I find it so heartbreaking!

I agree... My parents have passed away, however I do have a big family. I have three brothers and two sisters. My brothers dont really care one way or another. My sisters on the other hand.. OMG... My sister told me to my face that she hates the dresses I picked out... Really????

Shara I'm sorry that your parents passed, I understand that hurt!

Really, dresses? I hate it when everyone gets snippy, snotty or down right bitchy over a dress they will wear for a few hours! I swear hearing some of the bridal party stories, I want to force them all to watch 27 Dresses, the part where Kathryn Heigal says "a good bridesmaid does this and that"... oh lawdy! Some people! Lol

I remember my son once telling me that he had assumed growing up that all parents were pretty much like us--that they tried to do what was best for their children, even though they might make some mistakes. (He knew my parents hadn't been like that, but he assumed they were rare exceptions.) It was only when he got older that he realized that just how bad some parents were.

I don't think it's specific to your parents' generation, unfortunately. I can trace the bad parenting in my own family back several generations.

One thing I'm proud of is that I didn't continue the tradition. Although my children's father and I divorced when the children were 11 and 13, we continued to work together to coparent them. My son's father and I escorted him down the aisle at his wedding, with no drama.

I agree 2d bride, it is not just their generation, it just seems more of their trend as I am basing it off of our ages, ya know? Bad parenting goes back to the beginning of time lol

I am happy to see that you work with your ex for the greater good of your kids. Wish more parents would.

Big hugs to you all! I can relate!

Hugs mags! Hey did you see the post I made for you? It had a funny pic that reminded me of you.

I'm so sorry to hear that Kasey : ( Do you have an aunt or cousin that is close to you, and you can embrace their help and support? Or does your FH has a sister eager to help? I found my wedding planning has brought me closer to my FSIL who is super fun, and has been talking to his mom for me. Also, I have been getting more family time with my Aunt and FH's cousin.

Nope! I do have a awesome moh though. My moms bff is standing in my moms place for us and walking me down the aisle.

I am sorry that you are having to deal with that. I hate drama and am pretty much luckily that I don't that too much. Only because my parents are willing to pay for my brother's family to otherwise my SIL pretty much told me that her niece first birthday in October was more important than my wedding because they were going to Disney to celebrate. And brother is not man enough to stand up for his side of the family.

I was very lucky that neither sets of parents had an drama with them. But then my parents hate that kind of crap and would never do that because they had to deal with it from my dad's parents (mostly his dad) when they got married and that was 35 years ago.

Usually by tradition the couple gets married in the church of the bride. Well my mom is Catholic, so my parents were going to get married in the church which my mom had attended all her life. Well my grandfather (my dad's dad) had a bad experience with some Catholics (he is United) when he was younger and said he absolutely refused to attend the wedding if they got married in a Catholic Church. So my parents got married in the United Church. My mom's grandmother who was old-school Ukrainian Catholic couldn't care. Her view "God is everywhere, so what ever church you want to get married in is fine."

So, from this experience my parents were open to whatever we wanted to do and did not create any unnecessary drama.

I am right there with you on the not understanding what's going on thing. I see it so much too and it makes me mad and sad for these people! I am so lucky to have a future family that loves me to death. They loved me before they even met me because they saw how much someone in their family loved me. they are supportive and excited for us. My mother passed away but I have a supportive father and he is also happy for us. I have 5 brothers and 2 sisters and most of them have contributed money to our wedding already but the ones who haven't sent congratulation cards which meant a lot.

My biggest fear was getting involved with someone who would hate me or run our lives, our wedding, our kids based on what I've seen and heard here and a million other places. It breaks my heart that people are not as accepting as they should be nor do they give chances. It also breaks my heart that people are so hateful and for NO reason most of the time.

I am so sorry for all that you are going through with the loss of your mother and lack of a father and future in-laws from hell however I hope that you realize when you and your FH get married it's you and him together as a family and if his family can't love you or accept you then you don't need them and he should be able to put his foot down for you and fight for you. You don't need a family that's toxic, just the family you are creating with marriage

I thankfully have families that like both of us. Now mom isn't pleased my biological father is invited because he didn't raise me and didn't even meet me until I was 20 or so.

It's already been laid out on the table, I'll have the people I care about invited, regardless of the stupid choices others have made I will not be punished for it. We can all behave for a few hours and if we can't the park has already told me they will throw people out to keep the peace

It's much harder when it's against your spouse-to-be though because its not like you can tell them just to avoid each other... Some parents are just like that

I think that we should start a new business. Rent a happy family. Where you can rent a set of parents to be at your wedding and be happy for you. Maybe it could be like having a wedding planner or a doc. So you could have a mom for the full experiance or just the DOP day of parents.

@MJ, I'll be the first client. I don't speak to my father, and my mom passed away 20 years ago. I've been meeting with vendors who want to know what kind of parent pics I want. I hate saying I don't have parents.

We have been through the same with our future son in law. The DJ said you need to think about songs for the mother son dance etc. I emailed him later and said there are no other parents. He promises he will slide right over it without anyone noticing.

Mine too. His family loves me but my family doesnt care for my DH. Its sad cause when I told them about my ceremony they brushed it off but his dad wanted to try to come. Its hard but I always got my friends who are like my family. They keep me going

I count myself lucky.. have awesome parents and FILs... my FH comes from a big family with 3 step sibs and 1 bio bro. I haven't had an issue with any of them. they appear to like me and don't tell me otherwise or anybody else for that matter. my family love my FH, I only have a lil bro but he tried to not like him but couldn't, only because he's my bro and felt he had to protect me LOL...

Oh I totally understand, FH doesn't even know my damn name! It really doesn't brother me anymore because they are truly p.o.s's but it used to kill me I think for the fact that A. this is the 1st time a large group of people don't like me, and B. this was his family. My only parent passed away last January so I won't have a parent at my wedding and it hurts when the DJ brings up father/daughter dance. I have to explain that my dad passed away. I just go with the punches at this point, his family will be invited to the wedding I just hope they get my name right. Be happy, and at least they aren't your bio family that is the way I look at it!

Luckily my family really loves my FH and they get along great. As crazy as it sounds I have yet to meet FH's mom and dad. I have met his brother, but that is it! We live in Oklahoma and they live in NY so that has been a battle since his parents will not travel out here. We are supposed to go meet them next month...I pray that it will go well. I do not know what I would do if I was in some of the situations I see other girls/guys in on here. I truly do feel bad for people who have to deal with that sort of drama when they are trying to enjoy one of the happiest days of their life.