I reeeeeeaaaalllly hate those fancy bridesmaids proposals!

I think they're cheesy, personally.

Exactly...add to the fact that the girl who is asking me was a high school friend, that I definitely haven't kept in contact with! We graduated almost 11 years ago, and I think I've seen her once.

Agree!

What was her proposal?

Amber that is weird!! Sorry you have to do that but I would decline too.. even with the fancy schmancy proposal-to-be-a-bridesmaid!!

I hate them too

OOO how I'd hate to be her right now .. LOL

I'm not a fan of those either!

This post just made me feel so much better for the way I ask my girlfriend to be my MOH... I showed her my ring and just asked her on the spot!

What did she do??

I'm in North Carolina. She is in my hometown in Ohio. She just sent a ring pop in a box with a corny poem :-/. I'm just confused. We aren't even a little bit close. I wasn't even planning on inviting her to my wedding. She really must not have friends!

I agree. If you haven't spoke to the bride in years and have drifted apart that makes it so hard to say no once they have sent a proposal!! On the other hand, one of my best friends is getting married and she did a bridesmaid proposal for all of us, but each girl in the bridal party saw the proposal coming since she is close with all of her bridesmaids. In that instance, it was a very nice gesture

That's wierd

The only reason I did one of those proposal things is because I'm close with them & they already knew I was going to ask them anyway. Just thought it'd be a cute way of asking them. But key word there is CLOSE. I don't know how anyone could ask someone they're not close to, regardless of the way they ask. Just puts the person in an awkward position.

Very very awkward! I already have a very hard time saying no to,people!

Ugh that sucks! Is it too late to just put "return to sender" on the package??! ;o)

One of many reasons I hate those things! But it's still better to decline than to say yes out of guilt--and only then discover that she thinks you're going to travel to Ohio multiple times for showers and bachelorette parties (that you pay for, of course), pay for expensive dresses and shoes, help her plan her wedding, etc.

Also agree with this. It is one of the most over played pinterest ideas out there.

These people who "propose" to their BMs act like there were never brides that asked their BMs in a close personal way..

I agree. I made sure the girls I was asking WANTED to be asked. One of my close friends actually didn't want to be a BM, so I was glad I made sure first. Then I wrote them each a special letter and gave them a personalized locket with a picture of the girl and me inside.

Yesssss jeeeeeeeeeeeez. one more reason to not like this idea. AWKWARD

Like a fancy wedding proposal, I think they're one of those things that are just better if you've already talked to the person about it and know they're gonna say yes lol! Because that is SUPER awkward. One of my BMs, who is also engaged, talked to each of her BMs individually to make sure they wanted to do it, knew the expected costs, etc, THEN did something cute, which I thought was sweet and fit her personality. A friend of mine last night showed me a gift box her friend gave her to "ask" her to be MOH, but again they had already been talking about it and she knew she was the MOH. It also had fun stuff in it like candy and wine which I think I would never turn down lol....