I have ring envy

I didn't want diamonds (for some reason I was never into bling)...so I always said I wanted a pearl ring..and that's what I got...but then ppl always seem unimpressed...and so that makes me feel weird...and then I start wondering "maybe I should have gotten a diamond?" Idk.... I like pearls better....and when no one is comparing for me ... I am very happy with my pearl...it's very pretty

At this point i would be happy just to upgrade to a diamond rather than cubic zirconia. but FH lost his job and we will be lucky to get the rest of the wedding paid for in time.

I know a few gals who didnt like diamonds and got gemstones or pearls I think its all about what you like. I think pearls are very classy and different

I absolutely love the ring that FS picked out for me. It's the perfect size (for me)

I love the setting and everything.

My only problem is that the band is thick (which I love!) but I'm not sure how I'm going to fit a wedding band on my finger with it!

I've seen rings all the time that are bigger than mine, but I appreciate mine so much more. Maybe because I'm picky? I don't know.

Every time I catch a glimpse of my own hand I get all giddy and smile at it =0)

I love my ring...compared to other coworkers 2-4carats yes it's smaller but my hands are real small (3.5 size and still a lil loose). The sparkle and the shine that the ring reflects would mesmerize anyone man or woman. I caught women with diamond size of a knuckle staring at my ring

FS actually went all out in picking this ring...looking at color clarity cut polish and the sparkle factors. I was very very impressed at the length of research he took and am totally in love with the ring. Not just because it is beautiful but it came from someone who love me.

I'm bragging lol

I was a little freaked about getting a ring and always having bigger ring envy. However, I actually kinda got to pick out my ring, I saw it and my FS bought it later. We went to see what size and shape I'd like, and I figured I'd want one carat. When I saw my ring in the case, I was so taken aback because it was so sparkly in comparison to the other rings and it had the same impact of a bigger stone, even though it is only half a carat! I also LOVE the cathedral setting and flat prongs. I see the uniqueness and beauty of my ring, and I can look at bigger rings and appreciate them, but my ring is my ring. Oh, and I smack it a lot on stuff So maybe I shouldn't go bigger heehee

Carat weight, to me is the second to last C (in importance). First is always cut - you can have a 5 carat stone that looks like a chunk of frozen spit because it was poorly cut, and the angles are all wrong for light reflection...or you can have a 1/2 carat that shines like a disco ball. I know size stands out, but if your diamond is well-cut, you're ahead of a lot of large stone wearers. I agree with you about ring = love. I hand chose my centerstone, we both collaborated with the jeweler who made the setting, to me it's just bling, not a romantic process. The proposal, and the vows, are where the true meaning lies for us. And don't worry - you've got many years ahead for upgrades!!

When my fiance gave me his mother's diamond I was SO excited. Its one carat and it just looked so big to me. But the longer I wear it, the smaller it seems to me! Is that weird?? Its a solitaire tho, so I'm thinking about getting a surround that wraps around it (if I can afford it) or a band with some bling. I feel horrible saying it too (and I definitely won't tell FH, because this diamond is so special)... but I could use some more bling.

It is so encouraging to see that I am not the only one who kinda feels this way. I absolutely LOVE my ring design, but the diamond is a little small. At first I don't think I realized it but this year alone we have been to three weddings, and all of their diamonds are larger than mine. Even if we did upgrade my ring I would only want a bigger diamond, but i would keep the same design. Like everyone else said it is common to be envious, but the love in your relationship is really the only thing that matters. I will just have to get over it,as will you. Cause it isn't like you are going to leave your man over the ring size. When I put it to myself like that , I almost feel silly.

@snaps-you are very right, just because it's big doesn't mean it's good quality. It may have many flaws and look imperfect to the naked eye.

Don't take offense to this post..it has nothing against you it is just MY personal view on it. I love my ring and it's not even real. We didn't see why my ring had to be a diamond. So it's not. It's a CZ..cost us 70 bucks and it is one of the most beautiful things I've ever seen. That being said..I wore a diamond band for over a year (Nov 08 to March 10) and that sufficed just fine. To me..I don't need bling I just needed a representation of my promise to FS. I also can't have too big of a ring because I'm a working mom who 1. doesn't wanna smack my kid in the eye with a giant rock...2. don't want to worry about a couple grand of a replacement if I klink it up and 3. I work where I wear scrubs all day and can't wear any jewelry. So my ring is mainly what I wear "out" since I don't have it on at home. I can understand why some people would have ring envy but I personally love the fact that he was wanting to even put a ring on my finger over the ring itself.

Nicci you nailed it "I personally love the fact that he was wanting to put a ring on my finger over the ring itself." Those are my exact feelings and Libra girl....thanks for dropping that gem "Comparison is the thief of joy" I LOVE it!

The ring I got from FS is perfect, in size and all the diamond qualities. It's internally flawless, and I would prefer that over a bigger diamond. Quality to us is more important than size. It sparkles a lot!

And well said Nicci!

You have to wear this ring the rest of your life- it's a bit selfish- but forgivable.

My FH and I went rign shopping together. He and I had pretty different tastes. I liked alot, but they weren't for ME. I found 1 I fell in love with, it was in our price range, but there was no way he would buy it in front of me.

He took me back to the store 3 weeks before he proposed, and it was gone! I literally cried! Fortunately the stinker had already bought it,and I was lucky.

Your FH will understand. As long as your are understanding of budget constraints, I think this is something you can talk to him about.

I hope no one takes offense to this but this type of thing is what made me NOT want an engagment ring at all. I hate what the represent- i.e. i'm bought and paid for with a diamond and the whole diamond engagment ring thing was a marketing campaign created by the DeBeers company to sell diamonds. Now I think if people feel okay about that then they should have a ring, it's just not my thing. And the whole idea of being jealous of the size of someone else's engagment ring to me is really sad. That's like saying that the more he loves you the bigger the ring...

Kiera- I completely understand how you feel. Its natural for girls to compare to other girls and compete.. Its not a terrible thing, I really feel like its in our nature! We have straight hair, we want curly hair. Curly haired girls have the curls, but they want straight hair. If your FS doesn't care about upgrading, then do it if that's what you want. My sister is the least bratty person in the world. Her DS bought her ring with the money that he had, and it wasn't the greatest thing but its really pretty. However, the quality of the diamond isn't the best- it has a dark spot and a few "scratch" looking things. She talked to him about it and at their 10 year anniversary they're going to go to a jeweler and get a new diamond placed into her setting.

And if it makes you feel any better- I just read your ring description and I'M jealous! I have a 3 stone ring (which I LOVE and its gorgeous!) but I've always wanted a solitaire!

Bink, if the prongs don't look right to you, have a jeweler check to make sure they are not bent (you could lose the stone).

I have the same thing! I wouldn't say that I want to trade mine in, because honestly, I'd hate to part with it... But I've become incredibly more aware or everyone's rings. I feel like such a brat sometimes.

You're normal. It's normal.

Anne Marie L.- Nah, the longer I wear mine the smaller it gets too. hehe.

Nicci- I agree with you about it not representing love. I've pretty obvious about that. I admit, almost in a crude way. I think of my ring as a symbol to the outside world that I'm taken. That's it. It's not that if I had a bigger ring I think people would think my man loves me more. The ring represents my man, practical. =)

What I'm saying is....Its kinda like my man bought me a honda and I want a lexus. He bought me a honda, cause he's a reasonable guy, not because we were going into debt over it. Plus, the ring has just a bit more sentimental attachment than that, but not much. It's just a ring.

Ashley P.-I think when you say, "its your love that matters" or something to that effect, you have a different view on the ring then I do. You're relating the ring to love. Bling doesn't have anything to do with love for us. Its just bling! =)

Kk- for years I've wanted straight hair. I'm just now digging my curls. Part of it might be competitive. Part of it really is just aesthetics. Like I like red better than orange. I like bigger over smaller when it comes to jewelry, even my collection of costume stuff!

I suppose to make it clear, I almost wish I had a fake so I could have a bigger one. 'cause I like shiny stuff, like a squirrel. Really thats my relationship to my ring. =)

Bink- yeah, do check the prongs!