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Catie
Just Said Yes September 2018

How to politely ask for registry gifts to be sent to the shipping address?

Catie, on July 22, 2018 at 12:12 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 1 5

FH and I are currently long distance until our wedding in September. He lives in FL and I live in MD which is where our wedding will be as well as my showers. We've had issues in the past with packages getting shipped to our apartment complex in FL so we've set up our registry's shipping address as his parents house about 25 minutes from the apartment. Currently, the remainder of my personal things will fit in my car post-wedding for the move and we would really like to avoid renting a truck/pod for gifts.

My question is: what is a polite way of saying on our registry pages that we would prefer for gifts to be sent to the supplied shipping address as opposed to being presented at the wedding without appearing gift grabby? Am I overthinking it?

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Latest activity by Rachel , on July 23, 2018 at 1:00 AM
  • Gonnabeaburch
    Super July 2019
    Gonnabeaburch ·
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    My cousin is having a DW and is planning a long biking trip with his FW after the wedding. For their registry they left a note saying "We do not expect any gift, but should you decide to generously gift us something from our registry, kindly ship the item to the given address as we do not have room on our bikes to take these items home."
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  • Kelly
    Devoted September 2018
    Kelly ·
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    I'm in MD too! I agree with the above post. It sounds nice and isn't demanding.
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  • MOB So Cal
    January 2019
    MOB So Cal ·
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    On daughter's registries (Macy's and Kohl's) gifts just automatically ship to the address she entered as the shipping address (our home, rather than her apartment). Guests don't even know where it's shipping to, as some shower guests were surprised when I texted to let them know their gift was delivered to the house. The only way this might be an issue is if people are buying gifts and then shipping them themselves. Daughter had one friend out of state do that -- she mailed the package to daughter's apartment.... I'm not sure if there was a way to prevent that, since she didn't buy through the registry.

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  • J
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    One frequently overlooked custom at wedding time, is sending a small card printed up like a business card, that tells people the exact title, names you will be using after marriage, and your new address after marriage,. Usually phone numbers or email addresses are added. Back to the days when travel and mail were slow, it was and still is permissible to say below on the same card: As we will be traveling constantly from a month before our wedding until a month after, any mail or packages sent from [dates month before to month after, or when you say] should be sent to the home of FH parents so they can hold them securely until we settle in at our new home. Temporary address: B & G , care of Parents' address. Then, we will still be available at our cell phones or email wherever we are (if true.) Technically, the first part, formal new titles and new addresses, is a courtesy, so they won't have to track you down to send any invitations or letters. Thus polite. Since in the past, either bride's family home or groom's family home was where letters of congratulations or gifts were sent before the wedding until moving in date after the honeymoon, designating a temporary address has always been accepted. Just say, mail and packages, not all the gifts! Most people can figure it out. Some will call you to ask., and you explain the problem and they usually get it. This card may be sent with the invitation, as is the rsvp card. After the wedding, any friends or relations not invited, should get a wedding announcement card, old names, date and city married, then below, your new correct titles and names, your marital address. Nothing more needed, though okay to enclose a note or small picture. May be an engagement photo of the two of you, not wedding, if you want it printed before wedding photos are back.
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  • Rachel
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    Rachel ·
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    I agree with the above post, on most if not all registries you can leave a note. So you could totally say something without sounding demanding or having to put it on the invite or something. Just out of curiosity are people able to see your full address when they check out?
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