I reeeeeeaaaalllly hate those fancy bridesmaids proposals!

I didn't do anything fancy because I'm 1500 miles away from my hometown and didn't want to put together a "bridesmaid box" in case they weren't able to be a part of things. I'm glad I didn't. They all said yes though! So now I can put something together if I want and it can be personal for each of them.

Although I did something cute to ask my bridesmaids, I waited 6 months to do it because I wanted to make sure 100% they were all going to say yes.

Agreed. I just asked my casually in conversation. I've been a BM 6x and never got a BM proposal. And I also agree with your choice to turn down the request. I don't particularly enjoy being a BM. It loses it's novelty after the first time or two. Unless you are really into it, don't say yes.

I didn't do anything elaborate. I just asked. What's so wrong with that? I'm no less happy and excited about getting married just because I didn't make a big production out of asking my favorite girls to be bridesmaids.

Hey, just pretend like you didn't get it.

I find it a little weird and just too much. Like, really, I'm going to wear a dress you picked out and fluff your train. That does not require an elaborate proposal.

Now, if you wanted me to donate a kidney to you, THEN I would expect a poem on proper stationery and maybe some candy.

"We've been friends for so long,
But now my health has gone wrong,

We have the same type of blood,
So won't you be my bud?

I'll fly you straight to Sydney,
Once you've given me your kidney."

BM "proposals" are silly; pinterest ruined the normal way to ask someone.

I'd eat the ring pop, enjoy it, then politely decline.

I confess I am one of those cheesy brides, that asked my girls this way three out of six BM live out of state and five of my BM its their first time being a BM so I wanted to do something special. Of course these are ladies that I have been friends with for years and have remained friends. I did not do it the pinterest way but my way.

I did a cheesy BM proposal But I already knew the ladies I asked would say yes based on previous conversations.

I'm glad that someone posted this. I had asked my girls quietly as to give them a chance to decline but then took everyone to brunch and gave them cute cards and these "cup o wine" things (basically like wine in a capri sun pouch which is great for tailgating). I now find myself stressing about getting robes or something cute to get ready in and its totally unnecessary.

A box full of goodies does not obligate anyone to be a bridesmaid, its something fun to do, but if I really did not want to I would decline as well.

I never knew there was such a thing as a bridesmaid proposal until my best friend sent me an e-mail with a cute picture asking me to be her bridesmaid. I said yes, I was hoping she's ask me after all.

I didn't do anything like that. I just asked each of them in person, nothing fancy. I don't think any bride needs to do a fancy BM proposal.

I am so put off by bridesmaid proposals that if someone ever bridesmaid-proposes to me, I will either decline OR (if I'm close to them) I will talk to them about it. I feel like there's a very direct correlation between brides who do those proposals and brides who have more expectations for bridesmaids than just "wear the dress we picked that fits your budget and show up for the wedding."

Yeah, I've seen these on Pinterest and here on Wedding Wire and thought the idea was kinda stupid. Just ask them in person, e-mail them, hey text them if need be.

I hate being a bridesmaid. I hope to do it for my sister someday & that's it!

Yikes! I never knew.

Thanks for all your opinions.. I need to still ask one of them and I will tone it all down!

I personally think that asking your bridesmaids is an awesome idea. Even if its "over the top" or cheesy....I think its fun. Getting married is a big deal, and being asked to be a MOH or a BM is a big deal as well. I'd feel rude if I just texted them or brought it up in a random conversation. I am only getting married one time and my bridal party is full of the people that mean the most to me. I feel they deserve a little special something and I want them to feel appreciated not obligated. But to each their own!

@Stephanie -- GREAT POINT!!!