? How were you able to push your wedding out to 2022 when your vendor doesn’t allow you to do that? These are all of the same assumptions that I’m going to give to you just like you are to me.

View Quoted Comment And you do know that the coronavirus is still going to be around in 2022 right? They are already talking about a new double variant whatever that means that doesn’t respond well to the vaccine. But yes you do have the choice to postpone until 2030 if that’s your thing. I could also rob a bank and Pay off my entire wedding venue and have two weddings! But do you see how that’s not a REALISTIC choice. Like I’m sorry but some of the things that you’re saying just aren’t realistic choices. Yes their choices, but they’re not realistic, they’re not practical, they’re not feasible, some of the choices you’ve suggested are not even available, or allowed with my contract. Again, you’re just extremely out of touch with the world of brides and weddings right now. It’s your opinion and I Respect that, and I understood well in advance before posting this that there were going to be brides like you that think it’s so easy to just postpone, but the reality is that this is not a realistic option when everything was going great at the beginning of March. Now that I’m two months away I’m sorry but all of your suggestions that you just gave are unrealistic and practical and out of touch.

View Quoted Comment Again, it was in reference to a post that was deleted. So now the comment seems out of context

View Quoted Comment Right, but I’m telling you what it was in the post that you were referring to LOL. It was that I felt like it was a personal attack when we had talked about this with our venue and our state having multiple conversations about getting rapid testing on site for our guests and then having my venue be able to get the rapid tests but not be able to provide them to my guests. Your comment was not out of context at all. It’s just more so out of touch. But again, I respect all opinions here and I understand we don’t agree and that’s totally fine.

I think at this point you need to look for solutions. Be upset all you want but at the end of the day that isn’t going to solve anything.


If people are flying they most likely have to provide a negative test to do that. Maybe that test can have duel use now. Have you brought up vaccinated people to your venue? There is still plenty of time before your wedding for guests to plan accordingly. Luckily they are accepting rapid tests which take less than 6 hours to get back so the 48 hour rule isn’t as bad.
We all get that this is upsetting and not ideal. Nothing any bride is going through right now is ideal or an attack on a single person. Everyone, including vendors and the government, are trying to do the best they can to allow special days to happen in the safest way they can. Looking for solutions is the only way to move forward and many decent ones have been suggested throughout this thread.

View Quoted Comment Once again, my post was simply to point out that this was in fact not a personal attack on you. That it is happening to thousands of others. That hopefully it would help you to get out of the mindset that you were being personally attacked and be able to think clearly about the options available to you so that you could come to some positive conclusions with your venue for you and your guests; rather than wasting time on the “personal attack” mindset that won’t help your situation. It is clear that you do not want to see things that way however, and that is completely your choice. I was just trying to point out a healthy alternative way of thinking, so that you could move forward in a logical way. I hope you are able to come to terms with the reality of your situation and are able to work with your venue to find a suitable solution.

View Quoted Comment I was actually not giving you suggestions to postpone your wedding. If you look at my responses, the only suggestion I gave you was to look at things logically and try to find a solution, and I also reaffirmed the suggestion of another bride to inquire about whether or not a proof a vaccine would suffice in lieu of testing. Those are literally the only suggestions I gave you. Everything else was simply an analogy which allowed you to see that there were in fact choices (no matter how unsavory they were), which you undoubtably weighed out, and ultimately decided that having your wedding at this time was a better option for you than any of the alternative choices. Therefore, you made the choice to have the wedding now knowing there could be restrictions. Unfortunately, those restrictions have now been put into place.

View Quoted Comment Well that’s exactly what I’ve been trying to do is figure out this mess. But I have every right to be upset about it and I have every right to complain on a forum LOL. Obviously I know I’m not the only bride, but I do have a right to be upset and stressed especially when a bomb gets dropped on me two months away and I have to figure out a way to tell people. As far as the rapid test appointments go that you suggested, they are very limited. It sucks to have to tell them I guess this. They will not show up and I don’t blame them. I don’t want people to have to go out of their way. and I do feel like it is a personal attack when we specifically asked for rapid testing on site, and the venue was able to get those rapid tests but Are refusing to provide it to my guests. And every bride should feel like this is a personal attack when they do this. And yes we have been trying to get in touch with our coordinator all this morning. I have been thinking of ways around this nonstop. I haven’t just been complaining this entire time. But I absolutely have a right to complain and I absolutely have a right to be upset and this is absolutely the incorrect wrong way to ensure the “safety” of everyone as is evident by science.

View Quoted Comment I think maybe this is just an issue with semantics. From my personal standpoint, claiming that you were being personally attacked sounds out of touch to me. Because they are not doing this strictly to you. This is a sweeping regulation that is being applied to every single couple. But, I one hundred percent understand why you are upset, and I am sure a lot of couples this is applying to are likely upset as well. I am certainly not downplaying your feelings. I have just always found it helpful to approach things from a place of logic, rather than a place of feeling. When we are super upset and feeling like we are being attacked/victimized, it is easy to not be able to see the light at the end of the tunnel or valid solutions to the issue. That was all I was saying.

View Quoted Comment Like I’ve said multiple times, I know that there’s obviously many brides out there in the same boat. And yes My fiancé and I have been working nonstop to try to make this all work out. But I have absolutely every single right to vent about it. If you can’t understand or comprehend that then I think you’re out of touch a bit

View Quoted Comment I did not suggest rapid testing appointments. I suggested inquiring as to whether or not proof of vaccine could be used instead of having your guests tested, since you said all of your guests will be vaccinated by then.