How to uninvite the invited

Did you send them a STD? I'm assuming you haven't sent your invites out yet? Or was it more of word of mouth?

Sorry love but that would be in very poor taste. If you have sent them an invitation then you need to follow through. If you haven't sent them an invitation yet then I think you are ok as long as you are willing to deal with the "strange" at work. Good luck!

Just tell them that after lots of consideration and going over your finances, you unfortunately have to limit the guest list to family only. Apologize profusely! lol Im sure they'll understand.

You don't. If you gave them a save the date, or if you mailed them a formal invitation, you can't do anything. Even by word of mouth, it sounds like you've made plans with these folks.

Seems kind of early to have sent them formal invitations, but as you get closer to the date you'll find that not every person you invited can attend. Even people we thought could come rsvp'd they will not be there, so if you invite 90, you'll have less than that.

Don't make enemies with your coworkers...after the wedding you still have to go back to work, and may need strong relationships there.

It was just word of mouth. I have not sent my formal invitations and we didn't do a STD. We have quite a few out of town guests coming so I'm thinking they all may not be albe to make it. I'm sure it will work out in the end. Thanks for the advice everyone!!!

I think since it was more word of mouth & nothing went out yet you should be okay in telling them that you need to keep the list at family due to finances. You should tell them personally how this is the situation & you wish they could be there but it is what it is. They should understand but sometimes you never know who will be strange at work with these kinda issues. GL

Yikes, I wouldn't uninvite, especially an already invited coworker...unless you plan on quitting your job 1st. I hope they would *really* understand if you decided to do that! I can totally see what you mean, but these are the people you'll see more than anyone else after the wedding. Good Luck!

I wouldn't uninvite. Even if it was just word of mouth. I would just hope that enough people don't come. But going two people over isn't going to make or break anything either.

Of all people, I'm gonna say you *might* be able to uninvite. I kinda word of mouth invited an acquaintance, but we grew even more distant than we already were between when I said it and when I sent STD's (and even more by the time invites went out.) So I just didn't invite them.

Have your co-workers mentioned anything about the wedding? Have you been discussing the wedding with them? These things can complicate the matter. Not to mention, you work there so seeing them all the time after the wedding can be awkward.

For the time being, play it by ear. You mentioned OOT guests, so see what happens when you start getting those RSVPs back. You may be able to B-list your co-workers instead.

How many coworkers exactly did you invite? If it's just a few people, it really won't hurt your budget. Especially because not everyone you invited is going to show up to your wedding anyway. Heck, those coworkers may not even show up. But it would look really rude of you to uninvite them now, and you work with them, so just think of how they will treat you after that if you uninvite them.

I'd wait til you start getting RSVP back. Rarely does 100% show, so you may have room for your coworkers after all!

I’m in the same situation. You see someone out and about and they go “I’m invited to the wedding right?” And the words come out like verbal diarrhea “oh yeah of course!” We’re having a fairly small wedding with mostly family. I have a B list of about 20 friends that I want to invite, but I literally don’t have the room, we’re maxing out the venue as it is. The people I awkwardly invited are on the B list. I hope I can invite them, but if I can’t, it is what it is. If you get a no RSVP maybe you can invite your co-workers. I would leave it at that.

Totally rude IMO once you have invited someone (even by word of mouth IMO) you should not uninvite. I would just invite the two that he wants, you will most likely have some not show so it should even out. If anything work them in. After that I would say no more add ons.

You don't. But being tht it was just WOM you can not send them an invite or STD and if they ask jut say you had to keep it smaller than you originally planned. Then go out for drinks one night to celebrate if you want.

Also, don't B-list. Just don't. It's just as rude as uninviting

I agree with all PPs that said you can't. You just really can't uninvite someone. That's why you need to really give it a lot of thought before you send the STDs/invites.

Good luck.

I agree not to uninvite them.