I’m about to snap!

So now basically they are forcing my guests to get tests no sooner than 48 hours prior to the event. They have to bring their paperwork with them in order to be let in. And apparently they have rapid testing on site, but they won’t be offering it to my guests?! What in the hell is this?! How the hell am I going to tell my guests that they need to get tested 48 hours in advance and they have to bring their paperwork with them or else they will be let in?! What if one of my vendors forgets their paperwork?! What if one of the servers of the chefs forgets their paperwork with their negative test?! I am so disgusted right now

I would be livid too, but you have time to come up with a plan. First, you’ll need to notify everyone. Can you put the information on your website or on a details insert card if you are sending physical invitations? Also, I’d find a few testing centers nearby and include their information on the website or details card in case people want to get tested when they arrive in the city of you wedding (assuming you have people traveling). Also, I’d ask someone to be a liaison between the venue and your guests and vendors leading up to and on the day of the wedding. You won’t want to deal with this on your wedding and you’ll need someone to make quick executive decisions for you. Woosah!! We’re here to help you get through this.

OMG! Will that change at all closer to your wedding?

Can you have guests and vendors email you a copy of their results incase anyone forgets their papers? If you have a wedding email that would be a good one to use or create a brand new one just for the results. Just an idea. I’m sorry this extra stress has been added to your plate.

I totally get that it is inconvenient and frustrating. But at the same time, this is the world we are in. It’s a small concession to make to have a safe gathering at this time. From what I’ve heard there are states with even larger restrictions.

Sharona has great suggestions. If you have a wedding planner (or DOC) I would notify them of the regulations and see if you can put them in charge of ensuring all goes smoothly. They may need to add an assistant to help them with the added responsibility. I know this is quite a curve ball, but it truly is to protect you, your guests, and your vendors (and every person that comes into contact with them). With more and more people getting vaccinated, these regulations may not even be in effect by the time of your wedding. But it’s definitely best to get a plan in place now, just in case.

You shouldn’t be embarrassed. This is a change you could not control. I know their email said there were spacing constraints (I’m assuming they meant free space), but would you be willing to rent out a smaller room onsite to facilitate onsite testing? Just trying to think of ways that may work in light of the circumstances and, though not ideal, will be a workaround to ease your stress and load. I’m so sorry you’re going through this.

View Quoted Comment Oh please. That is so ridiculous. There are other ways to do this without having to sacrifice my wedding. All they have to do is provide On site rapid testing if they feel the need to. This creates such a problem to my guests.There’s plenty of other things that are able to take place right now that don’t require this nonsense. I’m already doing everything I can to make sure my wedding day is “safe “I’m so sick of people trying to make out my wedding day to be some sort of death zone.I respect your opinion, however I strongly disagree with it. I think this is all getting to the point where it’s just all garbage now

View Quoted Comment They weren’t even doing this at the height of the pandemic. Now that the majority of my guests will be vaccinated by that time they’re going to do it?! No I’m sorry I completely disagree that it’s for safety.

View Quoted Comment Well initially we talked to them about the Covid ambassador administering them and everyone’s car. My wedding is outdoors and the space is so large and vast land and its by the water.And the fact that they have rapid tests but are giving them away to God only knows who instead of my guests and the people that are supposed to be attending a wedding that’s happening at their location is beyond me. I would like to know who they are giving these tests to if they’re not giving them to the people who are attending a wedding at their location for that day

View Quoted Comment My point was that there are states that have it worse (look at New York). Asking guests to show a negative rapid result (which come back within 3-4 hours) isn’t the end of the world. Yes, it is inconvenient. Yes, it is annoying. But it isn’t anyone trying to sabotage your day. Your wedding isn’t being “sacrificed”. Personal beliefs aside, it is out of your venues control. They are trying to comply with the rules that have been passed down to them. If you feel it is that much of a hindrance on your wedding then postpone or have a wedding in a state with less restrictions. Every bride since last March has had to make some sort of sacrifice, it is nothing personal against you.

If they agreed to do this then push them to honor it. Have you spoken with them about why they are now refusing to accommodate you for on site rapid testing?

View Quoted Comment I’ve made tons of sacrifices. And yeah I do take it personally when they state that they have rapid testing on site, but they don’t want to give it to my guests. They weren’t doing this at the height of the pandemic. Now that the majority of my guests will be fully vaccinated they are going to put this on them and me? Yeah they are sabotaging my wedding day. If other brides are OK with this that’s their business. I’m not OK with this for my wedding. And no I can’t just postpone. I’ve been down that road and I’d be losing out on thousands and thousands of dollars that I can’t afford to lose out on

View Quoted Comment I’m going to call her up tomorrow.

And if everyone has a negative test, why the hell do I have to have some idiot from the state babysit my wedding?! They didn’t have this at the height of the pandemic! Now that almost everyone will be fully vaccinated they’re going to do this.

View Quoted Comment They may have a limited number of tests and be offering it to employees (who probably have to have one daily) first. My work has rapid tests, but a very limited supply. So if any of us need testing we have to go to offsite for it. I bet if they had the ability to meet the quantity needed they would give the tests on site but they probably don’t. I’m sure during the height of the pandemic there were other restrictions in place that were more severe. Have you asked if vaccinated guests need to show proof of a negative test? You’re fortunate that your guests will be vaccinated since that is not the case in the majority of the country. I understand you are upset, but there isn’t anything you can do but comply if you don’t want to postpone or change venues. Again, they aren’t personally choosing you over other brides to put this restriction on. It isn’t personal, it isn’t them trying to sabotage your day, it is them trying to comply with the state so they do not lose their business license. It sucks for everyone right now trying to navigate the restrictions and regulations, you aren’t alone.

View Quoted Comment Then I should be fully refunded.

View Quoted Comment I know you are upset, but this is spot on. You have to stop looking at this as a personal attack on you and accept that it is out of everyone’s hands. With a clear mind you can figure out options and plans of actions. The suggestion of asking about proof of vaccination is a good one! If most of your guests will be vaccinated as you said, then this would eliminate the need for testing at all.

View Quoted Comment And thank you for trying to help. I’m just so stressed right now but thanks for being there. My fiancé is so crushed by this news and I think that’s what hurts me the most.

View Quoted Comment I understand where you’re coming from, but just because I’m not the only one, doesn’t mean I should be OK with this. There’s many factors here and play that I’m sorry but I can’t just say ‘oh well such as life’ to. I’m certainly not going to pay for people who can’t get their results in time and can’t come to my wedding. Because I can totally see that happening. If other brides are OK with this then that’s on them, but it doesn’t mean that I have to be OK with it just because other brides are going through this.