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How would you feel about vaccinations being required for wedding attendance?

Sarah, on April 11, 2021 at 10:47 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 5 158
Alright guys. I know this is heated, so please don't come at me.

My fiance and I have elderly relatives as well as several cancer survivors, and one guest currently battling cancer. We postponed our wedding 12 month for the safety of our loved ones. Our wedding is now in early November.

We've thrown the idea around of requiring our guests be fully vaccinated against covid to attend our wedding. How would you feel as a guest if the bride and groom mandated this?? Are there aspects of this I'm not considering?
Again, please be nice.


Latest activity by Liz, on April 15, 2021 at 2:50 PM
  • Gabby
    Devoted October 2021
    Gabby ·
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    I think that's how a lot of things will be in the future. You will have to be vaccinated to attend certain events. I think it's a know your crowd thing. If most of them will be vaccinated it will probably be fine.
  • Monique
    Rockstar October 2022
    Monique ·
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    Hi depends on you and your husband to be and soon it will be mandatory for everyone to be vaccinated. It's what you feel us best and you said that elderly people will be there and if they are for safety do what's best for you. I am vaccinated but now I'm glad that I am because I just lost my grandmother and everyone has to be in order to attend her services
  • Meghan
    Expert September 2021
    Meghan ·
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    Hey Sarah! When we last spoke to our venue, they said that they’ll be doing temperature checks and staff will be wearing masks. Our wedding isn’t until September so we’re still waiting to see how things are. However, I was in a wedding this past July (before vaccines) and had to have a test done a few days before the event. I have seen people on here purchase bracelets that guests can wear to show their comfort level:

    Does your venue have the option to host the wedding outdoors? Maybe also having more tables with less people at each one can help people stay distanced?
    I totally understand where you’re coming from with wanting to protect loved ones I’m just unsure if it’s okay to make a vaccine mandatory. Wishing you the best of luck!
  • Angela
    Savvy June 2021
    Angela ·
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    I would suggest 2 options because I know some people are very against or unable to vaccinate due to personal or medical reasons. Our wedding is in June and we are requesting proof of vaccination or a negative covid test within the last 48 hours requesting strict quarantine following the test. The same day test is readily available at this point which is very convenient.
  • Katie
    VIP August 2020
    Katie ·
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    Hi Sarah, I like to think I’m a pretty easy going wedding guest so for me, it would be a nonissue. My husband and I are fully vaccinated and majority of our families are as well so hypothetically if we were guests invited to your wedding, we would think nothing of it.
    As a fellow covid bride, I completely understand wanting a safe and happy wedding so I am sensitive to accommodate brides and make their stress as small as possible. ❤️❤️❤️
  • Fred
    Expert April 2022
    Fred ·
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    Hello Sarah!

    I wouldn't attend coz I am against, I will never get it..

    There's nothing wrong with this requirement if you think it will make you and your guests feel safer, in my humble opinion because i ... but be prepared for some "I decline" because of this. I'm 100% sure that some of your guests don't want to be vaccinated.

  • Rebelle Fleur
    Master July 2021
    Rebelle Fleur ·
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    If that’s what you want for your day then go shards and make that a requirement. You will of course loose guests who will refuse to be vaccinated. If you’re comfortable with the that then go ahead.
    Super May 2019
    KYLIE ·
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    What about giving people the option between a negative test or the vaccine. There are people who choose not to vaccine or cannot, so this would be more inclusive.

    I do not think the vaccine will ever be “mandatory”—maybe for certain things in certain places, but not for everyone everywhere.
  • V
    Champion July 2019
    Veronica ·
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    I'm currently pregnant and my OB doesn't recommend I get the vaccine because it hasn't been tested on those that are pregnant. I also plan on nursing once our daughter is born and it hasn't been tested on those who breastfeed so I wouldn't be comfortable getting the vaccine to attend a wedding. The other thing you have to consider is if someone is allergic to any of the ingredients or have had negative reactions to vaccines in the past because they wouldn't be able to get the vaccine either. I think it would be better to ask someone to take a Covid test rather than mandating the vaccine.

  • Hanna
    VIP June 2019
    Hanna ·
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    As a guest, I wouldn't have any problem with this, and in fact it would probably make me feel safer to attend your wedding. Assuming that all of your guests will have easy access to vaccines by your wedding date (right now finding appointment slots in my city is like the Hunger Games), I think your plan is a good idea. I think this is how most events will be in the future anyway. If you know of any guests who can't take the vaccine for medical reasons though, you might consider making an exception and accepting a negative Covid test for those folks. Otherwise I'd agree with your plan. Requiring vaccines will be the norm for the future anyway

  • JM Sunshine
    August 2020
    JM Sunshine ·
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    Your wedding is still some time away but I don't think it's fair for summer brides to impose this, as it takes nearly 2 months to be fully vaccinated and supplies are still limited in most areas. Not all guests will be able to have the vaccine due to shortages, medical issues, or personal beliefs. As with PPs, I think it's fine to ask for vaccine or negative test.

    The posts that bother me the most are the ones who want everyone vaccinated so they can have a mask-free wedding. I understand that, but it's not going to happen. Masks will be around for quite some time irregardless. You can still get Covid (while less severe) even if vaccinated.
  • J
    Master 0000
    Judith ·
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    I would ask for vaccination with a choice of all in masks or socially distanced, if some are not vacinated now. But 2 months from now or in the future, I would say vaccinate, or do not come.
    We have some with PEG allergies who have to wait to get Johnson's. But in the past whole villages of our people died of various childhood diseased or other infectious diseases. And are today at such risk. The future of others cannot be risked, for a wedding party, holiday or other voluntary thing. or other social activity.
  • User2574599655703
    Dedicated June 2021
    User2574599655703 ·
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    We are asking people to be vaccinated to attend. Sorry not sorry.
  • Jasmine S.
    Rockstar May 2022
    Jasmine S. ·
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    My question is how would you enforce it? Is this the venue's policy or just your personal idea?
  • Kk
    Devoted October 2021
    Kk ·
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    I personally don't think that any person has the right to require others to get vaccinated to attend their event. That is a decision that should only be made by the individual and their doctor for a multitude of reasons. Also, being vaccinated doesn't mean that you can't still pass it on, it just means that your symptoms will be less severe if you do get it. That being said, everyone has the right to do whatever they think is best for them and their guests.
  • Monique
    Rockstar October 2022
    Monique ·
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    That may not be a bad idea have tested result a few weeks prior to event date.
  • Monique
    Rockstar October 2022
    Monique ·
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    Fredoline hi so will be happen if and when it becomes mandatory to get it. There are places now that require you to do so
  • Katie
    VIP August 2021
    Katie ·
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    I agree with this. Some people can't get it for a number of reasons. And even with the vaccine people have still gotten covid or worse died. I don't think it's right to try and push a vaccine that has been rushed, hasn't had many studies done on it, and has even had some severe negative effects on people who have gotten it, in order for your guests to attend your wedding. I for one would never go to a wedding that had this rule. I really think you should consider having a second option like a negative covid test.
  • MrsMcK
    VIP September 2017
    MrsMcK ·
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    I think you will need to be a little bit flexible. Some people may not be able to get the vaccine due to allergies or other medical issues - I think you should make an exception for those people and ask them to provide negative test results instead. The vaccine has not been rushed and all the appropriate testing has been done, but there are always going to be some people who can’t receive some vaccines. In addition, at least where I live, it’s been really difficult just to get an appointment (hopefully this won’t be an issue for long though). Thanks for making an effort to keep your guests safe/healthy!
  • Kj21
    Dedicated May 2021
    Kj21 ·
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    Yeah I agree with other posters. Offer negative covid test or vaccine as an option! Circumstances could make it so someone is unable to be vaccinated.

    If you do mandate vaccinations, don’t be surprised if someone lets you know they are unable to vaccinate due to XYZ medical reason and ask to take a covid swab instead. Or they could decline due to the vaccination mandate and not realize a negative test could have been an alternative.

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