I find it so heartbreaking!

My purpose of this post wasn't to vent on myself and our story. Thank you all for the support! Fh does fight for our relationship. It was his choice to not invite them. It breaks my heart as well because I want him happy, but clearly he isn't with his parents and their attitude.

My post was just talking about how many couples there are out there without that family support. It is so saddening. It seems like some parents do not care about their childrens happiness these days.

While reading your post and all the comments I feel truly blessed that both of our families are very supportive and everyone gets along well. Even my late husbands family that I still stay in touch with thinks a lot of FH and get along well.

My parents have both passed away, so I don't have that part of my support system. I'm finding myself missing them a lot more than usual when working on things for the wedding. Always wishing I could still call them to get ideas, ask questions, etc. But I can only imagine how much harder it would be to have parents that are at odds or sabotaging the planning and happiness of the whole wedding process.

We don't do drama, so even if there was any, we'd nip it in the bud right off.

I admit, I am so happy when I see people talk about how great their families are, but part of my heart aches because I just wanted a family. Since my mom died, I was looking forward to having that motherly role back in my life. I was so crushed when I discovered that they hated me. When I asked fh why, he said it was bs reasons like I'm older than him (big whoop, by 4 years 10 months), I have kids (again so what, he has a son too), I'm plus size (and! Fmil is no skinny mini either), but you see it was petty bs. Not to mention that fh's baby momma decided to make up lies and while they claim they didn't believe her, its in their mind. Like she told them that fh abandoned her and their son for me, when actually, she kicked him out of the house that my fil owns. FH and I were bff's and he needed a place to stay, he came to my house, as time went, we fell in love. When she found out, she got pissed and started the lying. Sadly that is a tiny fraction of the bs. Life goes on though.

I can relate. My FH mom hates me, always has. I have been with him for 12 years, since we were 14 and 15. His dad told her she better start being nice to me, because I will be her future daughter in law one day. She told him "Not if I have anything to do with it!". Well she is a completely different person around her family.. I have 2 children with my fiance, who she never sees. Once her family is in town she brings them by our place to show them what a great grandma she is. Now she is creating her family's side guest list to our wedding with her mom. The woman is nuts. She changes the way she acts towards me so randomly, and other times she acts like im her best friend. Its really odd. Luckily her family is really great, love them! FH dads side is pretty great too, so im not going to let the one bad seed ruin what we have

My mom on the other hand, just wishes I would get married in a court house and call it a day. She thinks its pointless for us to have a wedding, and "waste" money

Is your fmil bipolar? Lol goodness! Talk about flip floppin emotions and personalities! My heart goes to you. Hugs!

I went through this with my ex. Every little thing was a battle. It did improve once we had children, surprisingly. Then I left him so I went back to being the evil one.

The truth is, no one would ever be good enough in ex-MILs eyes for her son and it was never about me personally.