I may have to work on my wedding day

If there is nothing they can do for you (which I find to be quite ridiculous), clearly state that the time has already been approved and cannot be taken back. Apologize for the position THEY are in, but unfortunately you will not be coming to work that day.

Try to find someone to cover you in the mean time.

Your boss is definitely a bully and while I understand you don't want to lose your job, she is completely out of line in asking you to wait "on hold" while she tries to figure out how to fix what is HER responsibility. She is completely selfish and if people left, that is her problem. That is why she gets the bigger bucks than you.

Somehow she has the impression she can use you and you are going to have to put your foot down. She isn't going to fire you; she needs you. She can threaten all she wants. But you need to be firm with her if you want to be respected.

Absolutely do not work on your wedding day. Years from now you want to remember that day as a wonderful memory, not a stressful one bc you had to be back at work in time after you throw the bouquet !

ETA: reply back to her email and say "I'm sorry I cannot wait two weeks. I have too much already committed based on your original approval. I wish you well as you find a replacement"

It's illegal to "make" anyone work 7 days a week and you have the right to your vacation time. They have until December to get people in hired.

Good luck, I hope it all works out! You should NOT have to worry about this BS on top of all the other wedding planning stress, ugh.

I would call off sick or get a new job if they're not willing to

Work with you.

"Staffing your facility is not my problem". Lather, rinse, repeat.

I would think that if you have it in writing that your time off has been approved then they have to acknowledge that.

The biggest problem I see is that you allow them to treat you like this. I understand that the OT is great but they know that you will work no matter what. You have to make boundaries and stick to them. They are taking advantage of you because they know you will do it without any blow back. I would definitely look into the labor laws of your state and see if they are breaking any of them.

Good luck!

That's ridiculous. There is no way I'd work for a place that is telling me I can't be off for my wedding. I'd world up until that day and then never show up again.

I'd say peace out to that job! I'm sorry but that's just crazy!

All you have to say is, "You approved this, I earned the time off, and I am taking it." Say nothing else. If they give you bs, just crank up your tone a bit so they know you mean business.

You actually have more power than you think because if you leave, they are screwed. They know that. Take back your power.

You don't work a night shift before your wedding. You don't.

I'm sorry but it sounds like your job has a problem that doesn't concern you!! Their is no way you can even work half of day on your wedding day I'm not married yet but I can't imagine trying to work on my wedding day no way

Do you have an HR department?

Don't freak out! Talk calmly to your boss and hope that they hire new people before December

You're boss is taking advantage of you. You're vacation was approved and nothing else is your problem. Its her responsibility as the authority to get your shift that she approved covered. she needs to work on looking at applications & resumes & interviewing new people to fill these positions. its not your problem. Shes making it yours because you let her.