I f*cking hate my sister.

And I just reread that, and it sounded really immature and angry, but I legitimately can't stand her sh*t anymore.

Have you told her that demanding to be your MOH one of the main reasons she won't be? You need to put your foot down with her. She'll come- your parents will make her.

But that whole situation sucks.

Whenever I attempt to talk anything wedding with her, she just tells me that she doesn't care. That she's my MOH or she's not coming. I then tell her that MY wedding doesn't revolve around her, and she says, "Thank God." Well, if you don't want MY wedding to revolve around you, then why the f*ck are you doing this?

Sarah: She's definitely not. My MOH is my roommate from college. I've already asked her and she's great.

I told my sister, who will be 17 when I get married, that I was asking someone else to be my MOH because I didn't think it'd be fair to put that much responsibility on a 17-year old and I didn't think it'd be fair that someone else fulfills all the MOH duties, but doesn't get the MOH credit. She understood.

What's the age difference between you and your sister? She's obviously going through a b*tchy teenage phase. Maybe she just feels left out, because she's at a different stage of life than you. I know my little sister definitely has had those feelings when my brother got married and when I got engaged. She just feels like she's being left behind.

Brian: She's been like this the entire time she's been alive. When my dad asks her what her problem is, she says that I ruined her childhood. The only problem with that theory is that a) I was never around due to the age difference and b) I actually separated myself from the family for a few years due to some issues. According to my dad, she's no better when I'm not around. Her friends are actually sweethearts, so I don't know what they see in her. Perhaps she just hates her family??

She's just so freaking petty!!

Shana: She actually thinks I'm an idiot for getting married. She's really pretty, and insanely intelligent, and I respect the hell out of her, but she can never return the favor. She doesn't even respect my parents. And she's always been like this. The other night she said that she doesn't even want a boyfriend anymore because she "doesn't like people enough" to date. We're...five (?) years apart. And I can't see how it can be a teenage phase, as she's always been like this.

You don't live with your sister or your parents right? That's what confuses me. I have two baby brothers (and six step brothers/sisters, but I never met them until after I'd been living on my own for a couple years.) that I used to fight with constantly. And it would get REALLY bad. Right now they're 21 and 17. (two years and seven years younger) My 21 year old brother and I used to throw punches almost every day. But as soon as I moved out it's like they totally chilled and now the three of us are best of friends. FS and his sister (who is three years older than he is) were the exact same way. So I just assumed that that sort of thing happened more often than not. Why is she still so bitter? Weird. *hug*

Yeah I totally get that Bright Eyes, my sister and I were like that all since we were kids (also 5 yrs apart) and up until I moved out/ didn't see her as much, she chilled out a bit. And when I got engaged she went into crazy mode, I also had picked her to be my maid of honor, even though she's 19 and doesn't have a job, I planned on doing most everything myself anyway so I didn't have a problem. But I would text her to see what she thought of an idea, and she say something like "IDK", "sure", "whatever" so it was no help whatsoever. So I finally just started getting a bit annoyed and asked her flat out. "This is what it's going to take for you to be a MOH, you need to be there for me, being a positive influence in the wedding, take time to come looking for DIY stuff, dress shopping ect, and if you're not up for all of this let me know now so I can find a replacement, and you can step down." My sister said she wanted to be the MOH and I haven't had a problem since.

I don't think I'd have her be a part of the wedding at all. Not a BM and definitely not a MOH. She hasn't earned the right to be. How can she think that you'd want her as a MOH when, as you said "That she's my MOH or she's not coming. I then tell her that MY wedding doesn't revolve around her, and she says, "Thank God.""

That's just crazy.

She's 17? Turn her over your knee!

She could also be depressed or diabetic and lashing out at people. Is it "normal" teenage behaviour or do you think there is a mental issue? Don't have her as your MOH. You need to trust your gut.

This makes me sad. I know you're angry...but you know what I do when someone just gets under my skin? I pray for them. It's spiritually beneficial and takes much less energy than hating them.

If I had a younger sister doing that to me I'd deck the b!tch straight in her face. I am 6 years younger then my next sister up, I've got 2. And me and her hated each other with a passion growing up. It was because she was the baby for 6 years then I came along. One day I got so mad at her that I took the remote control and bashed her in her face until her boyfriend and my oldest sister pryed me off of her. She made me sooo angry. But now, many many years later, LOL, I am almost 25 and she is 31 and we get along pretty good, have even been roommates. So I'm not real sure why she is so hostile with you, it could be jealousy?!? I am not really sure. But I def wouldn't let her be MOH. I have a useless MOH and its miserable 80% of the time, so I wouldn't want someone else to go thru it 2

This is really sad. The only thing you can do is hope she grows up someday. There's no point in letting her get you angry. Do not argue with her because it sound's like that EXACTLY what she wants. You need to tell her you're sorry she feels that way and you hope she changes her mind because you'd really like her to be there, but you are asking "so and so" to be your MOH. I REALLY hope for her sake (and yours), that she loses the attitude in the future. Otherwise she'll only live a miserable life.

It seems like she has a lot of anger issues. I'm the youngest but I never had very big arguments with my sisters and we are about 10 years apart. I wouldn't expect them to pick me as their MOH. Has you sister seen a therapist or gotten some sort of professional help?

Definitely.. sounds like she needs to see a therapist. Until she's 18, your parents can still make her go.

Carmen: I moved away from home and haven't lived there in years. However, due to psychotic FILs breaking into our apt, we moved in with my parents until our house is ready.

Greyash: My sister isn't just this way with me, though. It's my entire family. She is disrespectful with my parents, and they're just at the end of their rope. No one knows what to do.

Shannon: I know, right? Nutso!!

Libragurl: LOL! I know, right??!

Hillary: She's not like this with anyone outside our immediate family. She just hates us lol.

As far as therapy, I mentioned it to my dad a couple weeks ago, and he said that maybe it's a good idea. But now, whenever I mention my problems with my sister, he just tells me not to let her get to me and that's that. And I get that my dad has four children and a full time job and blah blah blah, but I feel totally cast aside. Like my feelings don't matter. And I get that they're at the end of the rope and they don't know what to do, but seriously? Are you kidding??

Just as an example of the stupidity of my sis. My brother, FH, my sister and I were watching Netflix on the xbox. It was storming out, and we heard thunder and all of a sudden the xbox freaked out and shut down. As did the tv. So FH unplugs everything, plugs it back in, turns it on, and it's fine. So my brother (who is 14 btw) gets a call from his friend from school, and my bro starts telling him about the problem with the xbox. My brother, being the smarty that he is, says that it was probably just a power surge from the storm. And then my sister starts in. "Eli (my bro) you're stupid. There was no lightning, so it couldn't be a power surge." My brother ignores her (good for him) and she gets pissed and starts in on him again!!! "Eli, you're so f*cking stupid. No wonder you were held back when you were younger. You can't have a power surge without lightning you stupid f*ckhead." I mean, WTF?!?! A) He's f*cking 14. B) DOES IT REALLY MATTER?!?!?! I mean, it's an xbox and a kid. Who...

...cares what he thinks made it shut down!?! At least it turned back on, right? She just acts like she's a child. It's awful.