I have ring envy

I had the opposite effect. FS got me a 2ct princess solitare and I would always scratch myself with it and get it caught on stuff so I downgrade to the ring I have now. So, I kinda know how you feel just in reverse lol

Hey I feel that same sometimes I love my ring and I actually picked out a few he saved the card with the item number and then went out and purchased them but when I see some rings with more little diamonds kinda makes me want those but I am only wearing the E ring I have 2 bands that came with so Im just kinda anxious to wear all 3 to create that super bling look but I think its natural to always want what you don't have I have the same feeling about my dress I LOVE it but I keep looking at more gown its self torture !!! lol

I love my ring and the FH has mentioned maybe along the line (for an anniversary or something), he'd upgrade it to something bigger if I wanted to since Tiffany & Co have an upgrade program. I think to some extent you'll always feel a little ring envy but it subsides over time.

I love my ring. I am not happy about FH dragging his feet about getting my wedding band made. It looks like I might not have one if he takes any longer. I have FH envy!!!

I love my ring but everytime I look at it, the prongs holding the smaller diamonds look all wrong. Like they're not straight. IDK, maybe it's just me.

I am going to play devil's advocate - It's not the size of the ring, it's the size of your heart and the love it brings. It's not ring, it's what the ring symbolizes.

I look at it like this: I really see no need to break the bank to buy a huge ring. Sure it looks great and people see it and say "ooh...look at that ROCK", but other than that, what do you have? Wouldn't it be better to take that additional money and use it for a down payment on a house for those newlyweds in the market, perhaps an upgraded honeymoon or even to splurge on something for you at your wedding? Heck, start an account for your unborn children... you get the point. If you have it to spend, go for it but I see other options.

All the best to all of you.

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The fact my fiance picked out my ring is more important to me than how big it is. I had nothing to do with it and it's perfect. people upgrade for their anniversary all the time, just wait a few years and suggest it then.

I understand how you feel but the way I see it, there's no shame in wanting a nicer/bigger ring. I don't care if people think I'm vain or shallow because I told my FS, the way I see it - I am an investment and if I am going to be stuck married, wearing a ring, it better be something I love!

I actually picked out my ring myself and my fiance surprised me with a proposal after he secretly purchased the exact ring I picked out months later. I have a vintage ring with a 1.71 brilliant cut diamond in the center and in the settings - there are a little over .30 diamonds. It's beautiful and I can definitely say I am the envy of my girlfriends...I have the best fiance ever!

I don't think I've seen any rings I like more than mine. Not even bigger diamonds. I love the look, the cut, the shimmer, the setting, the size, and the uniqueness of my ring. It's perfect I'll see bigger diamonds, and be like "WOAH!" but then look closer and realize I like my ring way more than any of them.

I feel the same way, but I always remind myself that if we *did* upgrade it, where would it end? Would I always be wanting to go just a step higher in size? Will I never be satisfied? My diamond isn't that big, but it's what he gave me and I love him and I love it.

I don't equate the ring to love at all actually. The proposal yes, the ring, no. WE wanted to get married, but I wanted the ring. So, to me, its just a bling stating I'm taken. So, the size doesn't equate to the amount of his love at all.

I just like bling. What can I say? =) Its purely aesthetic.

I had a huge diamond (from a previous marriage) that I sold just weeks before I got my ring. I was in the store one day and decided to look, ended coming home with my ring (it is actually a solitare and a wrap that we had welded together) it is tiny, and I love it. Our wedding bands are totally different, his is white gold with a black celtic design on it and mine is pink gold with a paisley design on it. I haven't seen it "in person" yet but we will be ordering it next winter if all goes well. . . . .

I had that a little bit. But he knows me better than myself and this ring is just perfect for me. I have grown to love it!! And I picked out my own wedding band that complements it so well.

I got a very blingy wedding band! And that's what I will wear daily when I have to take care of my future babies! ;p

I just can't even imagine wearing a down payment on even half of house in CA on my finger! No way!!!! I'd be scared!!! and I might get jacked totally.

I STILL have ring envy...lol. I tried pulling the "2 months salary" thing with him, and he wasn't going for it. He's like, "Do you enjoy the house you live in? Do you enjoy your car you drive? Do you like taking the vacations that we take?" LOL. Which, obviously, I do. He paid cash for my ring that I picked out (since he knows how picky I am) and I gave up buying my dream wedding band to get our master bathroom remodeled. It really is just jewelry, at the end of the day. Nothing can truly replace his love and commitment for you.

"You know the size of the ring reflects the size of his.... and weather or not hes compensating kind of like the guys in big trucks theory"

Gee, this would explain why my wife and I didn't feel any need for diamonds at all! ;-)

Everyone gives the comparison of the ring and his love. I never really saw it like that. It's just bling!!!

I would never want him to struggle for the purchase by any means and to be quite honest, its OUR money. We've shared money for a while now and I'm the a much bigger penny pincher than he is! He didn't get me a bigger ring, simply because I never specified and he had no way to relate it...like he doesn't know if my ring is on the big side or small! He's not very observant when it comes to stuff like that! I just wish I would have said something. I mean its not a big deal, just something that I think about. Like I wish I told my mom 10 years ago that I hate ice cream cake. I get an ice cream cake every birthday that I go home.

You can upgrade later. It'll give you something to look forward to Delayed gratification is a good thing

DS told me to pick out what I wanted because he didn't want to get me something and me not be happy with it and from past experience in past relationships most men don't pick out stuff you end up liking anyway (in my experience) unless you specifically tell them what you like so I'm okay with the one I have.

Thats wat i like about the these forums, all my questions get answered cos we all have similar problems, i feel the same way sometimes, but then by reading these posts i remember that he designed it himself just for me...I love him

I totally agree with you Kiera! Some gals like bling some don't. I love my ring but I love to check out everyones rings too. Just like we all like to see each others dresses tiara etc